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EJSD2006
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6/23/2006 5:00 PM
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Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Ok, so 2 of my so called friends were no shows at my shower. 1 of them RSVP'd for herself and said the other one was coming too. Then the day of my shower, 1 of them calls my sister and leaves her a voicemail 2 hours before my shower and tells her they have an "emergency" with the shop they are opening up and can't make it. I was hurt and disappointed that they werent there especially since they RSVP'd. My mom was PO'd because she paid for them thinking they were coming!
Anyhoo, it's been bothering me the last few days that they didn't show up, they never called me afterwards to see how it was and to apologize for not coming, and I just checked my registries and all the gifts I received are accounted for meaning they never got me any present. Which tells me they never had intentions of coming. DO I STILL SEND THEM INVITES TO THE WEDDING???? Now mind you, these are the same 2 "friends" that I have mutually in common with the ex-BM that I've had problems with in the past. I thought we worked everything out, but it seems they've taken her side. WHAT DO I DO? I'm mailing the invites this weekend!
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Posted 4/12/06 11:31 PM 
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08/06
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
I amswered you on BHB
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Posted 4/12/06 11:38 PM
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DrBeLLaRoSe
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Huntington
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
i would not invite them.
the fact that they did not buy you a gift seems to mean they never meant to come to your shower, and that is just plain rude.
sorry, but dont waste any of your precious time thinking about them! 
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Posted 4/12/06 11:42 PM
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msnora
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7/23/2006 3:00 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
I dont think that you should invite them. They don't seem to me to be real friends anyway. If there was really an emergency and they cared they would have called you after the shower to see how things went and also they would have gotten you a gift and made sure that it got to you if they were not coming.
Don't waste time money and paper for that matter on people who don't truly love you anyway. All it will do is make you feel hurt and upset if they do the same thing again. You deserve more than that!!
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Posted 4/13/06 12:13 AM
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CTarantino
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4/28/2006 5:00 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Posted by DrBeLLaRoSe
i would not invite them.
the fact that they did not buy you a gift seems to mean they never meant to come to your shower, and that is just plain rude.
sorry, but dont waste any of your precious time thinking about them!
I had the same situation. The day after my shower I saw the girl at work and she went on talking about her weekend, never sent her RSVP for the shower but told me she was coming. When I told her she missed it she apologized but never said anything else, not a gift nothing., She was aq causal friend at work so I skipped her invitation and don't feel bad at all.
Bottom Line: Don't send them invites!
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Posted 4/13/06 6:11 AM
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Preshy7
I love being his wife
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4/22/2006 3:00 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
i think you should invite them.
im not one to easily blow off friends...you not inviting them to the weding is like a big F U to them and you will pretty much destroy your friendship...
at least they called to cancel for your shower- its not like they didnt call or anything....
people that are not newly married or engaged sometimes dont understand how important events like showers etc. are. they dont know any better. they have no clue actually.
unless you want to write them off completely as friends, i would invite them to the wedding. if they pull the same crapp with the wedding, then you shoud re-think the friendship
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Posted 4/13/06 6:43 AM
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debsey75
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10/20/2006 3:00 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Dont bother. It is bad enough your mom got stuck paying for them at the shower. I am sure you dont want to pay for 4 (if they are bringing guests) no shows the day of. With the prices now a days it would be a shame to waste the money. They sound like mean girls and I would just let the issue drop and scratch them off the list.
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Posted 4/13/06 7:47 AM
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Mrs. Powell
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Posted by Preshy7
i think you should invite them.
im not one to easily blow off friends...you not inviting them to the weding is like a big F U to them and you will pretty much destroy your friendship...
at least they called to cancel for your shower- its not like they didnt call or anything....
unless you want to write them off completely as friends, i would invite them to the wedding. if they pull the same crapp with the wedding, then you shoud re-think the friendship
I agree completely. They did call it is not like they did not. I would still invite them.
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Posted 4/13/06 7:52 AM
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sarahthegreat
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8/4/2006 12:00 AM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
i say no. to hell with them. don't give them the opportunity to let you down again.
