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eliz808 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:17 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:17 PM

Do I invite my boss? Please read..

I work in a small fashion company and our CEO is a major socialite, she is cool but sort of intimidating bc she knows everyone. I know that she likes me, but I sort of work independently and we don't have a 'real relationship' with one another. I am afraid that if I don't invite her it may insult her. However if I do invite her I automatically have to invite 6 extra people. I don't even know who she woud sit with, bc my guests are mostly doctors and lawyers and well she is kinda out there. I am not sure she would even come, don't really know what to do. Also I am having about 125 people at my wedding, so its small.

divabride Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:20 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:20 PM

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I've read a couple of articles that state you shoud extend and invitation to your immediate boss as a courtesy. Why do you have to automatically invite 6 people?

ChrissynRicky Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:21 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:21 PM

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I wouldn't invite her. If she ever brings it up, just state it was for family only.

AtticaQT Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:22 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:22 PM

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i would invite her as a courtesy

eliz808 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:23 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:23 PM

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She is the CEO but I work directly for someone else, so I would have to invite their SO. It ends up being 6 people.

SummerBride2005 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:26 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:26 PM

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Tough one but would she make u nervous and uncomfortable at your wedding? If the answer is yes, I would say no. Plus, if they (boss & coworkers) know u're having a small intimate wedding, they probably won't take it personal that you don't invite them. Good luck!

divabride Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:29 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:29 PM

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Posted by eliz808

She is the CEO but I work directly for someone else, so I would have to invite their SO. It ends up being 6 people.

Oooohhhh!!!! Can you confide in your immediate boss? Maybe they will be able to give you an honest opinion without blowing up your spot.

katebloom99 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:45 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 12:45 PM

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I am not inviting my boss - I can not really stand to be around him, so I would never want him at my wedding. My feeling is, it is my personal affair and I will not invite someone who I dislike so much to be a part of that.

JMO

good luck!

buggiegirl Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:19 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:19 PM

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I would...especially if you plan on continuing your career there. Even if she doesn't come it is a nice courtesy and besides...it does away with any embarrasment if you want to talk about the wedding at work. JMO

edited for spelling

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:22 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:22 PM

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Posted by buggiegirl

I would...especially if you plan on conyinuing your career there. Even if she doesn't come it is a nice courtesy and besides...it does away with any embarrasment if you want to talk about the wedding at work. JMO

My senitments exactly.

FTRBRIDE Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:27 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:27 PM

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i say you should extend the invite.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:30 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:30 PM

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I'm inviting my boss.... but I really like her, so it's not the same situation as yours.

as far as etiquette goes, I'm not sure how many people are hung up on following it verbatim. Do what you feel is best.

It sounds to me like you're leaning against inviting her. Go with your gut instinct.

kbeana24 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:33 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:33 PM

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I would invite her. Have her sit with the other 6 people.

suebride Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:50 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:50 PM

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i am in a similar situation --i do not know what to do about inviting my immediate boss and director --honestly --i do not know if i really want them there so i am leaning towards not inviting them! i say go with your gut!

hmm8191 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:56 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 01:56 PM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

Posted by buggiegirl

I would...especially if you plan on conyinuing your career there. Even if she doesn't come it is a nice courtesy and besides...it does away with any embarrasment if you want to talk about the wedding at work. JMO

My senitments exactly.

me too. I couldn't stand my boss but I invited her. Maybe she won't come. My didn't!

Preshy7 Posted: Apr 15, 2005 05:37 PM+

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Posted: Apr 15, 2005 05:37 PM

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my opinion- invite her - at weddings with the booze flowing and conversation - people will talk to anyone.
you should see some of the people i got stuck sitting next to and i always had a good time!