Engagement Gifts

OK so one of my best friends just got engaged. They are not having an e-party as they are planning their wedding for this coming summer. So I was planning on giving them a monetary engagement gift, but then I just read in Brides magazine that it is rude to give a close friend $$$ - especially for a engagement or shower gift. Do you agree? I would love to get them a gift, but they already live together and have pretty much everything they need, and they are paying for their own wedding so I thought $$$ would be good.

Is $$$ too impersonal? UGH what do you think?

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Since they are not having an e-party, than i personally would not send money. I know you said that they are living together, but how about something that's not for their house/apartment. When my friend got engaged, i just got her something for the wedding itself. Like, i got her a wedding binder thingy to put all her info in and a subscription to martha stewart weddings. Just something different, but yet stuff she can easily use.

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One of my friends just gave me money as a gift. She was waiting to see if I was going to have an engagement party or not. She said she thought we could use the money instead of another gift. She's right, we've gotten so many gifts already, which are great, but we really really really need money.

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We gave one of our close friends money at their eparty. I didn't think it was rude. They weren't registered yet and I had no idea what their plans were for decorating, etc...

They already live together and our friend's fiancee is older and owns a lot. I figured they could use the money for whatever they wanted! I don't think they took offense.

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Have they set a date yet? My two favorite gifts are my crystal toasting flutes and my cake cutter with our engraved wedding dtae on them! I am sure they would appreciate money!

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I don't think giving money is rude, especially since they already have a lot of stuff for their home and to put it bluntly, they are going to need it anyway! If you don't feel comfortable giving this, then I agree with maybe the wedding binder and the engraved toasting flutes and cake cutter.

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I gave my BF $100. I didn't know if she was going to have a party.. then she did and I bought her a $50 gift.... I don't think it's rude to send $, people need it!!!

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I can't see how any newly engaged couple wouldn't appreciate a monetary gift. As a close friend that's also getting married you understand that they need the $$$. I don't always agree with what's in the magazines and this is one of those times!

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Well I think money is always appreciated. But if you don't want to do that, you can get them something for the wedding, like toasting flutes or a lenox cake topper.

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I actually read in a bridal magazine that its impersonal to give money for a wedding!!! I hope none of my guests read that article!!!

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Posted by MayBride06

I actually read in a bridal magazine that its impersonal to give money for a wedding!!! I hope none of my guests read that article!!!

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OMG - I can't even imagine giving anything except $$$ for a wedding. I think I will give her and her FH $$$$ and maybe a small gift. I don't want to get them toasting flutes or something like that since she hasn't picked hers out yet (and I know I am picky about that stuff).

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we did not have an engagement party. One of my oldest and bestest friends gave us a generous check and a really nice card - and it was GREATLY appreciated. We deposited it right in to our wedding fund. I was not expecting anything and I was not offended in any way.

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whaaa?? money is ALWAYS good to receive

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I think we all can use the money!!

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in many other parts of the country it might be considered rude- in New York, New Jersey, CT

I don't think it would ever be considered rude!

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I think money is fine...especially since that is what FH&I need right now. Maybe you could do a very small personal gift as well. My friends just gave me an ornament with our names and date on it. I love it!

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We didn't have an e-party either. Most people sent us registry gifts and our parents gave us $$$. I would have LOVED to get $$$.

I think it's totally acceptable. I'm sure they'll put it to good use.

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I can't see how any newly engaged couple wouldn't appreciate a monetary gift. As a close friend that's also getting married you understand that they need the $$$. I don't always agree with what's in the magazines and this is one of those times!

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i couldn't have said it better. i totally agree - $$ also seems to be more useful to them @ this time.

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Money always helps but my favorite gift when i got engaged was a book i believe was called 'bridal bargains' which is by far the best thing i have received since getting engaged - it helped soo much when it came to planning.

Personally I'd buy the book, a nice card, tuck some money into the card write a nice note and tuck it into the book!

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Posted by Mystere

Money always helps but my favorite gift when i got engaged was a book i believe was called 'bridal bargains' which is by far the best thing i have received since getting engaged - it helped soo much when it came to planning.

Personally I'd buy the book, a nice card, tuck some money into the card write a nice note and tuck it into the book!

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I might just do exactly that! Thanks