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Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

DanaRenee Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:20 PM+

DanaRenee MEMBER SINCE: 11/05 TOTAL POSTS : 845 WEDDING DATE: Oct 28, 2006

Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:20 PM

Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

I am afraid FMIL is going to wait till the last minute!

Do I pick the place or let them do it?? (They are paying)

ETA: I almost forgot...TIA!

sarahradio5 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:22 PM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:22 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

She told me to just send her the bill. I picked the place and negotiated with them.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:22 PM+

MissingTheBGene MEMBER SINCE: 6/05 TOTAL POSTS : 4548 WEDDING DATE: Jun 02, 2006

Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:22 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

Traditionally, yes, the ILs are to host the RD, however, things has changed quite a bit and I know many Brides and Grooms who hosted their own. Did you speak to them about it, or have they mentioned anything to you?

N.Y.bride Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:26 PM+

N.Y.bride MEMBER SINCE: 3/05 TOTAL POSTS : 7207 WEDDING DATE: Jul 28, 2005

Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:26 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

I would definately find out their plans. I decided on everything and my parents paid. My ILs helped with the wedding.

soon2bcopswife Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:49 PM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2006 12:49 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

My MIL paid but was too busy with work to plan it. So I picked the place, mailed out invites with her return address and she paid for it. In the end, she was very happy and handled the flowers and favors for the RD herself last minute.

ahall04 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 01:02 PM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2006 01:02 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

I think it is something that needs to be figured out. My FIL's are not able to afford the RD for us... so we are planning and paying for it ourselves.

MattsBride Posted: Jun 12, 2006 01:35 PM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2006 01:35 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

My FIL offered to pay for the RD. We just left it up to them. They asked for a few suggestions on places and then checked them out and booked it on their own. Honestly, I'm happy to not have to plan another thing!

ncd623 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 03:13 PM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2006 03:13 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

They should either plan it with you or give a $ range and let you do it.

Mdolph6 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:01 PM+

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Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:01 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

My FILs are going to be paying for our RD, but they want to have it at a place they go (& FH and I sometimes go) every weekend. The problem is we dont really want it there because it would be nice to actually go somewhere else.....We still have some time so I am not gonna get my self stressed YET!!

Gin-Char 104 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:20 PM+

Gin-Char 104 MEMBER SINCE: 8/05 TOTAL POSTS : 1674 WEDDING DATE: Aug 05, 2012

Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:20 PM

Re: Is it FIL's job to plan the RD?

how do you bring up this topic to FIL's that have not offered to pay or help with anything? FH & I are paying for it ALL..my mom is helping as much as she can but it's still no dent! Would you even bother?