Tipping on the Wedding day!

OK.. so ladies.. what are the rules?
Who gets a tip and who doesn't?

I assume the Maitre D does.

What about the photographer if he's the owner.. does his assistant get a tip?
The Bartenders?
Offficiant?
Videographer?
Bridal attendents?
Reception hall owner?
Musicians?
Limo driver?

What about the guy who cleans the toilets? (Then again.. what if your reception hall has no toilets????)
The guy who collects the toll on the highway?
Family memebers?

OK.. now I'm joking... Seriously who does.. and who doesnt't.. Not worried about the amount because I think I know what's fair.

Now here's a tip for all of you.....

Nice guy that I always am imparting my "wisdom" to all of you!!!!

If your FH asks to use a feather on you, that's kinky! If he wants to use the whole chicken, then.. that's perverted!!!! haha

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I have yet to figure it out

Martha says

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Posted by september2004

I have yet to figure it out

Martha says

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pretty much everyone...

its your option whether you want to tip the servers, bartenders

the banquet manager doesnt get tipped..
matre d $1-4per person
bridal attendant $100-150???
if your at a church the priest and alter boys are suppose to be tippedl..
limo driver tip if good job..(theyre already suppose to get the 20% included)
florist delivery tipped maybe $20...
photographer/videographer tipped if you want(and you may want to wait to see the finished product)

tips add up quickly, and dont forget to budget vendor meals....

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but what if there is a gratuity included in the hall price. From martha's article it seems its not neccessary, but my parents dissagree on this one. Dad thinkgs no tip for MAirtre d bar tender & waiters , but mom thinks tip everyone even though there is a grauity included.

Is it just a smaller tip then? Who does the 18% go to anyway?

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Posted by tourist

but what if there is a gratuity included in the hall price. From martha's article it seems its not neccessary, but my parents dissagree on this one. Dad thinkgs no tip for MAirtre d bar tender & waiters , but mom thinks tip everyone even though there is a grauity included.

Is it just a smaller tip then? Who does the 18% go to anyway?

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Message edited 2/2/2004 3:39:49 PM.

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Serioulsy, it's so confusing. At this point my only defitinite is the bathroom attendant. Actually with that I'm not eve sure- I thin there is just one in the ladies room-I'll have an envelope for the men's room anyway, in case there is an attendant, the guys will have to let me know.

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Is it true that if the vendor is working for themsleves then you need not tip them, FMIL said this to me. Is it true? I was only planning to tip the bridal attendent if she was very good

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if they own the business, like some photographers, no need to tip, but the bathroom attendant you would tip even if she isn't an actual employee of the hall.

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I believe that the 18% that the hall charges...go to your waitstaff...servers, etc. The matre'd needs to be tipped separately. As for owners...I'm not sure what I'm going to do...

By the way...I could be wrong...if anyone else knows that right answer...please advise! Thanks.

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I was told by my catering hall that the gratuity is for the wait staff, etc. The Maitre'd and Bridal Attendant get separate tips which are not included in the gratuity fee. Matire'd SUGGESTED tip is $2-3 pp. and Bridal Attendant I think was $1-2 pp.

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I agree with neesiepie - No need to tip waiters and bartenders when you are paying gratuity.. it gets too crazy and too expensive.. but someone who goes out of there way or above and beyond esp. the bridal attendant &
maiter'd are another story.

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thanks all

Luvsun- I don't think theres a "right answer!"

Neesiepie, your response is the most concise & straight forward I've heard & since it comes from your hall ( and was seconded by Soon2BMrsZ), I think I'll use it as my guide line.
I always lumped the Mairtre D in with the waiters.

Shows what I know. . .

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my hall said that the 18% gratuity will go straight to the waiters/bartenders so i dont need to tip them..
i know not all halls actually give the money though, might be good to ask...

matr d isnt covered, bridal attendant isnt covered..

banquet manager shouldnt be tipped, theyre already getting commision..

if the vendor is their own owner, some people dont tip because they figure the person gets a profit, others think they should tip them anyway for a job well done..

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So guests shouldn't tip the bartenders then? I thought at my cousins wedding everyone at Watermill was tipping the bartenders. Strange...I thought they were part of the gratuity.

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guest can tip the bartenders...

the one thing i dont like is when the bartender has a tip jar out, it makes me feel guilty if i dont tip.. my hall told us they dont allow the tip jar and that any tips the bartenders will place in their pocket

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Posted by butterfly20

guest can tip the bartenders...

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the one thing i dont like is when the bartender has a tip jar out, it makes me feel guilty if i dont tip.. my hall told us they dont allow the tip jar and that any tips the bartenders will place in their pocket

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