MOH Rant - Sorry long - Re post from 06 board

I'm so upset about MOH. We work together so, we see each other everyday, don't you know she never mentions anything about the wedding, nothing!! If I don't mention something or ask something the subject would never be approached. back in December I was like, my mom wants to talk to you about the BS and at the time she was like, oh, I'm in school and when school is done I can focus more on it. When school ended I think she called my mom once and since then, nothing. I spoke to her about, it seems as if she could care less about my wedding and she was like, oh, it's not that, she trying to reapply for school for the new semester and she's haveing problems and that's why she hasn't really gotten into it. I'm like, what does that have to do with asking me what's going on or what I'm going to need help with, I see you everyday!! I try to not let it bother me, but I can't help it. She hasn't even asked me anything about the bachelorette party(I was thinking I would like to do it at Foxwoods the weekend of my Bday March 25 so I figured we'd all go Mar 24 - Mar 26). I've shared this with her, but she I guess just ignored it. I'm thinking of making one of my other BM my second MOH (FI may be asking one of his brothers to be his second BM) and see if she can take over where my first MOH never picked up. What do you ladies think?

Re: MOH Rant - Sorry long - Re post from 06 board

Sorry to hear your stress. Sounds very similar to what I went through...

Does she know what her role as a MOH is? My MOH has never been in a wedding so she didn't know what her job entailed - and I wouldn't have known this unless one of my BM had tipped me off. I was getting mad at her for not doing anything or being more active...I gave her one of those lists and that helped a lot.

Plus this school thing may have been a HUGE deal for her or she may not be a wedding person and just doesn't get as excited - lots of reasons for her behavior...my MOH ignored my comments re my bachelorette party because she was planning a surprise one...

You should talk to her directly and tell her you need her to be a more active MOH, rather than letting it eat you up. You work with her, you have to see her every day, you don't want to make things even more uncomfortable by not talking it out...