(sorry darn cat!) Girls I need some guest list help.

Okay shortly after I became engaged my cousin Kelly whom I rarely see (we were once close) IMs me telling me the good news thats shes having a baby. I'm very happy for her, even told her about my engagement. We chatted every now and then about baby names and if its a girl could I use her as a FG and so on.
We she wasn't married at the time but with her long term boyfriend. A few months later I IM'ed her younger sister asking if there was going to be a baby shower and if she knew where kelly was regestered. Well she tells me that Kelly got married. This was news to me but her sister Faith told me it was very small, just close family and they want to do a big wedding after the baby is born. Okay I understand that. I find out the info for the shower and show up early to help. Well kelly had a lot of friends telling me about her wedding. Many of them were there. I tried not to take it to heart, we weren't as close as we use to be.
A yr ago I got a letter in the mail about some little party she was throwing. It was this adult party that sells adult toys. It was fun, but joe pointed out she only wanted you there so you would buy stuff off her. I told him shes not like that. But at the party I was pretty much politely told that I wouldn't be invited to their sons christianing and a hinted I might not be invited to their wedding ceremony.
I had already handed them the invite to my E-party. Okay, their tight on money and I can't ask them to pay for my FH and my plate at a wedding or christianing. Okay no big deal. She came to by eparty gave me a gift card and chatted with me for a bit.
But now I need to trim my guest list and my FH wants to trim her. I'm kinda agreeing. But I don't know if I should. She did come to my E-party. What should I do. I'm sorry this is long.

Re: (sorry darn cat!) Girls I need some guest list help.

If you've got to trim the list then I'd cut her. She hasn't invited you to her affairs for whatever reason, so you are certainly justified to do the same.

Re: (sorry darn cat!) Girls I need some guest list help.

I just feel odd because we talked about my wedding so much. But after being told I'm not invited to anything in her life I kinda don't want her there.

Re: (sorry darn cat!) Girls I need some guest list help.

I think I would invite. If you guys have been friends in the past, maybe by you being the bigger person and inviting her would get your friendship on track again. If not, at least you know you tried.

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It's up to you...if you plan on having a relationship with her after you're married, then go ahead and invite her. If you don't, then cut her. Plain and simple. The fact that you weren't invited to any of her events would be reason enough for me to disinvite her and her family. You're by no means wealthy, so she shouldn't give you the 'I'm broke' speech.

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Posted by EmberLynn

I just feel odd because we talked about my wedding so much. But after being told I'm not invited to anything in her life I kinda don't want her there.

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If you don't want her there, then cut her. It doesn't matter how much you've discussed the wedding with her.

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Posted by October Bliss

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Posted by EmberLynn

I just feel odd because we talked about my wedding so much. But after being told I'm not invited to anything in her life I kinda don't want her there.

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If you don't want her there, then cut her. It doesn't matter how much you've discussed the wedding with her.

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agreed.

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Posted by EmberLynn

I just feel odd because we talked about my wedding so much. But after being told I'm not invited to anything in her life I kinda don't want her there.

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you hit it on the head without us sweetie!

she should be CUT..

remember the words- the only people you shoul have at YOUR wedding are those YOU love, and those that LOVE you...

she can definitely be left on the cutting room floor, with no guilt or regret!

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I think I'm going to put her on the B list. If I can invite her I will if I can't I won't stress it. Thank you girls. I just hate doing this. A part of me thinks shes mad that I won't use her son as a ring bearer.