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and this is the best read board, I believe. A friend -- we are pretty close to has been trying for years to get pregnant and she finally is -- now 30 weeks. We are going to meet them for dinner next weekend and they have just registered. Is it too early to get gift off of registry -- do we wait til she delivers or can we get something now?
We would like to get them something substantial like a stroller and I want to get it before the registry goes, so that is why I would want to go sooner.

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I would go ahead and buy it now, but don't give it to her until the shower. I think it's a little bit early for such a big gift (JMO.)

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Question- is the couple jewish? Typically, jewish people do not get gifts or anything even before the baby is born.

Also, 30 weeks is pretty far along- so, if everything is healthy and going well- that does not seem too early to get gifts. Different if she were say 10 to 20.

What about a nice size gift cert to buy buy baby or something- then a couple cute little baby t's..

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I think you should buy her the stroller or big gift from the registry now and hold it for the shower or birth and for the dinner bring a little something special (if she knows boy or a girl) or even in yellow or green those tiny gift basket sets in Babies R Us for $40 ( i was just there for someone) that has the booties and little tiny things just to say congrats OR better yet something for the mom to record her babys first everythings with the tiny first cut hair & first tooth keepsake boxes? or a keepsake box to keep her/his id bracelet from the hospital or i have another idea (sorry so many) i think this may be the Best one ...(IMO..lol) How about an outfit for Baby to come home with from the hospital with!!! It will be his/her first Outfit and she will remeber yoiu with it and she can put it in the keepsake box with the id bracelet and all?

hope i helped somehow I LOVE BABIES and have oh so many ideas for these things

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Someone else mentioned buying it now and holding on to it - I think that's a good idea because then you can get the gift you want before it disappears!

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OK, they are Jewish -- so wait, Randi?
I will be away for her shower.
They are registered at Bye Bye Baby.
Now what?
HELP

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Well I was going to say if shes jewish usually you wait till the baby is born

But if shes having a shower before the baby is born I would definitly go buy it for her now.. I went to a baby shower last week and within a week of her registering everything decent was gone.

I would give it to her till a little before her shower maybe.

eta. If you want to give her something when you see her I would DEFINTLY recommend getting her the book ' what to expect when your expecting' she wont be registered for it but its a LIFE SAVER! and SO thoughtful!!

My fsil got it for me when she found out I was pregnant and it is one of my most cherished gifts

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Posted by mrswask

Someone else mentioned buying it now and holding on to it - I think that's a good idea because then you can get the gift you want before it disappears!

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I agree

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If they are jewish than I would wait as it is bad luck to have anything in the home before the baby is born... but then again, if she is having a shower, maybe she is not that religous! Good luck... as of now, I would buy it and hold on to it

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They live like 2 hours away and I wanted to give it to her when I saw her next weekend. Let me pose the question differently...I want to buy and give the gift now...is there a reason/ superstition(Randi--you may have something I do not know here) NOT to give to them now?

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I will not be able to go to the shower so that is not an option. I will buy the gift and have it shipped to them so buying and holding is awkward.

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Is she even having a shower? Jews usually don't.. My best friend/MOH is prego.. and I have not gotten her a thing- not a card, nothing.. I was even thinking about getting her a gift cert. to like Mimi or something-- but, another friend told me not to.

Generally- you give gifts at a bris (for the boy) or a baby naming (for a girl).

Then again, my college roommate who is jewish, but married a non-jew did have a shower.

Maybe ask your friend in a subtle way if she has gotten anything.. It's just 'bad luck'.. the parents don't even get stuff.. or at least not a lot of stuff.

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Posted by DebMaher

They live like 2 hours away and I wanted to give it to her when I saw her next weekend. Let me pose the question differently...I want to buy and give the gift now...is there a reason/ superstition(Randi--you may have something I do not know here) NOT to give to them now?

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when is her shower?? If she is having one-- then I think the jewish rule may go out the window.. If you won't be there for the shower, and you'll see her next weekend- and it is close enough- I don't see a problem.

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Oh, I don;t know if she is having one -- they are kind of Jewish too -- like keep High Holy Days and go to temple -- OYE VEY -- now what do I do?

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OK, I just talked to my sis and she suggested that maybe I buy something for the mommy to be -- other than the parenting book (I want to spend more) -- what other ideas are good?

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well how about instead of getting stuff for the baby ( bad luck) you get her some stuff??? the parenting book.. a maincure/pedicure/message gift certificate for after the baby is born.. I got that and LOVED it!! I really needed it after 32 hours of labor

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I suggest two things-- gift certs for maternity clothes-- they constantly have to get new stuff and looking cute and pregnant can get very expensive.

Also Jenny McCarthy wrote a very funny book about being pregnant- I have heard it's great.