Big Wedding Plan Changes... (a bit long)

Okay. So some of you may have read the previous post regarding my cousin dropping out of our wedding party. This is the latest in a long list of issues my FH and I have had with my family (I don't have an immediate family so I'm referring to extended family only) with regards to our wedding plans. Originally, we were going to have a destination wedding and then a NY reception later on down the line. We changed our plans (which hindsite now tells me wasn't the best decision) and decided to have a NY wedding to accomodate my family who said they really wanted to be involved. Well, the long and short of it is that after a series of incidents where my extended family has shown just how much they truly don't care (and I'm not being melodramatic), we've decided to go back to our original plans of having an extremely intimate wedding with just FH's immediate family and a few select friends. In total, about 30 people will be invited. I'm rambling a bit here because I just can't believe that after being in my family for 31 yrs, I now realize just how insignificant the term 'family' is to some members. I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm being harsh on my family. Maybe one day I'll be able to go into more details. I just wanted to tell everyone we're basically moving our wedding up and doing something completely different than originally planned. I'm sure I'll need lots of advice on things so I hope I can still post questions. Thanks so much to everyone. You are all an amazing group of people.

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Theresa - only you and Craig know what's best for the two of you. I wish you nothing but joy and happiness on your day (whenever it is)!!! Good luck with the change in plans, and may your wedding be everything the TWO of you dreamed of!!!

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As long as you are marrying your best friend, and you have some family and friends there that love and care about you, then you will have a truly amazing wedding. I wish you and your FH the best!!

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sounds like you are making the best out of a difficult situation!!!!!!!

i am so happy for you!!! let us know about your changes as they happen!!!

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I'm sorry to hear about your family acting that way. It seems that weddings can bring out the worst in people, which is very unfortunate. At least you and your FH are making the best of it, and when the big day comes, you will be surrounded by people who truly care about you. Good luck to you, and keep posting!!!

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I'm sorry your family is giving you such a hard time. Good luck with you new plans, I'm sure everything will be wonderful. Are you going back to your original plan of a destination wedding? We're having a small wedding because FH really doesn't like large crowds and attention, if I can help in any way, please ask!

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Wow, that is too bad that your family has disappointed you, but at least you will be having the wedding that YOU want and the people that really matter will be there.

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I'm so sorry you have to go though all this b s - how soon are you guys planning on getting married then?

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Theresa, do what is best for you and Craig, not everyone else!!! If this is what you truly wanted to begin with, then you are much better off in the long run!

Like I told you, you can choose your friends but not your family. Even serial killers have relatives.

If you need any help with a destination wedding, we are all here to help!! And should you decide on PR, then I can really help!!

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i am glad you decided what makes you both happy and what will mean more to you...

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Do what you want and enjoy every minute of it!!!!

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Thank you again everyone. We've not yet decided what it is exactly we're going to do. FH said he really wants us to do something where I can still wear my dress, we'll have flowers and all the usual things. We just don't know yet if that means going somewhere, having it on the beach somewhere here on LI, having a very small restaurant reception or even a back yard wedding. I still feel very sad over the situation with my family but I'm truly drawing a lot of positive energy from all of you here. Thank you and I'll let you know as we make some decisions.

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All the best to you and FH. Just remember that it is your important day, and to have those who truly care for you there.

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Theresa... The important thing here is that you are marrying the man of your dreams. Everything else is well.... everything else. I'm glad that you didn't loose sight of whats really important... not the big wedding & fancy decor, but the fact that you found the love of your live and intend on marrying him no matter what. Kudos to you girl. Destination weddings are absolutely beautiful!!!

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Theresa, you have to do what is best for the both of you! IMO, if your family is upset (And i know how that is because of FH's family being upset about basically everything) then LET THEM BE upset! They have proven that they are not interested and dont care, so its time to take things into your own hands and do what makes you happy!! GOOD LUCK!!!

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Theresa, it stinks that this has happened. Howver, you and Craig can now have the wedding YOU want. The day is all about you and Craig and the love you share. No matter where you have it, it is going to be incredible because those who truly love you and are happy for you will be there to celebrate! Please, if you need any help, let me know. I am more than willing to help you!

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Theresa, it stinks that this has happened. Howver, you and Craig can now have the wedding YOU want. The day is all about you and Craig and the love you share. No matter where you have it, it is going to be incredible because those who truly love you and are happy for you will be there to celebrate! Please, if you need any help, let me know. I am more than willing to help you!

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Thank you so much, Hollie. You are so right and I may just take you and all the other ladies up on the offer! I think everything happens for a reason and we're working on a plan that will make Craig and I happy. I'll probably have the details by tomorrow (we work fast in our house!) Thank you so much to everyone. Words cannot begin to express my gratitude.

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I too have learned true colors of family members...it ***** and can be very hurtful..so i am sorry you are experiencing this as well. It sounds like you have made the best decision..fh will be your family now and that is what's important...Sounds like you are going to have a beautiful wedding!!!

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I also called Burton's today and they are going to call the designer to see if they can expedite my dress order a bit. Since we're moving the wedding up, I'd need it to be in by August versus early October. I think I'm really getting into this whole wedding idea now...

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It's great, Theresa, that you and Craig are getting excited about the wedding again!