Bouquet and Garder Toss

My FH and I have been arguing over this decision for the past couple of days. I want to do the bouquet toss to the single women, have my FH take my garder off and toss it to the single men then have the guy that caught the garder put it on (with his teeth, maybe?) the girl that caught the bouquet. I think it would be fun. But my FH ( with his mothers influence) wants to give the bouquet away to the couple who has been married the longest after the first dance. It's a sweet idea, but I think my way is more fun.

I suggested that we get two bouquets and do both, but he said it loses it's point if the bouquet wasn't used in the ceremony. I'm started to think he just doesn't want to do the garder toss in front of his parents.

Is anyone else doing the bouquet and garder toss? What should I do?

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I m doing them but Im unsure if I am having garter catcher out it on the bouquet catcher. I think depending on who catches it.. it could be uncomfortable for them.

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We're just doing the BoK toss. We aren't doing the Garter toss bc FH doesn't like it, and I agree it brings down the elegance of the wedding. Tho I'm all for it if fun is what you're going for.

I suggest that you give your BoK to the couple married the longest. Then have your florist make a throw-away BoK that you throw to the single women.

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Having your hubby take the garter off with his teeth is one thing. Having a possible stranger doing it to anyone I know another thing altogether.

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I am not doing the Bo-K toss because I don't have too many single people at the wedding. We are doing the anniversary dance instead.
I have been to 6 weddings in the past year or so and no one did the Bo-K toss with the garter. Some gave away the bo-K another way and some did not give it away at all.
If you feel like there is a big single crowd then do it. It is what you and FH wants to do.
How many single people do you think you have??
How many married people do you have???
Good Luck with whatever way you decide to go

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Posted by cindyandkevin

We're just doing the BoK toss. We aren't doing the Garter toss bc FH doesn't like it, and I agree it brings down the elegance of the wedding. Tho I'm all for it if fun is what you're going for.

I suggest that you give your BoK to the couple married the longest. Then have your florist make a throw-away BoK that you throw to the single women.

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omg I totally agree!! Once i went to a wedding where the guy had to put it on a stranger and I thought it was SOO gross..then the girl got really uncomfy and kinda got him to quit around her calf.

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I'm doing the boquet and garter toss, but we aren't going to expect the guy to put it on the girl with his teeth - just his hands to her knee (more than likely). We have a lot of the younger group at our wedding w/GF-BF, but not engaged/married, so we know it will be one of them that goes after it. I agree with you, it gets the party revved up and everyone has a good time w/it!!!!

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We're doing the garter and bouquet toss. My aunt and uncle have been married for 53 years and we just added them into our program. On the last page of our wedding program it reads.....

AuntieXXXXX and UncleXXXXXX
Thanks so much for being an inspiration to us. your dedication and committment to one another has taught us the true meaning and value of marriage. May the rest of your years together be as graceful as your last.

we are also giving the first person that sent in their RSVP and our aunt and uncle a gift certificate to dinner

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Im doing both. we both have a lot of single friends. also fh friends are friendly with my bms.
I don't see the big deal if the guy who catches the garter puts it on the girl who catches the bo-k
You people need to lighten up.

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maybe it's a cultural thing or something--but the garter/bo-k toss is something that i just think has to be done! and all the weddings i went to...many times the guy did put the garter on the girl with his teeth or hand. lol

perhaps your FMIL is a bit conservative and doesn't like idea?

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Personally we're older & there really aren't many single friends/family and I noticed at the past few weddings we've gone to people are hesitant to catch the bo-k/garter.

We're doing an anniversary dance in place of this.

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Most of our friends are in relationships, but not married or engaged. I still think it would be fun to do the garter toss. I like both ideas actually. I guess I'll to talk my FH into it.