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hbradio
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Member since 11/03 9840 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/29/2005 4:00 PM
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Chateau Briand
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Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
My step-moms cousin gave me information for a florist that she used to live next to and is still her friend. We went to visit the florist and there is a possibility that we are going with her. The decision will be made in 2 weeks when she shows us a sample centerpiece.
My step-moms cousin was not on the original invite list. Our minimum (and maximum since we cant afford more) is 125 and the guest list is already at 165. But I feel that if I use her florist friend, it would be nice if I invited her. But inviting her also means her husband, and her 3 kids and their wives/significant others, and her parents. Thats 10 more people.
My step-moms cousin my sound far off to some but I grew up with them and I see them more often than I see my own real family! They are very sweet people and I feel bad that they are not invited.
My dad told me not to worry about it - just explain to them that the wedding is small, etc.
Do you think it would be possible to invite 10 extra people at the last minute if I dont make my minimum? Or should I just invite them anyway and hope that I dont go over my minimum? What should I do!?!?
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Posted 7/30/04 10:32 PM 
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suven
Sunny skies on my wedding day!
Member since 8/03 5968 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/30/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck: A
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
Why can't you just invite the cousin with her spouse?
If it's not possible to invite just th 2, I say B list all 10 and once you get enough declines, invite them.
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Posted 7/30/04 11:01 PM
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butterfly20
married over 2 years!!!
Member since 3/03 10672 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Manor East
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
i would say just invite the cousin with her husband.... they will understand that you dont have room for the others......
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Posted 7/31/04 12:43 AM
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pinkgirl
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Member since 9/03 732 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2004 7:30 PM
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East Wind
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
It does sound like a lot of people. But the problem is that you have to guarnatee 125 and you aren't inviting much more then that! If you get a bunch of no's then you will be under 125 and still have to pay for that amount! (that happened to my dad!) SO I say go for it if you feel so close to these people.
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Posted 7/31/04 4:24 AM
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JenniferLee111204
I'm Mrs. R!!!!!
Member since 5/04 1330 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/12/2004 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
i am going through the same thing. the guest list is stressing me more than i couldve EVER imagined.
I would say to only invite the cousin and spouse. i think they will understand. talk to your step mom to see what she thinks!
good luck
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Posted 7/31/04 7:08 AM
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Rob-luvs-me
It's A Sickness!
Member since 10/02 5027 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/24/2004 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Cherry Valley Club
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
I would just invite the cousin and her husband why would you have to have 10 people?
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Posted 7/31/04 9:16 AM
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diamondgrlie
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Member since 2/04 10473 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club - A+
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
Before you decide on inviting them or not inviting them, maybe your stem mom's cousin could somehow mention the situation so she will understand if she doesnt get an invitation?
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Posted 7/31/04 9:19 AM
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jill13bean
Where did the time go?
Member since 1/04 2894 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2005 7:30 PM
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The wedding of my dreams!!!
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
Why would you have to invite the kids????
I would just invite the cousing and husband
I am only inviting whole families if i am close with the whole family. I am actually inviting families -1. If i am not close with a sister and brother why would i invite them?
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Posted 7/31/04 10:32 AM
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june262004
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Member since 1/03 12014 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/26/2004 2:30 PM
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Swan Club. Rosyln Harbor L.I. FM for details!
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
I agree invite just the cousin and spouse. Why would have to invited their kids. I must admit that we had a guest list of 288 and only 164 wound up coming it was graudation weekend!
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Posted 7/31/04 10:53 AM
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teacherwheart
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Member since 8/03 160 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/8/2005 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Thatched Cottage
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
Just invite the cousin and husband and end it there, Don't stress yourself out.
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Posted 7/31/04 12:04 PM
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hbradio
Our board is gone :-(
Member since 11/03 9840 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/29/2005 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Any advice on this wedding guest problem? (long)
I guess I should have explained further....
Her "kids" are not kids at all, but they are around FH and my ages, and when there are family gatherings we all sit together the whole time and talk. FH has really gotten close with one of their FHs as well. Ugh....its so hard.
I think I am going to sit down and really look at my guest list and if I cant fit them in, I am going to talk to my step-mom and dad a little more about it.
I guess I wont even have this problem if I dont go with her florist!?!??!
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Posted 7/31/04 1:14 PM
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