I need to vent.. everyone is mad at me

Ok so my shower was last weekend. My fbil's girlfriend called 3 hours before the shower was supposed to start to tell my sister she was sick and couldn't make it. ( she is one of those people who ALWAYS thinks they are sick) so I was a little annoyed but whatever.
Then the next day we had a family christening and she was there!! and seemed perfectly fine and healthy to me.

Now YESTERDAY she came over and gave me my shower gifts. Well the return recipt was dated for 3 days after my shower.

Now is it just me or did this girl obviously not intend to go if she hadnt even bought a gift?! I think it was really rude to call 3 hours before the shower started and her plate still had to be paid for if she knew all along she wasnt coming.

Now everyone is mad at me for " being cold" twords her and I feel like no one understands my position.

BTW this is the same girl who called my 2 year old son " Annoying" b/c hes "always laughing and running around"
to her boyfriend WHO IS HIS GODFATHER

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I can't believe she said that about your SON!!

Eeww to her, whatever! I can completely understand why you are pissed at her. Seems like she decided THAT day that she wasn't going to your shower... maybe because she didn't have the gift yet and she didn't feel like going out to get it.

But... you can't stay mad about this kinda stuff forever so move her way down on your list of who you consider good friends and don't let it bother you anymore. I don't understand why everyone ELSE is mad at you... you had a right to be upset. Hmmm...Just how COLD are you being towards her??? Are you being evil?

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I don't think anyone should be mad at you, I would feel the same way. Unfortunately, and I know from experience, holding on to that anger won't help anyone. I would honestly suggest you talk to this girl instead of letting the resentment build. Just give it to her straight. Tell her you understand she was "sick" but she seemed fin the next day so you were a little hurt that she didn't come to your shower. Also tell her that you noticed on the gift receipt that she purshased the gift after your shower. Let her explain herself. The conversation may be a bit akward, but at least you'll get it off your chest and you can move forward from there.

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If you dont like her, then why are you even letting it bother you?

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Posted by JimmysBride



I can't believe she said that about your SON!!

Eeww to her, whatever! I can completely understand why you are pissed at her. Seems like she decided THAT day that she wasn't going to your shower... maybe because she didn't have the gift yet and she didn't feel like going out to get it.

But... you can't stay mad about this kinda stuff forever so move her way down on your list of who you consider good friends and don't let it bother you anymore. I don't understand why everyone ELSE is mad at you... you had a right to be upset. Hmmm...Just how COLD are you being towards her??? Are you being evil?

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Message edited 1/14/2005 3:05:02 PM.

Re: I need to vent.. everyone is mad at me

I don't have the greatest relationship with my FBIL's girlfriend either. She drove me nuts at Christmas. But then she called and asked if we could meet for dinner. We had a really long talk and I do understand her a little better and actually feel somewhat sorry for her. I was really frustrated but this helped us a lot. GO to dinner with her, have a glass of wine and hash this out. It will make you feel better, promise

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it's totally understandable that you are pissed, but i think you need to let it go...it's really affecting you if other people are starting to notice your behavior and comment on it.

so, she is completely lame. That's her, not you.

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I have a FSIL who is hell on earth...I have been with FH for 5 years now and she came on the scene about 3 years ago and has been a monster since day one.

She acts so nice to people's face and then trash talks them the moment they walk away. (I mean really I thought hs was over years ago!)

She never congratulated me on our engagement, completely ignored me at the their wedding last July and is just generally nasty. She invites the entire family over except us.

The latest evil act was when she told everyone in the family that she was pregnant before FH who is the brother of her husband. I only found out because I overheard her hissing at their grandmother to shush because no one knew about her morning sickness or pregnancy (meaning FH and I didn't know!!!)

Then they asked FH to be godfather even though he was last to know!

I have tried to reach out to her several times, offered to help when she was preparing for her wedding, etc and got nothing for it!!!!

I wish there was a way I could forget her on my invite list, but her hubby is BM so I guess that is out!

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What I forgot to add was...she doesn't seem to be worth your time or energy!!!

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What a beeeotch!!!!! Most of us have a future in-law that we'd LOVE to slap, don't we??!!

I would act the same way that you are, I can't help it.

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Just looking at it from another perspective here...maybe she was planning on buying you a gitft for your shower on her way to the shower. Believe me, I'm famous for stopping in for a gift card and card on the way to a party!

ETS: grammar

Message edited 1/14/2005 3:31:13 PM.

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Why are people mad at you again? Maybe she's just an A S S and eveyone knows it but expects you to act mature and over it in turn. Totally unfair because you are entitled to be angry and resentful (and yeah, it sounds like she had NO intention of going to your shower) but just ignore her. I guess be the bigger person in this case, I agree that there is nothing good that comes out f holding on to anger.

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well she's a real winner isn't she?? I can't believe that she acted like that! I would have been PO'ed my self so I don't think that you're wrong!

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My mother and I have the same mentality...don't get mad about it, just write her off and move on. And always remember when it's her turn.....what goes around comes around, and I make sure it's double!

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She sounds horrendous. Try not to let her get to you. Just get her back someday! LOL

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Iti s not you it is her. I think it was cause she didn't have a gift that was why. I don't see how she talk about her boyfriends newphew like that if iwas him i would say something to her about that. That is messed up. IT is not her son so she should mind her own buniess