I hate to be constantly complaining about my shower but.....

I am now fully involved in the mess!! It is my dad and sister (MOH) who are supposed to be organizing. At least 3 or 4 different people have asked me what the hell is going on!! Neither my dad nor my sister has ever asked for a list, asked where I was registered, or tried to check our availability. My FH took it upon himself to actually e-mail them a list on Sunday, asking them to PLEASE keep him informed and turn to him for any help (he has done this a few times by the way) He has yet to get a response. From what I hear, every time my dad is confronted on the subject he replies that "everything is being taking care of" and quickly changes the subject. I wish I didn't know anything about this at all but now people are turning to ME, yes ME, about my bridal shower and how screwed up everything is and how not one thing has been planned. They are also complaining neither my dad nor my sister has a straight answer for anything!!! By the way, I know this is not all a decoy; people who no me well know not to have me worry like this!! How do I keep from getting upset about this? My dad and sis refuse to communicate with anyone!!! Thanks for letting me vent anyways.

Re: I hate to be constantly complaining about my shower but.....

Can you tell people to ask your sister? Can you say "I really don't know anything about it. Maybe my sister will know".

Can you ask your sister to please step up to the plate and communicate with your FH b/c the whole thing is making you crazy?

I am sorry you are going through this.

Re: I hate to be constantly complaining about my shower but.....

Unfortunately, there's really not much you can do. You can talk to your dad and your sister, but outside of that, your options are limited. I know this is a terrible time for you to be under extra pressure and you should just let them know that. Also, if it will make you feel more at ease, tell them you don't need your shower to be a surprise and offer to help them plan it. I'm sorry, that's the best I can think of right now.

Re: I hate to be constantly complaining about my shower but.....

Thanks ladies for the responses!! The problem is that, when confronted, they assure anyone and everyone that things are fine and taken care of (when they obviously aren't). They are too proud to ask for help when they really need it!! I am also afraid to say they don't know how to do this!! My dad is a 67 year old widower. While I love him to death, he really doesn't know how to plan a shower (nor should he)!! My 21 year old sister is way too busy out drinking and partying to help the man out!!!!

Message edited 6/30/2004 9:24:37 AM.

Re: I hate to be constantly complaining about my shower but.....

If that's the case and you don't want to step on your dads toes, then you may just have to let it go. There's a possibilty that you may not wind up having a shower. I doubt that, but it is a possibility. My dad is 67 and wouldn't know the first thing about planning a shower, but I know he would come through with a party, even if it strayed a bit from tradition. Good luck! and vent away if it makes you feel better to get it off your chest!