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SIBride06 Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:19 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:19 PM

Bridesmaid Question

Okay.. I need some advice!!!

I've been thinking about asking someone in my bridal party. Her name is Gina, whom I met at work, and have known for a year now. Within this past year, our friendship has blossomed. I hardly consider her a co-worker.. I really consider her a friend. The weird part is.. I feel like I've known her for years. I feel so comfortable being around her.. my gooddness we are so much alike its scary

. My FI & I even set her up with one of his cousins & now they are a couple! We hang out on the weekends.. Call each other to vent after watching American Idol... and so on...

Anyway... like I said, I was thinking of asking her to be in my bridal party. This has been on my mind for weeks now. I keep thinking about how complete my bridal party would be if she was there, and how incomplete it would be if she wasn't. Should I ask her ?? Thing is, she already knows that I have my bridal party all set. She also knows that my cousin dropped out of my bridal party (for reasons not even worth explaining... (I'm so mad at her ugghhhh

but thats a whole other story altogether). Anyhow, she knows Im one girl short. However.. thats so not the reason why I would ask her. I want her to be included in my wedding! Do you think I should wait it out and ask her when Im 100% sure its the right time to ask?? The only reason why Im contemplating this whole issue is because I've only known her for a year.. shouldn't bridesmaids be the closest females in your life???

Im sorry this is sooo long lol

I just dont know what to do!!!!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:24 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:24 PM

Re: Bridesmaid Question

It seems to me that you feel really close to Gina - you said yourself that it wouldn't be complete without her. I would definitely ask her! Make it special for her, take her out to dinner, and let her know how honored you would be to have her in your BP. She will be thrilled to share in your day!

sarahbelle Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:26 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:26 PM

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You should definitely ask her. I waited a little longer to ask one of my BMs and she said still said yes.

summer06bride Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:45 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:45 PM

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I agree I would totally asked her.

beatle06 Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:54 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 06:54 PM

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I agree, ask her! And if she is such a close friend she will understand that you are doing it for the right reasons not just to fill a spot. I don't think there is a limit on how long you know somone, but how much they mean to you.

06NovBride Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:16 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:16 PM

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I would totally ask her and be honest. Tell her thay you are growing closer and you would really like her to be in the BP. If you make it special and all about her I don't think she will care that she wasn't asked right away.

cindyandkevin Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:47 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:47 PM

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I would def ask her! I'm sure she'll understand that you only hesitated bc you've only known each other for a short time. My girls aren't 'the closest females in my life' per se but they're cousins and one friend that I want to pay homage to. I just want to have someone that represents each side of our families and I figure nothing like planning a wedding to help bring us all closer together.

gNi1125 Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:51 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 07:51 PM

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I'd ask her ASAP and explain to her that the other bm who dropped out is not the reason you are asking but because you really value her friendship.

shellnroc Posted: Apr 28, 2005 08:31 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 08:31 PM

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I would definitely ask her. You can't put a time frame on how close you feel about someone. It doesn't matter if you only known her for a yr IMO. She seems to be a great friend to you.

VogueBride Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:34 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:34 PM

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i would ask her..and it sounds like with how close you girls are that shell love to be in it!

janelovesharry Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:34 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:34 PM

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I would definatly ask her! You said that you couldn't imagine your bp without her, so IMO your decision is made.
I went with friends from elementary and high school, b/c it was important to me that I would still talk to them in 10 years. However, it sounds like you and Gina will be friends long after you stop working together

Jane

KimmyKim7481 Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:37 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 09:37 PM

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Do it Do it

STUF04 Posted: Apr 28, 2005 10:12 PM+

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Posted: Apr 28, 2005 10:12 PM

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I think you should ask her, she obviously means a lot to you.

iffer042373 Posted: Apr 29, 2005 04:42 PM+

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 04:42 PM

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I would take her out to a dinner or for some drinks ask her and explain to her that you are not doing it to fill in a spot but becuz you really want her. Tell her what your friendship means to you and she will be thrilled

keep us posted

Kerrycec Posted: Apr 29, 2005 04:44 PM+

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 04:44 PM

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ask her asap, like now! She will be honored

JessicaM. Posted: Apr 29, 2005 04:45 PM+

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 04:45 PM

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Posted by honeybee06

I agree, ask her! And if she is such a close friend she will understand that you are doing it for the right reasons not just to fill a spot. I don't think there is a limit on how long you know somone, but how much they mean to you.

I agree. very well said!