For those who are having/had ceremony at the same place as reception hall...

I am a school consultant, and some of the moms of the kids I have worked with for several years would like to come to the ceremony with the kids.

I would LOVE that - but I'm getting married at Harborclub, and it will be outside - not sure how many it will hold on the balcony, and also - as long as they leave after the ceremony - would that be ok? Is anyone allowed to come the way they would at a church?

also - would it be ok if some of them stay for the cocktail hr? I mean, thats an area where there is nonstop food, and theres always more than enough - I once accompanied 2 siblings with autism to their cousin's bar mitzva, and although i didn't get a seat (my job was to play with them in another room) - the family still had me accompany them at cocktail hour and eat since I wouldnt be able to eat later, and there wasnt a problem with anyone...

I would love for them to be there so I can say hi - these are children with autism, and it would mean the world to both of us to get to see each other and say hi - but is it allowed - at Harborclub or otherwise?

TIA

Re: For those who are having/had ceremony at the same place as reception hall...

I am not sure. I would call the Harbor Club and ask. They would be able to give you the best answer.

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

I am not sure. I would call the Harbor Club and ask. They would be able to give you the best answer.

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I'm afraid officially the answer may be no, but unofficially it could happen if people are subtle... Sneaky, i know, but I was hoping maybe its been done before and someone could help me with this?

Re: For those who are having/had ceremony at the same place as reception hall...

I asked my hall and they said 'of course!'

Definitely check with your hall first...they might surprise you...besides...could you tell a Bride no.

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Posted by 103005FallBride

I asked my hall and they said 'of course!'

Definitely check with your hall first...they might surprise you...besides...could you tell a Bride no.

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oooh - thats great to know - thanks!!!

Re: For those who are having/had ceremony at the same place as reception hall...

I don't know, I agree that it would be nice to ask the hall. But i am also thinking what if some how they try to tack on more $$$. I really don't know what I'd do! Sorry hun!

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The only thing i'm thinking about doing it on the sly is that you are talking about children. chances are your maitre d' is going to know how many people you said were supposed to be there, including how many children. They may not be as inconspicuous as you hope. I would talk to the hall and see what they say.

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Argh - what to do???

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I would def ask the Harbor Club. Most likely they won't have a problem with it, but I think it's better to be upfront than to be sneaky about the kids, you know what I mean.

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You should ask the hall but only because of the cocktail hour. How could they refuse people at a ceremony? I think they could give you a hard time with the cocktail hour since they serve according to your headcount. So they may not be happy about it.