What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

Ok so as of right now my church is booked for 130 and the CH is for 630 in LI. The church is in SI. The next wedding at my church starts at 230 so that gives me an hour and the lady said that I better not be late b/c they aren't too happy with the 130, they originally told me 1. Anyway my friend bought up a few good points saying that an hour at the church isn't gonna be good b/c I'm gonna run into the other wedding and how the church may rush me b/c of it. I originally didn't want 1 b/c I think it's a lil early and there's a HUGE GAP!! but the other time is taken. Also I called a few other churches in SI and they said no b/c it's not my parish. Now FH parish is in Bklyn but my mom refuses to have it there b/c she wants mine in SI or something in SI.

So after all that what do u think?

Should I change the time back to 1?
Is it a real big gap?
Should I keep 130?
Do u think I'll have more than enough time for everything and arrive at the CH too early?

Give me all kinds of feedback (+/-).

p.s. sorry so long just need other ppls help

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

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Posted by KimmyKim7481

Ok so as of right now my church is booked for 130 and the CH is for 630 in LI. The church is in SI. The next wedding at my church starts at 230 so that gives me an hour and the lady said that I better not be late b/c they aren't too happy with the 130, they originally told me 1. Anyway my friend bought up a few good points saying that an hour at the church isn't gonna be good b/c I'm gonna run into the other wedding and how the church may rush me b/c of it. I originally didn't want 1 b/c I think it's a lil early and there's a HUGE GAP!! but the other time is taken. Also I called a few other churches in SI and they said no b/c it's not my parish. Now FH parish is in Bklyn but my mom refuses to have it there b/c she wants mine in SI or something in SI.

So after all that what do u think?

Should I change the time back to 1?
Is it a real big gap?
Should I keep 130?
Do u think I'll have more than enough time for everything and arrive at the CH too early?

Give me all kinds of feedback (+/-).

p.s. sorry so long just need other ppls help

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Since i am the person that gave you the advice i wll tell you again lol:

1-your church is at 1:30 and the cerm will end at 2:00. everyone will say their congrats on the line and that will take about 20 min at least
which now the time is 2:20 and the other guest for the 2:30 cerm will be coming in by then

also you have to think about this
you need people to say their congrats
-you have to have the rice, bubbles whatever it is out side your church , you need to take the pics inside and outside and IMO i do not think you will have enough time for all that
knowing that there is another cerm at 2:30

also if that 2:30 cerm wants the church decorated the florist needs to come in and decorate which he prob will do it during your cerm because of the timing lol..(not really during your cerm but you know what i mean

i think the 1:30 is cutting it too close
you want to be able to have people congrat you
you want to have the bubbloes or rose ped thrown
you want the pics in and outside the church


you can stay with the 1:30 and take your time anyway because the church screwed you or you can go look at chris's church it wont hurt kim

my church screwed me .. i did look at nother church aroud me i went straight to fh church . you have to think about him also

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

I think 1:00 is the way to go. You, and the church, and your guests will be more relaxed and not feel rushed.

Are you having a ceremony or a mass?

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

Well Should I change the time back to 1?? The photographer is coming next week I'm gonna ask his opinion on this and see what he says.

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I want just the ceremony

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

I worked in my church during hs...and I remember when they would book weddings that close in time...they really emphasized that the first bride be on time bc the next bride would be waiting (they rarely booked them that close to begin with)

...are you having a full mass or just a ceromony?...the ceromny takes only a half hour...which still leaves you a half hour to greet the guests when leaving the church...the mass takes a good 45 mins to an hour...you'll run right into the next wedding...

I would try and get the 1:00 back...no big deal if you get to the ch a bit early...you could always take extra pictures somewhere...plus it would be unfair for the other bride to have to wait for your guests to leave so that she can go in...

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

if you're only doing a ceremony, it shouldn't take an hour. However, I would go back to having it at 1. you can take an extra half hour of pictures. You shouldn't feel rushed on your wedding. You will only do this once and its your day. No one should rush you.

I'm getting married in my fiance's church. The only thing I was told was I have to get permission from my church. That's what the booklet from FH's church said.

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

however if you move your church to 1 pm thats making the gap even bigger. As it is, 4 hours is a pretty big gap even thought they have to go from SI to LI>

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i think that if you keep in at 1:30 it will be cutting it close and you will feel like you have to rush everything. at least if you do it a the 1:00 time you can take you time and the other wedding wont intrude on YOUR cermoney....

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Truthfully, you already have a big gap between the reception and the church, an additional half hour will not make that much of a difference. And I agree with your friend that you will absolutely run into the other wedding. This is not only bad for you but you don't want to be inconsiderate to someone else's wedding and their guests. I'd move it back to 1PM.

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Posted by eogara

Truthfully, you already have a big gap between the reception and the church, an additional half hour will not make that much of a difference. And I agree with your friend that you will absolutely run into the other wedding. This is not only bad for you but you don't want to be inconsiderate to someone else's wedding and their guests. I'd move it back to 1PM.

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Agree!

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

Now that I have thought of it I don't think the gap is that big of an issue b/c ppl can go home relax and get ready then and don't need to rush with things. Well when I meet witht he photographer I'm gonna see what he thinks about 1. I'm probably not gonna keep 130 cuz I know that it is cutting it close and I don't want to be rude to the other wedding, I wouldn't want that to happen to me

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Posted by eogara

Truthfully, you already have a big gap between the reception and the church, an additional half hour will not make that much of a difference. And I agree with your friend that you will absolutely run into the other wedding. This is not only bad for you but you don't want to be inconsiderate to someone else's wedding and their guests. I'd move it back to 1PM.

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I agree here....

Re: What do you think of this situation? (lil long)

I really feel for you. I'm having the same issue just at different times on the clock. My ceremony is at 10:00am and my CH starts at 11:45. I'm only having a ceremony (not a mass). IF we start on time it should be over by 10:30, we can do a receiving line til 11:00 and everyone's got 45 minutes to get to the CH which is 25 minutes away.

BUT, if we start late (say 10:30) and the ceremony is a half hour, then we can't really do a receiving line and get everybody to CH on time.

My advice to you: Go with 1:00. It'll be much easier on you.

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I'd def do 1.

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I think 1:00pm will be the best thing. 1/2 hour will not kill you (it's not that big of a gap, really) and it's a small price to pay for peace of mind. Plus, since the church screwed you it would be nice to leave the other bride some time.

I also have a gap of a few hours between the ceremony and CH and my guests are kind of glad because they can go home and change.