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I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

AJsMommy122 Posted: Apr 27, 2005 11:53 PM+

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Posted: Apr 27, 2005 11:53 PM

I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

We have really really nice next door neighboors who we dont really see that often in the winter but see them alot during the summer b/c our yards are kind of connected. It is his first marriage but her second. DH is very very friendly with this guy whenever they do see eachother. And are in similar types of work and even got DH a temp. job once while he was unemployed.
Well I feel sooooooo horrible but I sent them an std over the summer ( when we were seeing them everyday) and then totally forgot to send them an invitation

I feel sooooooooooooooooooo horrible about it and apologized when I saw them. The seemed ok with it and laughed it off.
Anyway they are getting married next month and invited my MIL, FIL, & BIL to the wedding but not us. Ok I understand no big deal. BUT I would still like to send them a gift. They are not registered anywhere ( she does not have any family so I guess no one threw her a bridal shower) my MIL is not going but sending them a cash gift instead. I really dont want to send cash b/c then I think it looks like I am asking for a gift in a way

What can I send them??? Should I send it before the wedding or after as a 'Congratulations' ????

peabody Posted: Apr 27, 2005 11:55 PM+

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Posted: Apr 27, 2005 11:55 PM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

Do you know if they are going on a HM? What about traveler's checks to use towards a HM?

AJsMommy122 Posted: Apr 27, 2005 11:57 PM+

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Posted: Apr 27, 2005 11:57 PM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

Posted by peabody

Do you know if they are going on a HM? What about traveler's checks to use towards a HM?

Since it is the winter I hardly ever see them. DH bumps into them outside every few days.. I can have him ask!! She also has 2 kids so im not positive they will be going away.
If they are that is a great idea! Thanx!

peabody Posted: Apr 28, 2005 12:00 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 12:00 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

Posted by Soon2bMsZ

Posted by peabody

Do you know if they are going on a HM? What about traveler's checks to use towards a HM?

Since it is the winter I hardly ever see them. DH bumps into them outside every few days.. I can have him ask!! She also has 2 kids so im not positive they will be going away.
If they are that is a great idea! Thanx!

I am just trying to think of things that we would have liked. We got travelers checks from a guest and in the card he specifically wrote this is for your an excurision in Hawaii on our honeymoon. I thought that was sweet.

shamrock12472 Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:20 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:20 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

I got a gift certificate for www.bedandbreakfasts.com. They have a ton of B&Bs to choose from and we can go anytime of the year. Maybe they could use it as a little getaway when her kids are with their dad or other family.

suven Posted: Apr 28, 2005 08:19 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 08:19 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

I'd send a gift certificate to Macy's or maybe Bed Bath and Beyond.

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:04 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:04 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

Posted by suven

I'd send a gift certificate to Macy's or maybe Bed Bath and Beyond.

I agree great idea, you can always use something for the house

JimmysBride Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:34 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:34 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

I would send a gift certificate to BB&B (or similar store), but send it after the wedding so it doesn't seem like you are looking for an invite.

dpli Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:36 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:36 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

Maybe an American Express gift check? I also would send it after the wedding if you are afraid it will look like you are looking for an invite.

aimerliny Posted: Apr 28, 2005 10:20 AM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 10:20 AM

Re: I have a sticky situation I need advice on!

I think it is okay to send cash, and doesn't imply you are looking for a gift yourself. The alternative would be a gift certificate, or buy something that you think they would like from a store that they can return it to if they want (like something crystal). I think since you were not invited to the wedding, it would be better to send it as a 'congratulations' gift after they return from their honeymoon.

stacy&joe Posted: Apr 28, 2005 01:58 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 01:58 PM

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Posted by aimerliny

I think it is okay to send cash, and doesn't imply you are looking for a gift yourself. The alternative would be a gift certificate, or buy something that you think they would like from a store that they can return it to if they want (like something crystal). I think since you were not invited to the wedding, it would be better to send it as a 'congratulations' gift after they return from their honeymoon.

I agree completely Amy!