Why do I keep regretting picking my MOH (sorry vent long)

I just called my sister (a BM) to ask her about my MOH's dress. It took so long for her to pick out a dress that after awhile I told her I didn't care what it looked like to just get one. Well my sis tells me that my MOH isn't returning any of her phone calls and that my three other BM's are planning my bacherlorette party.
I don't even know what to get her as a gift because I feel like I don't even know her.

Ok I can understand not being financially stable but I gave her the ultimatum that if she felt as though she couldn't afford everything in order to be the MOH than please let me know before it is too late.

Oh and did I forget to mention she has never been to NY and will be here for 9 days but says she doesn't want to go site seeing very much because she can't afford it. Umm you have known you were coming on vacation for 18 months now.....


Now what do I do...I am so confused, hurt, upset and disgusted all at the same time

Re: Why do I keep regretting picking my MOH (sorry vent long)

So wait a minute, DOES your MOH have a dress??? You just don't know what it looks like -- but she has it right?

I know how tough it can be having OOT BMs if they don't cooperate -- and I'm just talking about returning phone calls. I can't believe how inconsiderate she is being with 2 weeks to your wedding!!

I think at this point all you can do is let it go. You don't need the stress and aggravation right now. I don't know how important the dress is to you, but maybe you could send her an email requesting a picture, description, anything. But that's it. There's nothing more you can really do and it's not your fault. Buy her a gift you feel is fitting and end of story.

I know that everything will work out though!!

Re: Why do I keep regretting picking my MOH (sorry vent long)

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Posted by Julestrd

I don't even know what to get her as a gift because I feel like I don't even know her.



I am a little confused....why is she your maid of honor if you feel like you don't know her enough to even get her a gift.

Did I miss something or do you mean you don't know her anymore because you didn't expect her to act this way...