Wedding gift & thank you question.....

We received some checks in the mail over the past month from people who cannot attend the wedding.

My question is this, and please excuse me if I sound like a spaz for not knowing....

Do we send them a thank you card right away, or do we send them their thank you cards with everyone else's after the wedding?

TIA

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I would send it now. Not only will they know you got it (although the will prob. know if you cash it), but also b/c you wouldn't have to worry about doing those later. One more thing to cross off the list.

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Both. You need to acknowledge the gift, since you have received it, then after the wedding when you send out picture thank-yous, you should send another one.

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I would do it now. Just like the poster above said, that way they will know you received it, and you'll have a few less to write after the wedding.

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now. you cashed it/are about to right? you simply say thanks for the $20, we are saving to buy a house and this will help...or whatever you want to say....people like to hear what you plan on using it for AND i've read somewhere you should always indicate the amt. when it's money in the TY

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I agree with Darlene. Send one now to acknowledge that you got it and you can make mention of your intentions with the money. Then after the wedding send them a TY with your pic.

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You are so close to your wedding date - I would just send out a thank you with the rest of your thank-you's, esp. if you are sending out picture thank-you's.

Any checks we got early we just waited to cash with the rest of them and sent out all our picture thank you's together.

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If you have your Thank you cards then why not send them right away. If you don't have them then just wait until you get them...
XOXOXO
Kitty

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I would send now so that they know their check didn't get lost in the mail. Just a quick thank you would be fine. THen after the wedding, you can send the photo thank you.

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My advice is to send them now. Someone sent me a shower gift about 2 1/2 weeks before my shower and I waited to write her thank yous with all of my others. She ended up asking FFIL where her thank you was. Get 'em out quick! Otherwise the gift givers will just annoy you.

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Posted by October Bliss

Both. You need to acknowledge the gift, since you have received it, then after the wedding when you send out picture thank-yous, you should send another one.

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I would do this too....

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Guess I'm in the minority. We waited until after the wedding to cash them and are sending the thank-yous with everybody else's.

If you do it before, IMO, it's like saying 'Hey, thanks for sending the money that I'm using to pay for everyone else's food. I know I'm not married yet, but your wedding gift helped out.' Again, JMO.

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Posted by waterspout4

Guess I'm in the minority. We waited until after the wedding to cash them and are sending the thank-yous with everybody else's.

If you do it before, IMO, it's like saying 'Hey, thanks for sending the money that I'm using to pay for everyone else's food. I know I'm not married yet, but your wedding gift helped out.' Again, JMO.

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We also received wedding gifts from people who aren't coming to the wedding. We decided to wait until after the wedding to send our thank you's to them. This way, they can have a formal thank you just like our guests who were able to attend. (I believe the post wedding thank you's will be much nicer and will also include a wedding picture of us inside). If we sent them a regular thank you now, they wouldn't have the benefit of the picture which I know a lot of people really like.

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Posted by waterspout4

Guess I'm in the minority. We waited until after the wedding to cash them and are sending the thank-yous with everybody else's.

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The reason I wouldn't wait to cash a check is twofold:

First, you want the person who sent it to know you received it, and

Second, holding on to checks can throw off the giver's bank account. Not nice, IMO.

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ettiquette says that you are to mail a thank you NO later then 2 weeks form receiving the gift. Send it now.
Also you should cash the checks. People expect you to do this and it keeps finances straight.

amy

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I would definitely send it now...don't wait until after the wedding

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we sent thank u's soon after getting the checks from the no's

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We (ahem, I mean I ) sent thank you's right away. We also deposited the checks as we got them too. I know I wouldn't want anyone sitting on my check for weeks until after the wedding.

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Posted by AmyMarie

ettiquette says that you are to mail a thank you NO later then 2 weeks form receiving the gift. Send it now.
Also you should cash the checks. People expect you to do this and it keeps finances straight.

amy

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I definitely agree...IMO!!!