Newlywed question for April 4th

OK So we have all talked about the change in friendships after we are married.

So how exactly did your marriage effect or not effect your friendships???


In my case it didn't. We were one of the last of our friends to get married. We have been together for over 7 years and lived together for over 3 so there wasn't that big of a deal. Also my DH works the opposite shift from me so during the week I am free to do what I want.

The one negative I can say is that since we only have Saturday and Sunday together I HATE makng plans on weekends that do not involve him. We only have those 2 days to be a couple and to do things together around the house. My friends know this and accept this. If we are going out with another couple that is fine but they know I am less likely to go if it's on a weekend without DH.

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We are the first of our friends to get married. DH's best friend is still adjusting. He'll call me to make the social plans, but will still try to 'pull rank' from time to time. But, my DH quickly settles those issues

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I have not had a problem except for 2 friends that are single and just do not understand that I have a lot of responsibilities more then I ever had before and they are very jealous. These 2 people just do not get it. My other freinds have not been a problem at all. My other friends are married and nothing has changed with the friendships.

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Posted by suven

We are the first of our friends to get married. DH's best friend is still adjusting.

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Same here. It's hard with DH's friends, because most of them are in MA, and whenever we go up, we have to make time for his dad, AND his friends, so it's very hard. A lot of his friends think he has to ask me for permission to do everything, which I find hysterical. Also, they tell me I 'stole' him from them and took him to NY.

My friends try and give us our space. Most of my friends are single, and they still want to go out to all hours of the night, and I just don't want to do that anymore.

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Posted by princess99

I have not had a problem except for 2 friends that are single and just do not understand that I have a lot of responsibilities more then I ever had before and they are very jealous. These 2 people just do not get it. My other freinds have not been a problem at all. My other friends are married and nothing has changed with the friendships.

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Princess,

I know who you are talking about & DON'T WORRY ABOUT THEM!!!!!

On the other hand you NEVER call me.......J/K

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The only problem I had was with one of the same girls that Princess has a problem with! I don't speak to her at all because I can't be bothered with her BS either. She was friends with my DH first & she use to IM him but find it was me because I check his mail for him & she stopped talking to him to.....THANK GOD!!!!!!!

ETA: My best friend & also MOH is very understanding and we get together now with her & her b/f once in a while for a night out.

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Things for us have been fine between our friends etc. we do a lot of couple things to begin with, but I do have one girlfriend that I think wants more one on one attention, just the girls type of thing and I can't always do that with her because like someone else said, with work and stuff the weekends are the only time to spend quality time with your spouse, I look forward to that. But I usually do try and do something with her once a month, just us. I swear sometimes I feel like my friends boyfriend, LOL....

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We are one of the first to be married. Two others are following in our footsteps this year. The others are in relationships so there hasn't been any problems. I do get the occasional jab about not going out as much....but none os us do much anymore!

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It hasnt changed too much, I go out with my girlfriends on Friday nights 9when I actually want to go out) Sunday's are our only day off together so we hold that pretty precious! I dont like accepting any inviatation to do anything on Sunday's.

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Nothing much has changed for us either. We all got married in the same year. We all do find that we see each less often because we are all just so busy!

Add into the mix that they are all starting to have babaies, and so now it's even harder to make time to get together. We do it, but it just less than what it was.

Re: Newlywed question for April 4th

We were the last of most of our frinds to be married, so it didnt affect us much at all.