New Mom Here

Hi, my daughter (JP&EP) told me about this site and I figured after reading for quite a while I'd join in. My daughter's wedding is not til 7/06, however, just about all of her vendors have been booked. She is engaged to a very nice young man who is in the US Navy and just recently left on his ship towards the Middle East. This is the reason that most of the vendors are booked so that he could have some input while still stateside.

My eldest son got married 2 years ago. I had to plan that wedding in under 5 months (He is Army), boy was that a learning experience. You really do pick up the do's and don'ts quickly.

Amy is our only daughter so this wedding will be very bittersweet for us. She is not only leaving home for the first time she will also be leaving NYS right after the wedding to join her future DH at whatever Naval base he will be stationed at that time. It hurts just to think about it.

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Welcome mom!
It is very difficult to marry off our children. My son was married this past Sunday, July 4th and my daughter will be married on October 31st. they are my only children and letting go was most diffcult for me. It was a tearjerker. But you will be fine.

My son has been deployed with the Army since January 2003 and I consider myself very lucky that he is stationed in Albany. I live upstate NY so he is only 2 1/2 hours away from me. My DIL will be moving up there with him.

The had a very nice, very different upstate wedding. Diffenently not Long Island style, but it was nice. Mountain top ceremony, cake reception. No flowers, no achol, but lots of dancing, tears and laughter. While we were having our mother/son spot light dance, we both cried, nothing new for me, but it was very touching when he looked into my eyes and I had to wipe away his tears. I didn't want to let go.

My daughters wedding willbe the tradition LI wedding at the Miller Place Inn. I'm excited for hers, 112 days to go. The only thing she has left to do are the tuxes. Shes wonderful!

The other moms here are fantastic! Its a great place to meet new friends and a great place for us to compare notes, vent, brag and show off our weddings. Its GREAT! Again, welcome.
Gina

Message edited 7/9/2004 1:49:06 PM.

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Welcome Mom,
These weddings are bittersweet for all us parents. I am so happy for my daughter that she has found a wonderful guy that she loves so much, but she is my baby (she would hate me saying that), and always will be and I will be filled with so much emotion (and tears).
It will be so hard for you to have her leave right after the wedding, hopefully he won't be stationed too far away.
Rena
Let me just say her wedding will come around before you know it!!! When Kelly got engaged it was 15 months away, now it's less than 5. It has flown with so many details to take care of. Good luck and have fun with all the planning.

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Welcome! I have my son's wedding in October and my daughter's next June. You will find alot of tips from this website. (especially from LIMom)

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Welcome Amy's mom. You have an amazing family for them to be devoted to keeping our country safe so the rest of us can be home and near our loved ones. My gratitude and prayers are with your son and FSIL, along with all the men and women who are away from home now. I know you are very proud of them. I too hope your FSIL won't be based too far from home, and with God's speed it will be for a very short time.
As for planning your son's wedding in 5 months, I'll make you smile at this one. My husband and I planned our own wedding in 5 weeks. That was 37 1/2 years ago. I was in my last semester in college and my husband was in grad school. When we gave me the ring on Thanksgiving Day he had it all figured out and said we would get married the day after Christmas, which was a Monday and a legal holiday. No matter which vendor we looked at they were available, and priced very reasonably. Yes indeed! The reception was $11.95 a person at a very formal and elegant catering house. I don't think we had cocktail hours then, but there were 2 or 3 choices for dinner and the fancy dessert of cherries jubilee with the flaming swords ceremony. Do you remember how popular that was, or am I dating myself here? There was no time for comparing and second guessing yourself. You woke up each morning knowing what had to be done and it was crossed off the list that night. The hardest thing to book was the honeymoon because of the season, but a very nice agent took pity on us and worked hard to get us a week in Bermuda.
It turned out we also had a major snowstorm the day before and there were almost 10 inches on the ground. The highways were partly closed and I was 45 minutes late to church. My daughter saw the invitation and then saw the clock at the back of the church in one of the pictures and was shocked that her mother would be so late for her own wedding.
What amazingly happy memories!!! Thanks for letting me share. I hope yours are just as wonderful.

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Thank you ladies for all your well wishes and responses.

LIMom - Wow, 5 weeks to plan your own wedding you certainly are a pro at this by now.

I am happy to say that my son should be leaving the military this coming September. I am quite excited to get to see our Grand daughter who is now 1 and the last time we saw her was when she left NY at 10 days old. They will be with us for about 1 month and then plan to relocate to Florida.


As for my future son in law he is now officially under water (submarine) so contact between my daughter and he are limited to some e-mails. She seems to be ok for now though I know she misses him.

Kelly's Mom I agree that time passes by very quickly. People often comment that we "have so much time" and should wait to book vendors etc. I for one am glad to have the major vendors settled, now all we have to do is pay $$$$$ (not so fun).

Mom needs tissues and LI Mom - I saw the pictures you both posted of your children's wedding they were both great. The Westbury Gardens look beautiful for pictures.

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Thanks Amy's mom. Time does pass quickly and booking early is the wisest thing you could have done. Plus prices do go up, so you locked in current rates for many vendors. Now you can focus on the small details and make the wedding reflect your daughter's style. You'll get lots of ideas on this site for making things, if you happen to be crafty and have the time. I loved making lots of the things for my daughter's wedding.
If you need any help or suggestions, we are here. Just ask.