Does your DH have many single friends still pressuring him to hang out?

Nearly all of my DH's friends are still single. They go out to bars or party and get wasted every weekend. They continue to call DH and ask him to hang out nearly every weekend night. He doesn't go too often, but when he does he gets totally wasted and last weekend came home at 4AM. I asked him to stop, but he says he doesn't want to lose his friends. I totally trust him--I know they are just hanging out getting drunk--but I get lonely weekend nights when he isn't home, and since it is just guys I don't want to tag along. All of my girlfriends have either serious boyfriends or are married, so they are no longer in the going out on weekend nights stage. Any suggestions? Is anyone else in this situation? It's not like DH is that young--he is 28...

Re: Does your DH have many single friends still pressuring him to hang out?

Oh yes...he still does. His friends are younger than him and they are single and live in the city They all pressure him to go out and it's hard form him to say no. It's been this way since I can remember.

He goes out, gets wasted and comes home late. Nothing I can do about it. Luckily, not too often.

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OMG YES!!!!! He has this one friend who always wants to go out looking for girls!!This guy is really nice, but he has a few screws loose. When we go out he sits there and says stuff that just totally drives me crazy, he passes these little comments, like, oh we have to go to this club, we have to go to this bar, we have to go to this strip club, I hear there are a lot of girls there. My DH tells him, he doesn't want to go look for girls, um hi he's married. So this guy then says, oh sorry man, your not allowed to go out anymore. I have no problem if DH goes out with this guy, have a blast, but this guy thinks that I don't let my DH go out. Like I have him under house arrest. He's not dead, he can go where he wants. The thing is that my DH doesn't want to go out with him, so his friend blames it on me. My feeling, I know my DH loves me to no end and I completely trust him, I tell him to go out and have a great time, go to the strip club, wherever, I don't care, but yet this friend blames me. And he doesn't get the hint that DH really has grown out of the things he wants to do. I am just not liking the rap of hostage keeping wife that this guy gives me!! I would try and set him up with someone, but we really thing he is gay and just putting up a front!!!

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I am sorry you are upset by this. I think your DH should say no to them if it bothers you. If they don't understand, then he shouldn't be friends with them. He doesn't need to go to bars to stay friends w/ them They can get together other times maybe. My DH's brother is single and askes him to go out to bars or clubs alot and DH chooses not to. I hope it works out for you!!!

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28 is young!!! I don't think that being married should mean that you can't hang out with single people anymore! I'm 32 and my DH is 33 and we go out with our friends whenever we want to. It makes for a healthy relationship... why lose friends just because your married?

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No luckily all most of DH's friends are part of a couple so when the guys get together to women usually get together so it works out well for us. Also all the guys in the group have for the most part put their partying days behind them.

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Well, Tim & I were last to get married, so no single friends (and we are OLDER) but once in a while he & two friends who still live local wanna get away (from wife & kids I guess) and have a night out. Frankly, they want to stay out later than Tim does.

It really doesn't bother me when he goes out or how late he stays out ... unless he tells me he'll be home at say midnight but I'm waiting up worried until 1:45 ... that bugs me!! I'm not sure I would be *thrilled* about him not coming home until 4AM even if I knew he'd be that late ... to me, there's just no reason to be out that late.


But if trust is no issue and it's just about you feeling lonely when he goes out, try to get him to keep it to once a month or something you can agree upon.

Message edited 2/10/2005 11:27:23 AM.

Re: Does your DH have many single friends still pressuring him to hang out?

Most of our friends are still single. I don't mind when Ray wants to go out with his single friends.. then I go out with my single girlfiends. Most of the time we go out together in big groups anyway.. but if he wants to go out with his friends alone it is OK with me
But if he was going every weekend that might be a problem~!

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I totally understand. When we were getting married, I moved out here from the midwest, leaving all my friends behind. He grew up on Long Island and still has a lot of friends who are single. Since I don't know that many people it is hard when he goes out - I do get lonely too. (Actually, I'm looking forward to one of those nights tonight....)

I make sure to keep myself busy, get out my scrapbooking or call my family. I agree it stinks though. I'm am happy he is going out and having fun, I just wish some of my friends lived around here so we could have girls night as well!!

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Posted by paulsbride1

I totally understand. When we were getting married, I moved out here from the midwest, leaving all my friends behind. He grew up on Long Island and still has a lot of friends who are single. Since I don't know that many people it is hard when he goes out - I do get lonely too. (Actually, I'm looking forward to one of those nights tonight....)

I make sure to keep myself busy, get out my scrapbooking or call my family. I agree it stinks though. I'm am happy he is going out and having fun, I just wish some of my friends lived around here so we could have girls night as well!!

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