Help! My cousin wants to bring his 3 month old

We originally wanted no kids at the wedding. We have a ring bearer (6) and a Jr. Bridesmaid (11) who are my 1st cousins flying in from Paris to be at the wedding. However, they were the youngest, and only, children invited to the wedding.

I just got an e-mail from another relative that he is going to come in from Florida to come to my wedding, but he wants to bring his 3 month old daughter. They don't have any babysitter in NY and since this is not thier home, I don't think they will be able to find any. The only people who could possibly babysit (his parents) are also coming to my wedding.

I guess I will tell them that we didn't want any kids at the wedding, but if its between them coming with her, or not at all, we would rather they come. Any other suggestions?? I really hoped I wouldn't have to deal with this.

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That's a tough one. Maybe try to find one for them in NY. If not I would say to bring her. They are flying all the way here for the wedding.

Kim

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That's a rough position to be in, but if you don't want any kids at the wedding you shouldn't be forced into making any exceptions. Maybe you could respond to the email by letting him know that there won't be any children at the wedding and including a list of professional babysitting services in the area? The last thing you need is a 3 month old crying while you're walking down the aisle or during your first dance.

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Posted by jenniesunshine

That's a rough position to be in, but if you don't want any kids at the wedding you shouldn't be forced into making any exceptions. Maybe you could respond to the email by letting him know that there won't be any children at the wedding and including a list of professional babysitting services in the area? The last thing you need is a 3 month old crying while you're walking down the aisle or during your first dance.

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Thats a good idea, but two problems- A) I don't know any professional babysitting services in the area (if someone does, i will be happy to investigate) and B) If I was a parent, I wouldn't trust my child to anyone I didn't know.

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Thats a good idea, but two problems- A) I don't know any professional babysitting services in the area (if someone does, i will be happy to investigate) and B) If I was a parent, I wouldn't trust my child to anyone I didn't know.

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I don't know much about it, but I'm guessing that you could contact a reputable nanny service and find out if they have babysitters? When my former boss was looking for a nanny (I don't remember what agency she used), she made sure that she found one that provided a lot of references and conducted a thorough background check. Hope this helps!

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People with kids coming in from out of town is a toughie. You might just have to deal with it if they are a close relative. Perhaps you can let them know you are making an exception for them (maybe they'll feel guilty and make other arrangements) but also tell them you'd appreciate if they sit WAY IN THE BACK during the ceremony, and if the kid starts to act up, would they mind bringing him/her outside. As for the reception, I cannot imagine loud thumping music is great for an infant? Not sure how to handle that one...

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i feel for you i called my aunt to ask her if i should invite her stepchildren who are adults 26 and 32 and she said not to and then i told her that it was really only 18yrs and older (she has 2 boys 12and 14) but i am not inviting them because then there would be too many kids then ....i know she was like if i eliminated her 2 stepdaughters and guests i could add her too but then that is not fair to everyone else
GRRRRR family!!!!!!

Re: Help! My cousin wants to bring his 3 month old

what about her parents? that's a tough situation, I wish I could think of some better advice

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Posted by jenniesunshine

That's a rough position to be in, but if you don't want any kids at the wedding you shouldn't be forced into making any exceptions. Maybe you could respond to the email by letting him know that there won't be any children at the wedding and including a list of professional babysitting services in the area? The last thing you need is a 3 month old crying while you're walking down the aisle or during your first dance.

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Agree

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Posted by bogiedmb41

what about her parents? that's a tough situation, I wish I could think of some better advice

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Her parents live in Ohio, and are not coming to my wedding or will even be in NY.

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What about hiring someone who can hang out in the bridal suite with her or in another room. That way the parents can go and check on her whenever they want.

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I have a 3 month old nephew and I am telling you they really do not do much but sleep, ecpsecially around large crowds. It is better than a 2 year old or 3 year old who will be running around all over the place. Most likely you will not even know the baby is there. i can understand the mother wanting to bring the baby, especially if she is a first time mother. I would feel Very uncomfortable leaving my baby with someone I did not know ecspecially far from home.

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I don't think you have much to worry about if they bring a 3 month old. The baby will not be running around at all and the music will be so loud you won't even hear the baby crying. Most babies actually sleep when there is loud noise, such as music. If you really don't want the baby there, maybe you could call your local high school and see if they know any responsible girls that babysit. I remember when I was in high school we used to have a board for girls to post that they would babysit over the summer. And if the mother doesn't feel comfortable leaving the baby home with the babysitter ask the babysitter to come to the reception and watch the baby in the bridal suite or another room you hall could provide.

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My FSIL just had a baby and he will be at our wedding (he'll be 4 months by then). I'm kind of upset about it because my FH's family is spread all over the country and they never get to see the baby so he might steal some of my thunder (can you believe I'm jealous of a 4 month old!) but they are from NC and there really is no one else to watch him, and in a way I want him to be there (he is my future nephew and all). I think 3/4 month olds are usually pretty quiet and sleepy so I would just allow it.