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M&S Sept12006 Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:12 PM+

M&S Sept12006 MEMBER SINCE: 3/05 TOTAL POSTS : 5839 WEDDING DATE: Sep 01, 2006

Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:12 PM

Etiquette Question

One of FH's friends has a baby on the way and his girlfriend just recently had a baby shower which I wasnt invited to. Now, they will most likely be invited to our wedding (FH's childhood friend) and I was wondering if she should be invited to my shower or my bachelorette party. I am not really close with her, but whenever the guys get together and we all hang out, I do talk to her occassionally. Im not one to hold grudges or anything (just bc I wasnt invited to her shower) but I am not crazy about her either.

What do you think?

TIA

mendara Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:16 PM+

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Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:16 PM

Re: Etiquette Question

maybe her shower was a surprise and she had no control over the guest list - perhaps there was nothing malicious about it - invite her - it will be a nice gesture.

070306 Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:17 PM+

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Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:17 PM

Re: Etiquette Question

I would say no. Shower is for immediate family and friends. Don't feel bad. She will be at the wedding and if you are not that close I am sure she is not expecting it.

SuzBride Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:23 PM+

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Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:23 PM

Re: Etiquette Question

Posted by 070306

I would say no. Shower is for immediate family and friends. Don't feel bad. She will be at the wedding and if you are not that close I am sure she is not expecting it.

I agree - especially if you're 'not crazy about her'!

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:25 PM+

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Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:25 PM

Re: Etiquette Question

Posted by mendara

maybe her shower was a surprise and she had no control over the guest list - perhaps there was nothing malicious about it - invite her - it will be a nice gesture.

good advice, I agree.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:26 PM+

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Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:26 PM

Re: Etiquette Question

How will the friend be involved in the wedding? Is he in the bridal party?

If so, it's etiquette to invite her to the shower...but I wouldn't if you don't get along with her.

I CAN'T STAND one of FI's Groomsman's Fiance...I made a special request for her NOT to be at the shower. I don't care!

M&S Sept12006 Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:34 PM+

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Posted: Aug 17, 2005 02:34 PM

Re: Etiquette Question

Posted by mendara

maybe her shower was a surprise and she had no control over the guest list - perhaps there was nothing malicious about it - invite her - it will be a nice gesture.

Her shower was actually not a surprise. But I hear what you're saying.

Thanks ladies for your advice...like I said Im not crazy about the girl but I dont dislike her either. FH's friend is not in the bridal party so I guess I'll just leave this whole dilemma up to whoever will be planning it. But I will emphasize the fact that I wouldn't be upset if she wasnt invited