Is anybody's FMIL going to be at their house the day of the wedding?

My FMIL lives in Florida, and she was on the phone with FH, and said that the day of the wedding she wanted to come to my house to see me and the bridal party. Am I being mean for thinking that this is a time for my parents and I, and my bridal party?

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I think its nice that she want to see you get ready, but is she going to spend sometime with your FI while he is getting ready? I am actually getting ready at my FMIL house b/c I live with my FI and my mom lives in an aprtment to far away to get ready there.

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I don't think she plans on spending time with him. I feel bad thinking like this, but she makes me nervous to begin with. She lives in Florida, and we're not very close.

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I think that is awesome that she wants to see you there. I would not say no to that. It shows she wants to be part of the whole day. I am sure that day you will have a lot more going on than worrying about her making you nervous.

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Maybe you should ask FI if he would like her to be with him...maybe he will need help with his cufflinks or whatever....

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I'm actually getting ready at my FILs house because they live on the water and the pics will look beautiful. I think my FMIL will probably leave early to come to my house to be with FH before heading to the church.

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I actually want my FMIL to come to the hotel but she says she is going to go get the church ready and stuff so she can't come

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hmmm, i may be in the minority in thinking this, but i think i would feel the same way about wanting to have time with just my parents and girls. it's not anything against my fmil, i just think that's her time with her son, and my mom's time with me, and then we all come together at the church (or wherever you are getting married). i don't blame you for being a little uncomfortable about the situation. maybe your fh can point out that he'd like her with him? how does he feel about it? if she insists i definitely wouldn't refuse but i can understand your discomfort.

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Posted by Lorena

hmmm, i may be in the minority in thinking this, but i think i would feel the same way about wanting to have time with just my parents and girls. it's not anything against my fmil, i just think that's her time with her son, and my mom's time with me, and then we all come together at the church (or wherever you are getting married). i don't blame you for being a little uncomfortable about the situation. maybe your fh can point out that he'd like her with him? how does he feel about it? if she insists i definitely wouldn't refuse but i can understand your discomfort.

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I too would feel uncomfortable and want that time to be spent with my family.

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I agree that it is a time for YOUR family, It is a natural feeling for your parents to feel like they have to share you now and this should be their time alone with you, but maybe I am just being mean too!

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I think that is so nice for her to want to be there. I want all the ladies at my house before my wedding. I hope my FMIL comes to my house.

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I agree I would want the time with MY family and stuff.

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I am kind of going through the same thing. My FMIL wants to be at my mom's house with me and the bridal party the whole time that we are getting ready. She won't be with FH at all that morning. I may sound mean, but I don't want her there with us. I have had a very hard time with her and all her negative comments about the wedding planning. So I don't want to have to deal with her negative energy when I am trying to get all ready for such an important day in my life. I talked to FH and he is going to say something to her - like he wants her to be with him. He completely understands where I am coming from because he has been dealing with all the negativity from her as well.

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Posted by Lorena

hmmm, i may be in the minority in thinking this, but i think i would feel the same way about wanting to have time with just my parents and girls. it's not anything against my fmil, i just think that's her time with her son, and my mom's time with me, and then we all come together at the church (or wherever you are getting married). i don't blame you for being a little uncomfortable about the situation. maybe your fh can point out that he'd like her with him? how does he feel about it? if she insists i definitely wouldn't refuse but i can understand your discomfort.

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I totally agree. Although our wedding is over 2 years away, I know that I do NOT want my FMIL at my house when I get ready. Its my time to be with my family and my bm's, she can spend the qt with her son & her family. I have no major probs with my FMIL now, and I stress now, but I know that I want to be with my mom & dad on that day.