My own mother is driving me crazy

don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but she's starting to get on my nerves. She thinks that sending STD a year before the wedding is too early, and the sending them to my guests in Poland is silly, because it's not something that's done over there. FH and I are going to BB&B this weekend to register and her reaction was "isn't it a bit too early?" According to her I'm doing everthing too early. But so far I just have the hall and church booked. My friend is doing my video as a gift. My aunt is a florist, she's actually a vendor on here, so naturally i'm trusting her with my flowers. I'm signing a dj this weekend and meeting with a photograph on saturday.

I tried to explain to her that I'm graduating a little less than two months before the wedding and I want to keep the stress to a minimum, and therefore planning everything early. But she doesn't seem to understand that.

I just needed to vent, sorry.

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other people (even our own mothers) sometimes do not understand how much effort and time it takes to plan a "long island" wedding. vendors book quickly here. and i know how hard it is to do the school/work/wedding planning thing, and trust me---you are doing the best for yourself by getting stuff done now while you have the time! i graduate this may and the wedding is this july and aug i start my grad program...in NC!!! i only wish i got more done earlier than i did...best wishes!! ~lacey

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It's not too early don't worry about what mom says. She's not the one handling it, you are.

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the earlier, the better. And it gives you more time to visit lots of vendors to pick the BEST one, without feeling the pressure that someone else will book them. Plus, you might be able to get 2006 rates for 2007 if you book stuff now. If you have b-days or any holidays or housewarmings, registering early allows people to shop off your registry for gifts... not just for the wedding. Plus, people might decide to get you engagement gifts. I will say that I have to totally re-do my registry and get rid of a lot of stuff that we had to buy when we bought our stuff.

I gave my Save the Date magnets out at our E-party in August '05... and I'm not getting married until this November! I think you're fine! Just enjoy it! Planning is the MOST fun! Just tell your mom that doing all this now is exciting and makes YOU happy, and that's all the matters!

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It's never to early to start booking-it gives you the most choice and the best pricing options imo. I wish I had started earlier (I had a little over a year).

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Just tell mom to sit back and relax and not to worry if it is too early or what to mail, that you guys have everything under control and you know what to do and what not to do. Then give her a big kiss and a hug .
We are starting to look for a florist, If you don't mind can I ask who your aunt is?

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Posted by jnrrb

We are starting to look for a florist, If you don't mind can I ask who your aunt is?

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people are very out of the loop these days!!! just explain to your mom that the sooner stuff gets done the sooner you can focus on finishing up skool!!!! as for everyone else.....screw em!

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My mom said the same thing to me when I got engaged in May. I was so annoyed because she really didn't say that to my other sisters'. I am excited about planning the wedding and when I just want to check things out, it's "Oh its to early to look at invites." I know but its not like I am ordering them now. Whatever, I just ignore her comments, she to wrapped up with my sister's baby shower this coming May. I am use to not getting attention.


Ignore her remarks and plan your wedding the way you and FH want.

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I too am thinking of sending out the Save the Dates ASAP! Particularly to our families overseas. Many will be coming from Ireland... and although they know we're getting married, I want to send them the specifics. We don't think we are going to send STD's to our whole list, but defintiely to our family and friends overseas... I think that way, you're being fair to them so that they have plenty of time to get a good deal on a flight and other travel expenses. the earlier they book, the better deal they might get. if mom is freaking, maybe you could say you're just trying to be consdierate of the needs of your overseas guests. GOOD LUCK!

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Word to the wise...it's never too early!! I was engaged in 2/05 and had every major vendor booked and my dress ordered by May of 2005. Every one commented on how early I was doing things and didn't understand why. Well, My mother was then diagnosed with cancer in June of 2005 and I spent the next five or so months in a wedding planning stalemate due to my mom's illness. At that time, every one said that it was great that I got things done so early.

The moral of the story is why put off until tomorrow the things you can do today. You never know what unexpected things life may bring. Good luck sweetie!!

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It is never too early to do something. I got engaged in August and by December I had a lot of my stuff done.

It was good for me because I was able to take a break for the next couple of months and enjoy the holidays and work on finding a place to live!

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I think its good that you get things done early it minimizes the stress closer to the Big Day and thats important another important factor is that you will get lower prices 06 prices instead of 07 prices if you contract with vendors this year.

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Thank you everyone for your support. It seems like everyone else is complaining about their FMIL and mean while I have my own mother making me nuts. On top of everything else, she's had a visit from Aunt Flo for the last two weeks, and it took her 3 days to finally listen to me to go to a doctor. Her answer kept being: what can the doctor do while she's on the rag? Finally she was convinced that some blood work might help. She went yesterday and now we're just waiting for the results. I just hope that all will be ok.