Okay girls here's a how would you feel question for ya...

DH was told by his brother who got married over a year ago that his wife pulled up old posts of mine where I was complaining about them and my inlaws(NO NAMES were used of course)and was pissed about all my vents!! She also printed all my old posts and called my mother in law and told her about my vents about my inlaws. Now these posts are from around when they got married over a year ago so why all of the sudden were they pulled up. Correct me if Im wrong but FBIL says that this is a free site(right)and if you open a post my picture is there so they know my screen name(okay true!) However ladies, you would need to put my screen name in search and pull up my almost 1700 posts and go through each and everyone and Im a member from 03 so you'd have alot to search through before finding vents about them. So if this was you and you didnt speak to your SIL for almost a year wouldn't you feel that she was just stirring up trouble for no reason?? Wouldnt you consider it invading my privacy to print these out and giving them to my in laws who I also havent been speaking to in almost a year?? I understand that this stuff is there and anyone can pull it up but if your not talking to that individual and are already married and not a posting member to go through someones history is nosey and IMO just to cause trouble. What do you think? Iam truly embarrassed that my thoughts and vents were read but I dont apologize for the things I said. Talking to you ladies and getting advice is my personal way of venting without causing hard feelings or swaying feelings with family members or friends who know all the parties involved. IMO how dare anyone use my personal feelings to have their own personal gain by creating more a poor situation within the family. What do you think? Please tell me if Im wrong for being upset, like I said this isnt stuff she just came about she went digging and them called my inlaws. Should I leave LIW?? Should I start pointing things out to family instead of discussing it with people not involved?? Please tell me what you think and how you would feel because Im sure she's printing this out for the family as well!

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Just checked and there is over 67pgs. in my history. So 67pgs. search through, WHY??? Im sorry to vent again, since some people dont think I have the right too but I am just furious right now.

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I wouldnt leave LIW...I think its important to get many opinions regarding delicate situations such as family troubles and for your sil to snoop on you and get ammo against you, well shes doing it all wrong

yes it is public but it was not like you were going 'my in laws are ____&____ and heres where they live.blah blah blah'

If its something you truly enjoy doing- being on liw- then just go back and erase the old venting posts and from now on erase them when you talk it through with us girls

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i wouldn't leave. i don't understand why this woman (sil) had to come on here and pull up all your old posts. she is just a busybody with wayy tooo much time on her hands. don't let her get to you, totally not worth it

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Your right, but who would've thought someone who hasnt used LIW before and is married for over a year already would go on and go through 67pgs. so she had something to stir up more emotional confrontations with my inlaws. I called my BIL and told him that this is my personal way to vent, as well as keeping it out of the family and having things turned around and stories created to keep the issue going and Im sorry if his wife didnt like what I had to say but these were my opinions and issues and there are no names used so it's not like someone would be knocking on her door. I would love to know how she just happened upon my screen name, what a coincidence right? I always feel so much better about things after talking it through with you guys unfortunetly I dont feel comfortable doing that anymore. Who goes through 67pgs. anyway to be nosey?

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Thanks ladies I was beginning to wonder if I did something wrong. Maybe if these things werent being done, said, and I wasnt made to feel the way I DID those posts would've never been created. I cant get over going through 67pgs. It just blows my mind

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what we do on here many people dont get...at all

you ladies are like my own free therapists!!!!

i dont know what I woudl be like without being able to get my mom and weddding issues off my chest

stay strong and know that you are allowed to vent about the people in your life!!!

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You're not the first person this has happened to. It is a public board, but I feel like once any of us put a picture up, we aren't anonymous anymore, and if your family are in the area you run the risk of someone who knows them reading your thoughts and vents. That said, I would be incredibly hurt if I stumbled upon anything my SIL or friends posted on here about me before I was a member. To me, fights among the family should be just that--among family. Venting to thousands of anonymous users, while cathartic, may come as a slap in the face to her, especially if some readers may know her in person. Yes, she hunted them down, but if you aren't apologetic about what you wrote maybe it is better that it is all aired now.

