Father-Daughter dance

Hey everyone - what are your thoughts on this? FH had 2 daughters, so we will have 3 father-daughter dances - but we will have 3 separate songs - is that too much? We will spread them throughout the party - what do you guys think?

For me - I was thinking 'you raise me up' by Josh Groban - I will go 1st with the dance

For older daughter, we were thinking '15' by 5 for fighting since she will be 15 when we get married and FH is VERY close with her - there won't be a dry eye in the place!

For younger daughter, who will be 9, 'What a wonderful world' by Louis Armstrong

So, do you think everyone will be cool with watching 3 dances? I feel the ones with the girls will be so touching and sweet, it will be enjoyed by everyone, but I like objective opinions!

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While I think its such a sweet idea, I am trying to look at it from the point of view of a guest....
I don't want to offend, but I kind of thing 3 father-daughter dances (plus a mom-son dance, if you are doing that) is too much.... During these dances, the guests do nothing but watch. The father daughter dance traditionally is for the father 'giving away' her daughter in marriage... maybe you could do something for FH's daughters in another way, like during the ceremony.
HOwever it is your wedding and TOTALLY up to you, if you want the dances then do them!

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

While I think its such a sweet idea, I am trying to look at it from the point of view of a guest....
I don't want to offend, but I kind of thing 3 father-daughter dances (plus a mom-son dance, if you are doing that) is too much.... During these dances, the guests do nothing but watch. The father daughter dance traditionally is for the father 'giving away' her daughter in marriage... maybe you could do something for FH's daughters in another way, like during the ceremony.
HOwever it is your wedding and TOTALLY up to you, if you want the dances then do them!

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No offensive, but I agree.

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I totally agree... The father/daughter dance is meant for the father of the bride and the bride. That is what the celebration is all about. Guests are not going to really understand why there are 3 dances. Believe me I understand about wanting to include your sisters, but they are not the ones getting married that day. They will have the time to have a special dance with Dad say at their Sweet Sixteen or their Confirmation/Batmitsfa. I, on the other hand have 2 DADS! - Birth father and Stepfahter. So I will be doing 2 dances because they have both played a sigifigant role in my life. My fiance has 2 older brothers, and believe me if he was going to be having his mom dance with all three brothers for the Mother/Son dance, I'd be saying 'I don't ' at the alter! Haha!

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I understand - but let me explain , I think I was unclear- the other 2 aren't my sisters - I wouldn't do anything with my sisters like that - the girls I am talking about are my future stepdaughters, my future husband's daughters - so there is more significance there.

I know it is somehting he wants to do, and I am feeling the guests will have more connection watching since they aren't just 'some kids' dancing, but our children that we will be raising together - but I am always open to more opinions - keep em coming!!!

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While I think this is touching, one question. Will the girls understand the significance of the dances and will it mean a lot to them? Some kids are very shy about this.

Also, I think that these dances are nice, they could take up some dance time for your guests. Some people care about that more than others.

You have to do what you feel is right for you and FH and your new family.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

I understand - but let me explain , I think I was unclear- the other 2 aren't my sisters - I wouldn't do anything with my sisters like that - the girls I am talking about are my future stepdaughters, my future husband's daughters - so there is more significance there.

I know it is somehting he wants to do, and I am feeling the guests will have more connection watching since they aren't just 'some kids' dancing, but our children that we will be raising together - but I am always open to more opinions - keep em coming!!!

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I understood what you meant. Do you think he could dance with both of his daughters at the same time or maybe don't dance the entire song with each of them? They could always play half of each song for the daughters and it could cut out like 5 minutes of dancing and the guests doing nothing? Just a suggestion.

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Thats a thought - I wouldn't want to have them dance when I'm dancing with my dad since the songs are really personal, and that would leave one of the girls out when I am dancing with my dad, which may be awkward - I guess we'll figure somehting out...

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Oh, the girls will definitely know the significance to this - remember - they are big - they are 15 and 9, and they are in the BP - the 15 yo is my MOH, and the 9 yo is a jr bridesmaid - they went with us to check out places, meet the rabbi, DJ, videog, etc - they are responsible for a few free items on our contract as well since they were kind of push - they have been involved with the planning and everything since the word go!!! And those girls are definitely not SHY!!!

