Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

At first, I wasn't enjoying this process. The planning. But now, I am starting to like it. But I am afraid to like it, because afterwards, there's no more planning. It is scary to think that I might be depressed after the honeymoon, or during. I love my honey, and I don't want to ever lose sight of why we are doing this. But the planning can consume you, and the whole point of the day be diminished.
Also, I am a bit of a perfectionist. I want my wedding to be the best in the world, and unlike anyone else's. Yes, I know it is going to be a different wedding, just by the nature of the couple (he and I), but I want my guests to feel some type of difference, something to remember-all good of course. I want mine to be the best wedding ever, not because of money spent, but because of the special touches.
What special touches can I add, along with the ones I already thought of, and what can I do to prevent any downtrodden moods after the wedding? Any suggestions?

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

Annie - people who love you will remember your wedding because it was YOUR wedding. And they will talk about it for years to come. :o)

Re: afterwards. It was a little weird for me and took a while to taper off the huge momentum I had in planning. But now? All that energy is built into my marriage, my home and my family (and work too - LOL!). Think of all the hours a day you spend planning your wedding day - think of all the wonderful things you'll be able to do with that time! And being married - being his wife - is so much more romantic than being a bride. Trust me on this. You'll see...

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

Annie,

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

Thank you...I appreciate the response. I am looking forward to being with him.

Kate
what company did you use? or did you make them yourself?

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

Glory,

Thank you for your response. You are so sweet to do so, and so detailed at that.

I will think of an activity to commit to after the wedding. Maybe another art class...and loving my sweetie.

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When are you geting married???? If it is within a few months, you can always come and plan my wedding...or maybe you have found a new calling in life :-)
Seriously though...

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

No problem.

Any major life transition is difficult. Its good that you are being realistic in expecting a transition post wedding.

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Thanks for the message Mike. I may be Ok afterall. You wouldn't know of a church, other than the Historical Chapel, that'll let me bring my own minister do ya?

No problem.

Any major life transition is difficult. Its good that you are being realistic in expecting a transition post wedding.

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

what religion??? I am Catholic and I am bringing not just one but 2 outside priests who don't even live in the area!

Any major life transition is difficult. Its good that you are being realistic in expecting a transition post wedding.

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

I am a non-denominational Christian, but I was raised as an Episcopalian. I have a church home, but it is so far from the reception site. I am looking for a church to hold approx. 200, that will let me bring the pastor from my church. Any Suggestions?

Congrats! I am glad things worked out. I know you cant wait to go get it!!! I am sure its gonna be spectacular!!!

I'll let you know!

Post-Nup Depression/Perfectionism

Annie,

getting past the planning

Annie,
You are def on track to start thinking about what to do POST planning.
I commend you on WANTING a perfect wedding...but dont drive yourself crazy trying to accomplish this. What you will wind up with is a cranky bride, an upset groom, and guests noticing how unhappy you are.