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Just curious... I was reading a post, and people were talking about how they were really stressed out about wedding planning, and I was just wondering... if you're that stressed out now, how are you going to handle it when you're only a few months away from the day?

I don't mean that in a 'you imbeciles you need to calm down kind of way' (although I'm aware it could be interepreted as that), but rather in, honestly, how will you handle it? I assume that if wedding stuff is getting to you now, at least a year+ in advance, that stress will be at least doubled when the wedding is closer. So, how will you cope with that?

And also, what exactly is stressing you out right now? Is it saving money? Family issues? The planning itself? Will your coping strategy differ depending on the source of stress?

Just thought it might be an interesting topic to discuss - people get so worked up about weddings and things surrounding weddings (their own weddings and other people's weddings), so I thought it might be interesting to talk about what we get so worked up over, and how we deal with that.

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My wedding is still a ways away, so I haven't entered the realm of hardcore stress yet, but as certain issues come up, I do find myself stressing and having anxiety...the 2 biggest issues were 1)inviting children to the reception and 2) the idea of having the reception on a yacht.
I was all for having my younger cousins come...I have grown up with them, and couldn't imagine them not being there...FH's fam follows etiquette very closely- so they weren't fond of children being there. (That issue is solved---they are coming!! haha)
As far as the reception being on the boat...it's still an issue. Certain family members (Who shall remain un-named) are opposed to the idea.
Now that I am writing this...I see that the stress I have been experiencing is a result of family related issues!! So there you go! lol
Is anyone else experiencing similiar things?

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Ahh stress. I was very stressed when planning my e-perty. My mom was constantly giving me her 2 cents. You know the 'oh, well you have to do this' and 'you can't do that, it's night right'. Hi, hello it's my (our) party don't tell me what I have to do and what I can't do. I can do whatever I want. So now that we are in full wedding mode the parents aren't really involved. Yes, we showed them the hall the day we were booking it, they will attend a tasting and we tell them when we offically book something but as far as reaslly getting involved, I can't have it. Thank God his parents have no interest in the planning (probably since they feel bad that they cannot contribute). I was literally breaking out in hives when planning the e-party and now the wedding is a piece of cake. We will all run into bump in the road it's just how you handle it that makes the difference. Good luck to all the bride's and groom's.

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my stress is mainly coming from where I am going to get the money for all of these vendors in the next year and 3 months. I also am finishing up my masters so trying to plan and do school work and running my household is sometimes a handful. So I guess I can say my stress is from life. For me it will be easier closer to the wedding though.. by then school will be done, most of the major planning will be done and then I can just concentrate on making the money to pay off the vendors... good luck everyone!

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My stress is money.

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biggest stress for me is money. What if we both dont get jobs as teachers in September?

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I don’t want to be the bearer of this news, but wedding stress doesn’t get any easier. The closer you get to the event, the more stressed you will become. Even if you’re one of the lucky brides to have no family drama, the anxiety of wanting it all to go right on the big day will stress you out.

A month before my wedding I was at my wits end! (some call this bride brain LOL)

I made a decision one weekend that this was my last month of being an engaged woman, FOREVER and I was going to enjoy it come hell or high water!

Umm, that lasted for the rest of the weekend and a few days later I was back to having bride brain

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ive been pretty ok, but have had some stress definately, its mostly money, and stupid little family comments...i also have a lot going on NWR that is stressful so i think its mixing in

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The details stress you out, there are so many nices things out there to make your wedding day yours and perfect and that just adds stress to the issue. Money is a big one too.

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I was a little stressed out awhile ago mostly about budget and guest list. I'm much more excited now.

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Honestly ...

I know I shouldn't complain about this but it does bother me, FIl's want to pay for the whole wedding, however that would mean planning would leave our hands as primary & go to theres, I'd rather pay half & still have the type of wedding we want w/ a a DJ & live entertainment, etc.

The other issue is:
Guest list, I have a huge family my mom's one of 12 children & FH has a small family,

I smoke, it's terrible I know but in the middle of a debate the nicotine relaxes me,

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Posted by Athee07

biggest stress for me is money. What if we both dont get jobs as teachers in September?

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ah, don't say that! I'm so nervous about getting a job for next year...

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Posted by chellynyc

My stress is money.

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Mine tooooooo

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Posted by JazzyT

The details stress you out, there are so many nices things out there to make your wedding day yours and perfect and that just adds stress to the issue. Money is a big one too.

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Exactly....

It's like u know that u are only doing this one time and u want to make sure that u have everything for this one day!!!