Family issues should become my name

OK sorry everyone but I guess this is the only place I feel I can get honest answers and since me and my FH become engaged there has been a few issues.
When my FH asked me to marry him I told my aunt (who I should have realized constantly tells everything) who I was thinking of placing in my wedding party, but I still wasn't to sure.
Well, the one girl I was flip flopping about cause I felt I should cause we used to hang out but we don't get along that well, it's like a fake tolerance. Because we are cousins through marriage.
I really wanted a small wedding party so I was going to cut someone out, but I had asked the people who I REALLY wanted since I was very close with them.
Only to come to find out my aunt had called my cousin and her mom telling them I want her in my wedding. Now first I was pissed cause it is my wedding and my privilege to asked someone to come out in it, not hers. But then it came a issue cause we have a budget and a one less person would be a big help, since we don't even have a partner.
How do I tell her I don't want her in the wedding or should I just eat it and say to late now?

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did you ask her already? or did you just kind of imply that you were thinking of asking her? if you already asked her, there really is no proper way to un-ask her. i would just eat salt and let her be in the bp.

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It was more along the lines of Oh so I hear I am in your bridal party, and I actually told my brothers GF she was a big mouth and she said I didn't tell her Your aunt did.
At that point I was like well yeah, cause how could I say no after that.

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oh, i see. at this point, just move on and let her remain in the bp. there is really not much you can do. sorry thats a sticky situation

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I would talk to her and tell her something like. You are an important part of my life so you came to mind right away when I thought about my bridal party...after FH and I talked about our BP we decided we really wanted to try and keep the party small...but i would love it if you would do something else (guestbook, reading etc) so that you could be a part of our wedding. I think that saves from her hurt feelings and kinda takes you off the hook...

but i would talk to her about it.

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i would tlak to her and tell her that you werent positive on anything yet and that your aunt jumped the gun on something that is supposed to be up to you.... not your aunt

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If you didn't ask her already don't worry about it but if you in any way acknowledged it I would say eat the expense it would be tacky to back out now. JMO

Re: Family issues should become my name

Thanks everyone seems I have to eat this one.