Is the best man's toast/speech supposed to be a surprise?

I'd like to know beforehand, FH says he doesn't mind it being a surprise. But I think that is just making excuses for the fact that as of right now, BIL has no idea what he is going to say.

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I dont' think so. I know FH asked his BM if he wanted to make a speech.

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i don't think mine will be a surprise either..except only the lord knows what our best man will say

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Do you mean you want to know what he's going to say? I don't think you should. You should be suprised!

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We were surprised (pleasantly, I might add!) by both my sister's (MOH) and the BM speech.

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we were suprised and everyone did an excellent job.
Although I did hear about one horrible speach - the brother of the groom got up and thanked his new SIL 'for taking his brother and his disease ridden a-s-s off of their parents hands'. It was really bad.

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We didn't know what our BM was going to say. I do think that traditionally it is supposed to be a surprise for everyone.

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We had no idea what the BM or MOH were going to say. DH's brother (BM) didn't prepare a speech and totally winged it. It was amazing. I think it would be nice to have the speech be a surprise unless you're worried about what the BM might say.

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Ours was a surprise-and oh boy it was priceless. We still laught at it on our video.

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we're having one of fh's gm check out the speech to make sure there's nothing inappropriate or embarrassing...

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I think you should be surprised. If you're really nervous about it, get someone close to the best man-- maybe even his mom...lol-- to gently remind him that it needs to be appropriate

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I think it should be a surprise and if BIL doesnt know what hes going to say, oh well... as long as he says something nice Id be fine with it :)

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ours was a surprise.... and it was great!! our bm was a little long winded, but it was nice... and since we didn't know what he was gonna say, it made for some nice laughing, surprise pictures that the photographer of dh and i

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We were surprised. Our Best Men did an excellent job. I definitely would not have wanted to hear it beforehand. It was a nice surprise.