Fewer people than guaranteed

For our August 12th wedding at the Swan Club we had to guarantee 165 people. At the time we thought this would be no problem. We invited 200 people. But because of a family squabble (whole other issue), people having prior commitments and single people coming alone we are coming up about 20 people short. Has anyone had this problem? Is there anything that can be done besides inviting people off the street? LOL...just wondering. Thanks for all your help. This board is really great!

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Fewer people than guaranteed

A friend of mine got married at the Fox Hollow last year and about 10 people didn't show up the day of the wedding. She had to pay for them, but then to make up for it, the Fox Hollow gave her gift certificates for their restaurant. The food is good there, so it wasn't such a bad thing and she at least felt that the money wasn't completely being wasted.

If you could find out who this woman is that would be great! I rarely wear makeup and I know I'll need something on the day of the wedding. I'm afaid of looking too made up.

good luck! :)

Fewer people than guaranteed

We're concerned about the opposite problem. Our minimum is 150, the room holds about 185-190 and we've got 210-215 on our tentative list and some that Fi's Mom said would probably not travel in for the wedding have already asked about the hotel arrangements, told us they are making the trip to our wedding their anniversary vacation, etc.

Some sites only offer vendors meals at half off if you reach your minimum, so it's possible that your vendors will end up counting towards that, which could end up adding a few to your count. At least that slightly minimizes paying for empty plates.

Fewer people than guaranteed

There was what could have been a wedding disaster in our extended family many years ago. The biggest snow storm to hit New York in ages and no one from out of town could make the wedding. The family made phone calls asking if anyone would be interested in attending their wedding just not to have all the dinners go to waste. Inlaws and friends who weren't invited to attend were asked that day. In large families you can't invite all the family members much less friends to your wedding. They had no problem finding volunteers willing to attend. There are a lot of people who enjoy going to weddings. The bride and groom did quite well and had a great wedding in spite of the weather. They received gifts from those who attended and those who could not. They look back on that day with fond memories.

Fewer people than guaranteed

First of all, I must say, its horrible that people dont show up for weddings ! I would have to agree with Dawn, maybe some people can bring a companion or good friend. Or maybe there are people (maybe neighbors, close professor from school ?) that wouldnt get offended if they were invited at the last minute. It would be a shame for that to go to waste. Of course make sure it's someone that you would like to be there, dont just invite for the sake of filling a seat ! But first check with the catering hall to see what they would do "if" that happened.

Good Luck !

Fewer people than guaranteed

I am having the same problem we guaranteed 110 because we really didn't want a big wedding. We invited 132 and so far we have about 36 people who responded no who said they were coming originally and now they say oh we are going on vacation but most poeple knew about my wedding since last year so I just don't get it. I am still waiting for RSVP's but even if everyone says yes now we still won't have enough people. I am also finding out that a couple of people have not received their invitations in the mail and yet they have not come back to me and they were sent out almost 3 weeks ago. Another problem is I don't even have extras because as we were getting no's we were sending out more invitations to other people who were not on the original list. I spoke with the catering place and they said we have to pay for what we guaranteed.

:) As far as a song, I am picking an Italian Song (anyone Italian might know "Ti Sposero Perche" -its a beautiful song that says "I'll marry you because"...and its a huge favorite...) and the 2nd song i'm letting him pick...(he's not ITalian so its bad enough that he has to dance to something he doesnt understand ! LOL )

Fewer people than guaranteed

Just tell some of the single people that they can bring a date.

http://free.prohosting.com/~laus/inv.htm

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Fewer people than guaranteed

There are no single people coming really maybe 1 or 2 and they are bringing people. Wonderful my luck.

http://www.weddings.co.uk/moncheri/mon770.htm

Now we can start with the details like flowers, bridesmaids gowns, veil, etc.

Fewer people than guaranteed

Yeah I am noticing so far that most of my single guests are not bringing people.

we are making our own invites. we bought the paper from paper direct.. they have a web site and catalogue.. here is the web site:

http://www.paperdirect.com/

Fewer people than guaranteed

I think people are feeling less out of place as a single these days, especially if they know other people at your wedding. These days, you dont have to have a partner to dance - 3 people can get up together or a bunch. I'm glad because I was just discussing this with my fiance as we compiled the guest list. He was adding "and guest" to every single person and now I am realizing that it is OK to invite a single as long as they know others.

http://www.paperdirect.com/

Fewer people than guaranteed

I was originally planning on inviting my single friends without a guest but then my fi thought it would be better to invite everyone with a guest. Meanwhile it turned out most of the people we invited guests with arent taking guests. I am still waiting to see if out-of-towners are coming to the wedding. I know I have a minimum at my place. We invited 230 people but so far we got back half the replies. Our place has a 175 minimum so if we are under the minimum we will start inviting people at the last minute I suppose.

I think people are feeling less out of place as a single these days, especially if they know other people at your wedding. These days, you dont have to have a partner to dance - 3 people can get up together or a bunch. I'm glad because I was just discussing this with my fiance as we compiled the guest list. He was adding "and guest" to every single person and now I am realizing that it is OK to invite a single as long as they know others.

http://www.paperdirect.com/

Fewer people than guaranteed

This may be an off-the-wall suggestion, but if you run out of options, how about offering the empty seats to other LI brides for the cost of the plate?

Given the plans to meet and become friends, it could be fun. Fill the table with LI bride and their intended. I'd understand the need to cover the plate cost and it's less than a night of dinner and dancing in town. It would be a great opportunity for others considering the site or already booked their to scope out the facility too. And it kind of feels like we're friends already (or siblings, the way we bicker sometimes) :-)

I'll see how Grandma's pearls look with it too.

Fewer people than guaranteed

I was going to suggest the same thing. We brides do think alike huh?? :)

It's a Mon Cheri, from an earlier collection and I had to search to find a pic. Finally found it on their UK site.