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Vent about wedding guests!!!!
ladybug78
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 12:40 PM+
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 12:40 PM
Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Not that I am ungrateful by any means or expect gifts from anyone but we went to a friends wedding 6 weeks before our own and gave a nice gift....This couple came to our wedding and didn't give us anything!!!! They told us they 'forgot' their gift and would drop it off but never did...We even got a Christmas card from them!!!!
Sorry, its just been eating at me for weeks!!!!
SomethingBlu
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 12:57 PM+
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 12:57 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
This is the place for vents...vent away!
On a happier note - Happy New Year!
mable
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 01:17 PM+
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 01:17 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Yikes..You learn a lot about people after weddings..
kbeana24
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 05:34 PM+
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 05:34 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Yup.Weddings REALLY DO bring out the best and the worst in people!
I heard this so many times but now I really truly believe it
Mrs. dleeny
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 06:03 PM+
Posted: Jan 02, 2006 06:03 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
truer words have never been spoken!
Posted by kbeana24
Weddings REALLY DO bring out the best and the worst in people!
ssdbk
Posted: Jan 03, 2006 03:43 AM+
Posted: Jan 03, 2006 03:43 AM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
For some people, my wedding was the one last chance I was giving them--and now I've written them off (see my post above).
Beth1210
Posted: Jan 03, 2006 03:14 PM+
Posted: Jan 03, 2006 03:14 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
ha ha- same thing happened to me- kinda ofI have one friend who came to my shower and NO GIFT
ok she gave it to me later
now she came to my wedding- NO GIFT
i come home from the HM and see a card from her- ok she sent something- nope just a x-mas card
are you kidding me?
luvmesumhim
Posted: Jan 03, 2006 05:55 PM+
Posted: Jan 03, 2006 05:55 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Is it an unspoken rule that all guests should bring gifts??? Is this 'why' we invite those to share our day -- in order to receive a gift? I mean, financially if they are unable to 'bless' you with a gift, should they not even consider attending, which I'm sure many would have a problem with that, as well. I'm just curious....
ladybug78
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 01:39 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 01:39 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by luvmesumhim
Is it an unspoken rule that all guests should bring gifts??? Is this 'why' we invite those to share our day -- in order to receive a gift? I mean, financially if they are unable to 'bless' you with a gift, should they not even consider attending, which I'm sure many would have a problem with that, as well. I'm just curious....
We have a few people that didn't give us gifts and there isn't a problem with that...The problem is that we went to this couples wedding 6 weeks before ours when money was tight and still gave them a nice gift.
WedHead
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 02:45 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 02:45 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by luvmesumhim
Is it an unspoken rule that all guests should bring gifts??? Is this 'why' we invite those to share our day -- in order to receive a gift? I mean, financially if they are unable to 'bless' you with a gift, should they not even consider attending, which I'm sure many would have a problem with that, as well. I'm just curious....
No, we don't invite our guests for a gift - but we're honest here and it's reality that on someone's special occasion, you give a gift, unless of course there are circumstances that prevent that.
BTW, odd first post
ShortBride
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 02:57 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 02:57 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by WedHead
Posted by luvmesumhim
BTW, odd first post
I was noticing that too!!!!!
luvmesumhim
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:22 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:22 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Absolutely right... nice observation. First post on THIS board. I usually just come here and 'observe.' I noticed a lot of upset brides that were bothered by no gifts and wanted to know the rationale.... Thanks for your explanation. If one doesn't know or understand, one should inqure. I did.No hidden or underlying message attached; simply wanted to know. Thanks again.
Beth1210
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:23 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:23 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by luvmesumhim
Is it an unspoken rule that all guests should bring gifts??? Is this 'why' we invite those to share our day -- in order to receive a gift? I mean, financially if they are unable to 'bless' you with a gift, should they not even consider attending, which I'm sure many would have a problem with that, as well. I'm just curious....
um...no- we invite to share in the special occasion
we have a few friends who are going thru a rought time finacinally- and we told them not to give us gifts
but in the case of my friend- who 'forgot' again- she makes about $100K a year
suven
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:24 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:24 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by luvmesumhim
Is it an unspoken rule that all guests should bring gifts??? Is this 'why' we invite those to share our day -- in order to receive a gift? I mean, financially if they are unable to 'bless' you with a gift, should they not even consider attending, which I'm sure many would have a problem with that, as well. I'm just curious....
IMO, if I just attended someone's wedding and gave a gift (like the original poster did) I would hope that they would at least reciprocate in some way.
