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xcalystax
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Member since 11/05 2651 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/17/2006 2:00 PM
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Leonard's of Great Neck
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Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
I am so mad! My mom told me last night that my father wants to pay for the OOT guests to stay in a hotel for up to 3 nights!! Some of our relatives are coming from other countries and he feels bad they can't stay at the apartment and about the extra expense for them!(so don't come is what I say!) I mean honestly are any of you doing this? I really feel they are taking advantage of my parents with this kind of set up!
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Posted 1/23/06 1:01 PM 
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FallBride05
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Member since 7/05 3406 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/13/2005 12:30 PM
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Crest Hollow Country Club
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Honestly, I think it's a nice gesture. We went to an OOT wedding last summer and the grooms family paid for the hotel rooms. We were very appreciative of that because we had spent alot of money to fly there and rent a car.
Message edited 1/23/2006 1:03:27 PM.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:03 PM
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smara
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8/26/2006 1:30 PM
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Posted by xcalystax
I am so mad! My mom told me last night that my father wants to pay for the OOT guests to stay in a hotel for up to 3 nights!! Some of our relatives are coming from other countries and he feels bad they can't stay at the apartment and about the extra expense for them!(so don't come is what I say!) I mean honestly are any of you doing this? I really feel they are taking advantage of my parents with this kind of set up!
I am not paying for OOT guests because I cant afford it. I am also having ppl come from other countires. If your dad is able to do it, it really is a nice gesture but not necessary.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:05 PM
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xcalystax
Call me Mrs. M ! :)
Member since 11/05 2651 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/17/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Posted by smara
Posted by xcalystax
I am so mad! My mom told me last night that my father wants to pay for the OOT guests to stay in a hotel for up to 3 nights!! Some of our relatives are coming from other countries and he feels bad they can't stay at the apartment and about the extra expense for them!(so don't come is what I say!) I mean honestly are any of you doing this? I really feel they are taking advantage of my parents with this kind of set up!
I am not paying for OOT guests because I cant afford it. I am also having ppl come from other countires. If your dad is able to do it, it really is a nice gesture but not necessary.
I think he is going to try to work overtime to pay for this...he does blue collar work and is 61 years old! My fam is big on the guilt trips and he always falls for it...its so aggravating!
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Posted 1/23/06 1:07 PM
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SuzBride
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Wedding Date:
7/8/2006 11:30 AM
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Land's End :) 11!
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
That is a very nice gesture on his part - but make sure he knows it isn't necessary. I was considering paying part of my OOT guests room cost - like $20 per room per night - so it was a lower cost - but I just don't have the $$$.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:09 PM
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smara
Member since 12/05 3169 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 1:30 PM
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Posted by xcalystax
Posted by smara
I am not paying for OOT guests because I cant afford it. I am also having ppl come from other countires. If your dad is able to do it, it really is a nice gesture but not necessary.
I think he is going to try to work overtime to pay for this...he does blue collar work and is 61 years old! My fam is big on the guilt trips and he always falls for it...its so aggravating!
Awe.. than I dont think he should kill himself to please the family. My family is like that too.. I would try to talk him out of it, especially since that is going to be heavy on the wallet. 3 Nts per person is a hole lot of money. what hotels are you guys looking at?
Hispanics are always trying to get freebies!!
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Posted 1/23/06 1:11 PM
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xcalystax
Call me Mrs. M ! :)
Member since 11/05 2651 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/17/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Posted by smara
Posted by xcalystax
Posted by smara
I am not paying for OOT guests because I cant afford it. I am also having ppl come from other countires. If your dad is able to do it, it really is a nice gesture but not necessary.
I think he is going to try to work overtime to pay for this...he does blue collar work and is 61 years old! My fam is big on the guilt trips and he always falls for it...its so aggravating!
Awe.. than I dont think he should kill himself to please the family. My family is like that too.. I would try to talk him out of it, especially since that is going to be heavy on the wallet. 3 Nts per person is a hole lot of money. what hotels are you guys looking at?
Hispanics are always trying to get freebies!!
You know it girl! If we visit them..we pay! If they visit us....we pay! its definitely a trend!! The panamerican hotel on Qns Blvd is close to the ceremony site plus they have a shuttle so I am assuming that's the one he was thinking about.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:13 PM
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JanuaryBride06
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Please let your dad know that he doesn't need to kill himself with overtime to please the family. While it is VERY generous of him to want to do that, family shouldn't guilt him into doing it.
If they say that they won't come because your dad's not paying for their room - then it's up to you and your family if it's worth paying for their hotel stay to have them celebrate with you.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:15 PM
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mark'smama
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1/27/2007 3:30 PM
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Message edited 9/6/2006 9:33:17 AM.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:18 PM
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hsacks23r
I was a fun bride
Member since 1/05 6086 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/13/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Three Village Inn
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
WE are paying for 1/2 the bill for everyone who is staying over night, we are having it at an Inn and whant our familys and friends to stay overnight and have a GREAT time drinking and dancing. :):)
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Posted 1/23/06 1:22 PM
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nygirl77
It's over already??
Member since 9/05 1818 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 11:45 AM
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Fox Hollow
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
That's nice of your dad - but that's a big obligation!
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Posted 1/23/06 1:23 PM
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smara
Member since 12/05 3169 total posts
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8/26/2006 1:30 PM
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
Posted by xcalystax
Posted by smara
Posted by xcalystax
Posted by smara
I am not paying for OOT guests because I cant afford it. I am also having ppl come from other countires. If your dad is able to do it, it really is a nice gesture but not necessary.
I think he is going to try to work overtime to pay for this...he does blue collar work and is 61 years old! My fam is big on the guilt trips and he always falls for it...its so aggravating!
Awe.. than I dont think he should kill himself to please the family. My family is like that too.. I would try to talk him out of it, especially since that is going to be heavy on the wallet. 3 Nts per person is a hole lot of money. what hotels are you guys looking at?
Hispanics are always trying to get freebies!!
You know it girl! If we visit them..we pay! If they visit us....we pay! its definitely a trend!! The panamerican hotel on Qns Blvd is close to the ceremony site plus they have a shuttle so I am assuming that's the one he was thinking about.
Exactly..You said it chica!! I was curious about the hotels cause there isnt any by my church (Qns Village), so I was looking around Leonards.. but I never thought about looking on Qns Blvd.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:28 PM
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mka06
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 7/05 1171 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/24/2006 12:00 AM
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booked!
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
that is not necessary unless your family can easily afford it. we are not paying for our oot guests and we have many. i have attended a number of weddings OOT and never had my room paid for........
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Posted 1/23/06 1:31 PM
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Summer101
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
We have a similar problem- My Fh was a best man in a wedding upstate and the father paid for him to stay in a hotel for 2 nights and now that he will be in our wedding party- do we have to pay for him to stay? My FH's father died when he was 7 and my FMIL doesnt have a lot of money.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:35 PM
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andri
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Member since 6/05 196 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/10/2005 7:00 PM
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North Ritz Club
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Re: Dad wants to pay for OOT guests's hotel!
I PERSONALLY paid hotel for all my OOT guests, I felt bad for my girlfriends who had to pay airfare. My IL's actually paid airfare & accomidations for all their guests from EUROPE! 
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Posted 1/23/06 1:36 PM
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