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Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

divabride Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:22 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:22 PM

Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

A couple of years back I was seeing this guy from work, and no joke - I really cared for him. Later found out he had a girl and I called it quits - but I still cared about him and I was hurt pretty badly. Since then we havent spoken, and he aviods me like the plague. Wife just came in and introduced herself to me. Are you kidding me? Here I am minding my own business, swamped with work and Im interrupted by someone I dont care to know. She supposedly was 'looking for her husband' and was wondering if I knew where he sat. Out of all the desks, she had to come to mine? For some reason I feel sick. Old feelings coming up. Can you guys make me feel better, I feel like crap right now.

lilmrs Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:23 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:23 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

I know this is easier said than done but let the feelings come out and roll off.

kel2004 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:23 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:23 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

That sucks. Try to think about all the good things about your FI, and why he is so much better than this guy.

You are much better off without that loser.

AJsMommy122 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:23 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:23 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

the past is the past. You are marrying the man of your dreams

Everything happens for a reason

diamondgrlie Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:28 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:28 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

Wow. That is very strange... I wouldnt worry about it too much b/c of the reason the other girls said, you are getting married to your true love and whats in the past between you two can be a memory but no need to dwell on where this guy is wandering and why the wife needs to look for him.

nferrandi Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:33 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:33 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

I know it can be hard to shake free of old feelings and past relationships, but try to focus on your future with FH. You broke things off with this guy when you found out he was a cheating lier, so you're obviously not missing out on anything with him.

neesiepie Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:37 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:37 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

It was a shock

and caught you off guard. I think it's normal to feel the way you do.....
just ride it out and you will feel fine. Call you FI and tell him you are having a rough day and need to hear him say he loves you and make him be mushy....you need lots of

jfabbride Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:43 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:43 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

You have met a great guy. Don't let yourself get worked up over a loser that would cheat on his girl!!!

divabride Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:44 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 02:44 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

I dont think its so much as how I used to feel for him. It was how badly I was burned from that relationship. When I found out he had a girlfriend, I was throwing up for days. Now Im getting that quesy feeling. But the fact that she purposely came to MY desk to ask for her 'husband' really upsets me. This was done on purpose guys, Im no where near his desk!!! I dont know, Im just emotionally everywhere right now, upset, angry, stunned, embarrassed. Ugh. But your all right on the money. Im marrying my sweetie pie, who treats me like a diva princess. I wouldnt want to be with someone that I know cheated on me. I wonder if she knows the extent or our relationship?

MrHostility Posted: Apr 28, 2004 03:37 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 03:37 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

Strange coincidence.

I feel the opposite. When I ran into my ex(who dumped me), when I was with my fiance(was gf at the time), I felt good. Like I smite her by having someone 1000x's better than she ever was, that loves me for who I am. I will admit it was awkward at first.

My sister later ran into her, and told her we got engaged in Disney World. Apparently she was crying...not sure why when she herself was married 2 years ago. Then again I really don't give a damn either. My point to all this is...who cares! You got the one you want, I got the one I want. Let's be happy for that, right?

shelly3950 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 03:43 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2004 03:43 PM

Re: Bad situation..feel awkward and a lil sick

I totally understand how you feel. It was just a shock. I agree with Nesspie. Call your honey and tell him you need some loving. Why think about that ******* and cheat- and the poor woman who married him when you have your own great guy? Just ride it out- it takes time, but the shock will wear off.