Bridesmaid drama-Advice needed PLEASE!!

Message edited 1/19/2005 2:36:08 AM.

Re: Bridesmaid drama-Advice needed PLEASE!!

I think you need to sit down and talk to her about how much this is bothering you. If she can't understand the the BP is going to be family only but you really want here involved by doing a reading then maybe you should retract the offer. I think I would.

I think if she understands how the way she's acting makes you feel she might change her tune - or at least I hope so!!!!!

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IMO she is being a child. U arent having any friends do this. And if a church reading is meaningless then you are a meaningless friend. Besides the fact that anyone who goes to church and says that they doe "meaningless" church readings all the time needs to reavaluate y they even goto church! I would tell her since it's meaningless she doesnt have to bother todo a meaningless thing. How Rude. Any normal person would understand that you are only having family in the bridal party!

Message edited 8/26/2004 2:15:27 PM.

Re: Bridesmaid drama-Advice needed PLEASE!!

I just think her feelings were hurt, and she doesnt know how to deal with it the right way.
Maybe sit down with her again and talk to her.
Doing a reading is not meaningless, she may do this at church but this is for your wedding.
I think she is harboring some pretty hurt feelings and just said that to be spiteful.

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I think you are right to feel the way you do. She is acting silly and should feel honored that out of all of the people you were unable to include you have chosed her to take part. SHe should be grateful. I am so sorry you are going through this!

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While I think you need to sit down and get this straigtened out with her-- I have a suggestion..

I read this on the knot or something and thought it was nice touch.. This girl mentioned that she wanted to really include all her sorority sisters- and do somethign special cause they had a special friendship.. Anyway- she made all of these girls "honorary bridesmaids".. where each of these girls was handed a red rose, when they walked into the ceremony. The flower had a note attached to it with a personal message of what they meant to you, blah blah..

Also, I think it mentioned all of their names in the program..

Basically- I think this girl did it- cause there were too many people to "honor" so she found a special way to give them a little attention and point out to everyone else that they are special.

I thought it was a nice touch- and this may be a way for you to feel less guilty about including some of your friends..

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she has to understand why you kept the bridal party to family only... FH and I had a similair situation picking my MOH and his BM... we didn't want to choose between friends so my MOH is his sister and his BM is my brother...
I think a true friend would understand you reasoning... and just be honored to be asked to participate in the wedding itself...

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Posted by randella

While I think you need to sit down and get this straigtened out with her-- I have a suggestion..

I read this on the knot or something and thought it was nice touch.. This girl mentioned that she wanted to really include all her sorority sisters- and do somethign special cause they had a special friendship.. Anyway- she made all of these girls "honorary bridesmaids".. where each of these girls was handed a red rose, when they walked into the ceremony. The flower had a note attached to it with a personal message of what they meant to you, blah blah..

Also, I think it mentioned all of their names in the program..

Basically- I think this girl did it- cause there were too many people to "honor" so she found a special way to give them a little attention and point out to everyone else that they are special.

I thought it was a nice touch- and this may be a way for you to feel less guilty about including some of your friends..

I like this a lot!

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Re: Bridesmaid drama-Advice needed PLEASE!!

Thanks so much ladies! I truly appreciate the advice. I think I am going to sit her down and have a talk with her.