*Marymoon* Please read my last reply. TIA

What kind of gift do you give for a second wedding? Which happens to be a shotgun wedding. I just gave her a nice monetary gift 2 1/2 years ago for her first wedding.

No this is not an episode of Jerry..I got the invite today in the mail.

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Something small off the registry. @nd weddings are expected to be simpler. Depending on how fancy the wedding is, I'd get something inexpensive, like $100 from the registry, if that much. Maybe I'm cheap, but...

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Posted by marymoon

Something small off the registry. @nd weddings are expected to be simpler. Depending on how fancy the wedding is, I'd get something inexpensive, like $100 from the registry, if that much. Maybe I'm cheap, but...

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I don't even want to spend that much. I can't believe I am even expected to get her something. I got the invite today and the wedding is on the 29th. She is 3 months pregnant and wants to get married b4 it shows.

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I was actually going to say $50 at first, but then I changed it, thinking about how I'd feel guiltu about bringin 2 people to the wedding and giving a $50 gift. However, I think $50 is probably more approproate. I guess I just didn't want to see cheap. My first instinct was $50 though

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My FH doesn't even want to go. He says this 2nd wedding is ridiculous and they are only doing it to get money. Which I believe is a true statement. And to send out invites today for the 29th is rude. But, like I said a shotgun wedding.

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As you said, I would consider not even going. Where is the wedding? I've seen 2nd weddings as during the day, not very expensive, intimate affairs. If it's a big to do, then it's efintiely asking for money. however, if they are having a big party, they do have a right to celebrate as much as any other couple. Still, since you gave them so much last time, I don't see why you need to again..

I'll be punctillious. This is accoridn to Emily Post's wedding etiquette


Q: I am invited to a friend's second wedding. I went o the first wedding and gave an elaborate gifr. Do I have to give a gift the second time around?

A: Although family members-and some very close friends- usually give a gift to a bride being married for the secnd time, frineds who gave gifts the first time around need not do so. if it is the first marriage for the groom, it is fine for his family and friends to give the couple gifts
If I couple is being married again and prefer that guests forgo gifts it is considered incorrect to include that information on the invitation; the word that gifts are not expected should be spread verbally.....

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TY marymoon, I fwd'd that to my other friends who were invited. I also added that at this point it might be more appropriate to send gifts for the baby to their home. Oy!