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Posted 4/13/06 8:04 AM
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R&J0806
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8/6/2006 11:15 AM
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Fox Hollow
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
hold off on sending their invites -- you can always decide whether or not to invite them later on.
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Posted 4/13/06 9:33 AM
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MissingTheBGene
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6/2/2006 3:00 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Posted by Preshy7
i think you should invite them.
im not one to easily blow off friends...you not inviting them to the weding is like a big F U to them and you will pretty much destroy your friendship...
at least they called to cancel for your shower- its not like they didnt call or anything....
people that are not newly married or engaged sometimes dont understand how important events like showers etc. are. they dont know any better. they have no clue actually.
unless you want to write them off completely as friends, i would invite them to the wedding. if they pull the same crapp with the wedding, then you shoud re-think the friendship
I totally agree. I know you're upset right now, but IMO, they should be invited regardless.
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Posted 4/13/06 9:40 AM
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beautyq115
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
I wouldn't invite them
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Posted 4/13/06 9:44 AM
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LaurenluvsTJ
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5/28/2006 12:00 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
I don't know, this is hard. On one hand, I think you should be the bigger person and invite them, but on the other hand I think they are not worth it.
How long have you been friends with them?
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Posted 4/13/06 9:45 AM
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beautyq115
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Do you think they are doing this because of the ex BM...and let's say they pull this crap on the day of your wedding...RSVPing and then don't show up...more money wasted on them
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Posted 4/13/06 10:05 AM
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SuzBride
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7/8/2006 11:30 AM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Do you still want them as friends? Then I would invite them. Are you just done with them and don't want them in your life any longer? Then I would cut them. I wouldn't want them pulling the same stunt for your wedding and you having to pay for 4 no-shows.
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Posted 4/13/06 10:09 AM
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EJSD2006
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Posted by beautyq115
Do you think they are doing this because of the ex BM...and let's say they pull this crap on the day of your wedding...RSVPing and then don't show up...more money wasted on them
this is what i'm worried about. but my sister said when the 1 girl RSVP'd she was so happy on the phone. and the other girl still emails me, not a "hello, how's it going?" email. but the forwards you get of chain email. i dont know what to think of that. and my sister said that when they called to cancel they sounded really apologetic. but i don't know what to think now. no call afterwards to apologize, no nothing. but sometimes i tend to forget that i'm the only one that has this wedding on their mind 24/7...other people have busy lives.
i think i will give them the benefit of the doubt and send them the invites and then if they decline, then i know where we stand. not really worried about the no show yet because we haven't met our minimum. thanks for the advice girls! i'll let you know what happens when i get their rsvp's.
Message edited 4/13/2006 10:21:14 AM.
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Posted 4/13/06 10:20 AM
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bridy06
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Posted by Preshy7
i think you should invite them.
im not one to easily blow off friends...you not inviting them to the weding is like a big F U to them and you will pretty much destroy your friendship...
at least they called to cancel for your shower- its not like they didnt call or anything....
people that are not newly married or engaged sometimes dont understand how important events like showers etc. are. they dont know any better. they have no clue actually.
unless you want to write them off completely as friends, i would invite them to the wedding. if they pull the same crapp with the wedding, then you shoud re-think the friendship
well said. I agree.
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Posted 4/13/06 10:41 AM
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EMES2006
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6/2/2006 6:30 PM
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Re: Should I send them an invite???? (a bit long...sorry...I need advice)
Posted by Preshy7
i think you should invite them.
im not one to easily blow off friends...you not inviting them to the weding is like a big F U to them and you will pretty much destroy your friendship...
at least they called to cancel for your shower- its not like they didnt call or anything....
people that are not newly married or engaged sometimes dont understand how important events like showers etc. are. they dont know any better. they have no clue actually.
unless you want to write them off completely as friends, i would invite them to the wedding. if they pull the same crapp with the wedding, then you shoud re-think the friendship
I agree 100% as well. Well said!
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