Ok Ladies, I need some advice...

FH wants to ask his Dad to be the best man, which I think is really sweet. We were talking about it and I asked him to talk to his mom to make sure she's okay with that b/c that means they're not going to be together for most of the day. He's going to be with FH at the altar, and then with us taking pictures in the park and they're not going to see each other until the reception. FH said that his mother will just come to the park with us when we take pictures. I don't think that's fair!
I would love for my parents to be there but they can't b/c they're having everyone over after church, and usually the parents don't come along. I've never been in a wedding where the parents come to the park, let alone just the groom's parents! It's usually for the bridal party. Am I wrong?

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Well every wedding album that I have seen where the couple had pics taken at a scenic place had both sets of parents, the bridal party and sometimes even the grandparents at the park along with the bride and groom.

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I was in a wedding 2 weeks ago and and both parents went to the park for pictures.

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My FIL was my Dh's bestman as well.
We never said anything to his MIL about anything. We just asked his dad. Since all of her sons were also in the wedding - she spent those times with their wives.

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I disagree that pictures at the park are only for the bride, groom and BP. I've been to many weddings (my brother's included) where the parents went to the park too.

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Well, my parents as well as my DH's parents came along with us to the park after the church to take pictures. This is typically done at weddings that I have been to...the parents go to wherever the couple is taking pictures. That way they could enjoy the cocktail hour, not to mention you want them in your formal portraits.

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is there a way that maybe friends or other family members of your parents (an uncle, aunt, neighbor, best friend) can host the after church party at your house --- that way your parents can also attend the park if they want to?

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I guess they could ask someone to stay at the house when everyone gets there, but shouldn't the hosts be there?

I know it's 10 months away, but I don't want just one set of parents going to the park. It's either both or none.

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Posted by RCLC0506

I guess they could ask someone to stay at the house when everyone gets there, but shouldn't the hosts be there?

I know it's 10 months away, but I don't want just one set of parents going to the park. It's either both or none.

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You have to pick your battles...and one about parents when their children are getting married should not be it! Just an FYI.

People will understand if the 'hosts' are not there...after all, when were you planning on taking formal portraits?

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We were gong to take pictures either right after church or when we get to the hall. I guess if you look at it, If we do it all at the park it will save us some time.

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I had both sets of parents with us.

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Posted by RCLC0506

We were gong to take pictures either right after church or when we get to the hall. I guess if you look at it, If we do it all at the park it will save us some time.

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Pictures take forever, it does save time. Don't get stressed over this now...there'll be plenty of other things to freak out about.

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We had both sets of parents with us for pictures.

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Ok i'm weird, but I'd have an issue with that too.

It wouldn't be fair for my mom to be hosting an after church gathering, while FMIL gets to go to the park for pictures. The problem isn't that the parents are going, it's that only one set of parents are... which isn't fair (to the bride or the bride's parents).

If it isn't that big of a deal, then cool let her come, but if it does bug you.. have recommendations on what she can do.

My FH asked his dad to me his BM, and his dad said yes, and then backed-out... Needless to say I actually felt relieved, since I had no idea what to do with his mother while we went for pictures.

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My parents and my FI mom will be in the limo so they will be comming with us...his father is welcome to follow the limo if he wants. (his parents are divorced). I think the parents should be included in the photos...if they dont mind traveling to the photo site.

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When my sis did outdoor photos the parents came. We got some beautiful family pictures that way!

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Any wedding I've ever been to or have been a part of has ALWAYS had the parents come for pics... I can't imagine a wedding photo shoot without the parents...?

ETA: FH asking his Dad to be his bestman is such a wonderful, thoughtful gesture.

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Thank you everyone! I'm sure everything will work out.

His mom may want to stay at my parent's house anyway b/c her family will be there, and it's only for a few hours...

Did I mention that I am absolutely addicted to this site?

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We had the parents come with us to the park for pics, along with the BP. We did the family portraits first, then the parents left to go to the after party. No one thought it was weird that my mom and stepdad weren't there at first - b/c the food was.

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I also think that is incredibly sweet! I have never heard of a groom making his dad the BM, but that is awesome!

regarding the pics... I have seen other posts recently about this and I am confused.

if you're taking pics before the reception, why would people not have their parents there too? I understand in your case b/c your folks are hosting an after-ceremony gathering. But in other cases, I am wondering why people leave their parents out of the pretty scenic pics.

we're taking pics before, the BP and both parents will be with us the whole time.