With wedding planning, do you sometimes feel materialistic?

Our weddings are supposed to be an amazing time, full of love and celebration. But there are so many things to buy for the wedding, little details and such. I get so excited when I get a dress monogram, or unity candle, I feel so materialistic. I like stuff just like everyone else, and usually my stuff has sentimental value. But is it bad to get so excited over a soon to be mrs hoody (which I'll post tonight of course ) or other wedding things? Do you know what I mean? I absolutely can't wait to be married to my best friend, and I know that is the most important thing. But why do I get excited with wedding 'stuff'?

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i love 'stuff' - wedding or otherwise. i really am not biased when it comes to getting 'stuff' - its just fun. i cant xplain it....

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I love 'stuff'- my materialism will be and are the photos! I've been making lists like crazy of what I want and what I expect - not to mention buying table cameras and photos albums to put them in and getting frames. It's the one part that I will be in complete control of up until the day of, whether the photogrpaher wants it or not!!!!!!!

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No, not really. You only do it big, once in your life.

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Sometimes I feel like this too but the good thing is I can get online and share my joy with the ladies here. Otherwise, I would tell friends and family and they don't always understand the joy of such little things.

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YES! I was never a girly girl or really into stuff like weddings, and now I find myself obsessing over the little details (linen colors, favors coordinating, slipper baskets). I was talking to a college friends and he started to laugh at me cause he said he couldn't believe how 'into' wedding planning I was. It just was never my style! HAHA - I only plan to get married once though so I want it to be perfect

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That's true, you only do it once. That's why I'm trying to do everything I want for the wedding and have no regrets

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Yes, it is your big day and you should be excited. That is why I love this site too because everyone is going through the same things and understands all the excitement.

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Beth, I totally know what you are saying.

I definitely feel that way. I think it's because I am so practical that spending so much $$$ for one day, really gets to me sometimes. Then other times, I'm like, eff it, this day will only happen once and I want it to be the best it can be.

I had a friend from FL ask me how much the wedding was costing and I was embarrassed to tell her the truth!!!!!!!

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I think I know what you mean Beth. You're right, the most important part is marrying your FH and we shouldn't lose sight of that throughout this process. But in reality, esp for those of us already living together, our relationships aren't really going to change that much after the wedding. I think it's all the 'stuff' that makes the wedding and our marriages seem more REAL. That's why you're getting excited, bc those are tangible things that you can actually SEE coming together!!! Don't worry, you're not being materialistic as long as you keep your love for each other at the forefront of your planning!!

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I think I know what you mean Beth. You're right, the most important part is marrying your FH and we shouldn't lose sight of that throughout this process. But in reality, esp for those of us already living together, our relationships aren't really going to change that much after the wedding. I think it's all the 'stuff' that makes the wedding and our marriages seem more REAL. That's why you're getting excited, bc those are tangible things that you can actually SEE coming together!!! Don't worry, you're not being materialistic as long as you keep your love for each other at the forefront of your planning!!

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Cindy...i love you!!! So on point!!!

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I don't think there is anything wrong with getting excited about the material things. All of these things we are going to do once in our lives, and we want to have things to remember it by. Like Cindy said, as long as you remember the most important thing - that you are getiing married that day, and thats really what its all about, then don't worry about loving the material things. I think problems start when brides forget they are actually getting married. They are so jaded by the 'Wedding' they forget the reason thet are having the 'wedding'. Just don't forget that reason. Also remember not to stress over every little detail - like the invitations for your envelopes (just an example)