how to tell people that....

they're not invited.
I have 11 classmates. we have been together for every class everyday for 5 years. but I cannot afford to invite them and their partners. i am only inviting 1 (my man-of-honor) b/c he is my best friend.
i am not that close w/ any other of them. but i know they are assuming they will all be invited.

1of my other classmates is getting married a month and a half before me and i know that she'll be inviting everyone (for her- money is no object).

i was thinking about telling them that we're having a small wedding- only family and close friends (which is the truth).
do you think they will be insulted?
what would be an appropriate way to convey this information? sitting them all down? only telling them if they ask?
i know the questions will start coming next week when school starts..

TIA

Re: how to tell people that....

I think that is the best you can do. Im facing the same problem too. I hate those uncomfortable positions

Re: how to tell people that....

I think your reason is perfect and that your friends should be able to understand this.

As far as telling them, it'll most likely come up naturally once school begins.

It's definitely tough to have to tell this to people.

Re: how to tell people that....

thanks ladies!
i've been having some anxiety about dealing with this issue....

Re: how to tell people that....

I think you should just say that yes you are having a small wedding with close friends and family. Thats what I'm doing b/c FI and i have alot of aquaintences, but I'm not inviting them all the wedding.. It would just get to be too much. So I think you should let them know ahead of time though. Also, I had this happen where I used to work...One of the girls talked about her wedding nonstop from the minute she got engaged...told us we were all invited, had us at her bridal shower, and then last minute told us that she couldnt have us because she didnt have enough room at the hall for us. SOOOO if you are not planning on having them at ur wedding, I would say dont have them at ur shower unless you have already let them know that they will not be at the wedding! HTH