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

Thats a thought - I wouldn't want to have them dance when I'm dancing with my dad since the songs are really personal, and that would leave one of the girls out when I am dancing with my dad, which may be awkward - I guess we'll figure somehting out...

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Of course you should dance with your dad by yourself, but after your done the daughters can dance with their father either the 3 of them together to one song or 1/2 a song with one and 1/2 of another song with the other?

Just trying to help.

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Can't you have FH dance with each child to a set song - but have the DJ ask the crowd to join them on the dance floor? That way - it's not 15 minutes of dances. They each get their own song - but it doesn't mandate that those in attendance have to stand around and watch the whole time - they can join in too!

By the way - as a daughter who danced with her father like this at his wedding - it wasn't necessary (JMHO). My sister danced with him too - and we were both like - 'but isn't this day about you and your wife'?

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We're doing something similar. I'm dancing with my dad and then my FH will dance with his daughter. His mom passed on so we're not doing a mother/son dance, but 2 father/daughter dances. So it's still 2 dances for everyone to watch, however I think 3 might be a bit much for the guests.

Of course, I completely understand your FH wanting to have a special dance with his daughters. How about doing them together? He can start dancing with the 15 y/o and then the song can cut off and phase in the next song so he can dance with the 9 y/o. Just a thought!

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Hmmm - these are all good ideas - I guess FH will have to decide... I think 3 all at once is a little too ring-around-the-rosy looking, and takes away the personal feel he may want to have with each daughter - decisions decisions, huh? I guess the guests will be held captive no matter what we do - good thing we have the open bar!

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Posted by LMFitz

Can't you have FH dance with each child to a set song - but have the DJ ask the crowd to join them on the dance floor? That way - it's not 15 minutes of dances. They each get their own song - but it doesn't mandate that those in attendance have to stand around and watch the whole time - they can join in too!

By the way - as a daughter who danced with her father like this at his wedding - it wasn't necessary (JMHO). My sister danced with him too - and we were both like - 'but isn't this day about you and your wife'?

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I agree with this. Introduce the song as a dedication to your stepdaughter, but once they are on the dance floor, have the guests join them. I think that is what I'll do for my dance with my older brother and FH with his younger sister.

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I like the idea of having everyone join in - better than half songs - thanks guys!!!

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I'm dancing with my son, he's giving me away also. So that would be my mom/son dance. But I agree with the ladies 3 dances would be a bit much, I would suggest they do 1/2 for one and 1/2 for the other. Maybe the little one can tap him on the shoulder in the middle and 'cut it' which would be sweet as well. JMO. I agree with you though, there wouldn't be a dry eye there.

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Posted by Tommylove

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

I understand - but let me explain , I think I was unclear- the other 2 aren't my sisters - I wouldn't do anything with my sisters like that - the girls I am talking about are my future stepdaughters, my future husband's daughters - so there is more significance there.

I know it is somehting he wants to do, and I am feeling the guests will have more connection watching since they aren't just 'some kids' dancing, but our children that we will be raising together - but I am always open to more opinions - keep em coming!!!

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I understood what you meant. Do you think he could dance with both of his daughtersthe same time or maybe don't dance the entire song with each of them? They could always play half of each song for the daughters and it could cut out like 5 minutes of dancing and the guests doing nothing? Just a suggestion.

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I was thinking this too!

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I think it is so sweet to do the three dances. I do agree that it might be boring to the guests but I think you answered your own question. It seems your FH wants to do it and so do you. IT's your wedding. Do what makes you both happy.

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Yeah, ultimately people do whatever they want, don't they... I just like hearing opinions because it can be so helpful - it is easy to get blindsighted as a bride or groom, and think everything you do is a great idea and perfect - I don't get offended easily, so thanks for all the input!!!

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Hey Date Twin,

I think if you space them out, you can have all three dances.
I do think announcing the song but not clearing out the dance floor would be good for your FH and step daughters.
The girls might not feel comfortable having all that attention on them.
Good luck!