I could never FATHOM receiving a gift from someone at my wedding, and then going to that person's wedding 6 weeks later empty handed.
It's almost like her guests were saying 'you just aren't worth my effortt' and it's rude.
IMO, going to a wedding empty handed is just not acceptible. Even a small trinket could be purchased for less than the cost of a cheeseburger. Something should be given to the bride and groom.
luvmesumhim
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:45 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:45 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by suven
Posted by luvmesumhim
Is it an unspoken rule that all guests should bring gifts??? Is this 'why' we invite those to share our day -- in order to receive a gift? I mean, financially if they are unable to 'bless' you with a gift, should they not even consider attending, which I'm sure many would have a problem with that, as well. I'm just curious....
IMO, if I just attended someone's wedding and gave a gift (like the original poster did) I would hope that they would at least reciprocate in some way.
I could never FATHOM receiving a gift from someone at my wedding, and then going to that person's wedding 6 weeks later empty handed.
It's almost like her guests were saying 'you just aren't worth my effortt' and it's rude.
IMO, going to a wedding empty handed is just not acceptible. Even a small trinket could be purchased for less than the cost of a cheeseburger. Something should be given to the bride and groom. [/QUOTE
Gotcha. Thanks.
ladybug78
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:49 PM+
Posted: Jan 04, 2006 04:49 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by suven
IMO, if I just attended someone's wedding and gave a gift (like the original poster did) I would hope that they would at least reciprocate in some way.
I could never FATHOM receiving a gift from someone at my wedding, and then going to that person's wedding 6 weeks later empty handed.
It's almost like her guests were saying 'you just aren't worth my effortt' and it's rude.
IMO, going to a wedding empty handed is just not acceptible. Even a small trinket could be purchased for less than the cost of a cheeseburger. Something should be given to the bride and groom.
I totally agree with everything you said!!!! If we hadn't been at their wedding a few weeks before ours, there would be no issue.
LM903
Posted: Jan 10, 2006 03:14 PM+
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by ladybug78
Not that I am ungrateful by any means or expect gifts from anyone but we went to a friends wedding 6 weeks before our own and gave a nice gift....This couple came to our wedding and didn't give us anything!!!! They told us they 'forgot' their gift and would drop it off but never did...We even got a Christmas card from them!!!!
I had a similar situation and believe me, I know how it feels. Well, what i did in the hopes of sparking their memory was send them a 'we've moved' card with our new address - so they can now mail us our gift to the right address!!!
still haven't received anything though!
SeptWed
Posted: Jan 11, 2006 09:18 AM+
Posted: Jan 11, 2006 09:18 AM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
I think i can almost top yours....DH had friends of his from work that we WERE close to. Both of them are very well off and have a million dollar home.At the wedding the guy goes up to my husband and says listen we didn't bring your gift because we give cash at weddings and we don't want you to spend in on your HM (???). Over a year later absolutely nothing and we did hang out a few times after the wedding.
We did learn a lot about them since then. He borrowed money from DH and did not pay it back until DH mentioned it to him. There was also another incident and after speaking to others that know them they apparently are well known for doing things like this. Maybe that is why they are millionairs
Needless to say we don't speak to them anymore. We also had another couple who we were very close too that DH had met at work and very well off. He told DH that they were getting us a case of a wine that i particularly love....but they could only find 6 bottles of it so far.......I guess it's been real hard to find the other 6.
They kind of dropped off the face of the earth too.You find out a lot about people when having a wedding. I found out things about friends that i knew almost my whole life. Opened my eyes to a lot of people (not just the non-gifters).
Beth1210
Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:47 PM+
Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:47 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by Beth1210
ha ha- same thing happened to me- kinda of
I have one friend who came to my shower and NO GIFT
ok she gave it to me later
now she came to my wedding- NO GIFT
i come home from the HM and see a card from her- ok she sent something- nope just a x-mas card
are you kidding me?
update- this very day I got a card with a very nice gift
ladybug78
Posted: Jan 11, 2006 04:17 PM+
Posted: Jan 11, 2006 04:17 PM
Re: Vent about wedding guests!!!!
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Beth1210
ha ha- same thing happened to me- kinda of
I have one friend who came to my shower and NO GIFT
ok she gave it to me later
now she came to my wedding- NO GIFT
i come home from the HM and see a card from her- ok she sent something- nope just a x-mas card
are you kidding me?
update- this very day I got a card with a very nice gift
That's great!!!
I actually got a bridal shower gift yesterday from FH's friends wife that didn't attend my shower over 3 months ago. 
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