total vent about bridal party!

I NEVER EVER fight with my friends- but i asked what was going on with the bachelorette party and nobody seemed to know. -- am I supposed to plan this?
I was under the impression that the bridal party did.

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Maybe they are trying to surprise you?

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did you plan your own b-party?
should i say something to them?

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My brother's wife is planning mine but only since she hates Vegas and is afraid we will go there. But I'm not sure who is supposed to plan it. I think the bride is usually involved to some degree.

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no they are def not- we were going to go to Mohegan sun but that didnt work out... i think it is a case that everyone else is waiting for someone else to plan everything.
that is why i am not sure if i should just do it already.

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Why not? It's better than missing out on a fun time with your friends.

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I think that your BM's should be planning it-- along with your input. My BM's are already planning mine- although I was explicit with what I wanted-- but, they have asked me for emails of everyone I want there, etc. and we have a date picked out in January.

Maybe your BM's didn't know they needed to do it? Before you get all pissed at them-- talk to one of them you can trust to tell them what you want, and make sure it will get done!

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Posted by sunshine1120

did you plan your own b-party?
should i say something to them?

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I don't think you should say anything just yet b/c maybe they are trying to surprise you. You never know. I know my bridesmaids are planning mine. They have already started collecting info on my friends.

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I would question them about it. I too thought since no one told me anything about the party it was going to be a surprise. Come to find out when I did finally question them about it. THEY PLANNED NOTHING!!!

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Posted by Sweetness

I would question them about it. I too thought since no one told me anything about the party it was going to be a surprise. Come to find out when I did finally question them about it. THEY PLANNED NOTHING!!!

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The same happened to me. I finally sent an email to the MOH and laid out explicitly what I wanted to do and who I wanted to be there, including emails and phone#s. She eventually
mailed everyone. But I wanted to pull my HAIR OUT the whole time.

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I just vented about my b-party on the '04 boards.

If you want a b-party, don't wait. Say something now because you don't have all that much time. You don't want it to be the weekend before your wedding because you may be too stressed out to enjoy it. That's how I feel at the moment.

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since you're so curious and anxiously awaiting on the news of your bachelorette party, why don't you ask your maid of honor. ask her (w/o insinuating they're not doing anything) what's going on. ask if tehy need help with the planning. that may lead you to any information. and you are right... your bridal party is suppose to plan this for you. it's to celebrate your last days before you're send-off to marry-dome.

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My BP pretty much planned mine. I knew where we were going and when, but they planned all kinds of events and dinners for the weekend.

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Your bridal party should be planning a special outing for you. Your MOH should be leading this. However, they should ask you for input if need be.