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I agree with alot that you said. I too would be upset if things were posted about me and I came across them. However, to go through 66pgs. of posts of a person that you dont have any relationship at all with on find posts on the 67th page for you to be upset with the things I vented about you okay but to print out a post on how hurt I was witht he way my inlaws were treating me and some of the things I said about my MIL and to print this and give it to her, for what!! This went on without LIW. These posts are over a year old and if she was a member then why wasnt it brought up until now. Or was it that I got LIW mail and you spotted it and deceided to check out the site and snoop because you want to be nosey since DH and I havent been on speaking terms for almost a year with any of them. I went to my MIL just now and told her how I felt and why those things were said, I also spoke to my BIL and told him the same. I dont take back my feelings but do regret thinking that I was entitled to vent. I have tried working things out in the past with my inlaws(all of them)only for it to all start up again. I have gone to them and told them how I felt and asked why things were going on only to be talked about when I leave the room after being assured nothing was wrong. So I gave up and deceided to get it off my chest elsewhere. I appreciate your opinion though thank you!

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Yeah your SIL sounds a little off, and she did totally violate your privacy, but you have to own your own words. If you really have no regrets about what you said then don't worry about what she did. If you're open and honest about your feelings all your SIL did is waste her time. Don't even acknowlede her.

Personally though I think you should mend things with your in-laws. If for no reason other than your husband and kids if u have any... As bad as they can be they still raised the man u love right. Well hope I helped u in some way.

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Posted by KerriSteve

Yeah your SIL sounds a little off, and she did totally violate your privacy, but you have to own your own words. If you really have no regrets about what you said then don't worry about what she did. If you're open and honest about your feelings all your SIL did is waste her time. Don't even acknowlede her.

Personally though I think you should mend things with your in-laws. If for no reason other than your husband and kids if u have any... As bad as they can be they still raised the man u love right. Well hope I helped u in some way.

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Definetly appreciated your thoughts. I already went up and talked to MIL and layed everything on the table. I am not ashamed of my words at all! Embarassed that this happened YES!! However, this is the way they made me feel and Im not sorry for looking for help to destress during those times. In these posts too I have said as far as my MIL is concerned that even though she has been really nasty and a witch. I dont agree with the things that were going on but she did help us alot and gave us alot, it just seems that all of the sudden things changed for no reason. Her being angry with her son turned into being all my fault and I also mention how there were times up until a year ago that I felt closer to her then my own family but Im sure those things werent mentioned! Thanks again though, Im sure tommorow everything will be in a better perspective but right now the steam is just coming out of my ears

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Ok - since she clearly has nothing better to do than read through old LIW posts she is probably reading this right now..........so listen up you werido print this sh*t out

Lots of people vent about their In Laws - Get a Life!

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Thanks!! That's one of the reasons why I posted(besides to vent again )I figured if they were gonna print everything then I want her to see how crazy what she's doing is. What I said may of hurt her feelings but what was done to me to have me feel that way???? I havent spoken to anyone because I got tired of defending myself with things that I had nothing to do with. So I figured if I didnt bother anymore storied couldnt be made up of what I said. So because there hasnt been any thing to have issues with in a year, something needed to be dug up!

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Umm to be honest with you, your SIL seems like a total loser to go through all that effort to stir up problems. She needs to find something else to do in her spare time. You kinda have to feel bad for her, she must be bored in her marriage to have the time to sit on here going through all your posts. Sorry you had to go through this. Please don't leave the site though, shes obviously not worth it!

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Posted by Future_Mrs_B

Umm to be honest with you, your SIL seems like a total loser to go through all that effort to stir up problems. She needs to find something else to do in her spare time. You kinda have to feel bad for her, she must be bored in her marriage to have the time to sit on here going through all your posts. Sorry you had to go through this. Please don't leave the site though, shes obviously not worth it!

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Thanks for your support However this post too has become an issue since my things are still being read and discussed with my MIL. So to stop any further issues. I just want to leave it with this....Thank You to all you ladies who understand were Im coming from as far as what was done was IMO out of spite and unecessary, especially since it was sought out for no apparent reason! Beware ladies of what you vent about even though you have the right too, there are lurkers who can cause you to feel like you shouldn't use the boards for what they are here for and that's to have what's as close to a family as you can get without causing issues at home. Thanks Again!!

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omg that totally ***** they sound a little crazy to me.

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If my FSIL printed out all my vents about her dad, I'd be so pissed.

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I wouldn't leave LIW. If this is a place that helps you, who gives a sh*t if crazy wants to read it. Sounds like you have your hands full with that family. Good luck and keep posting.