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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
stewart manor country club
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
and i agree, i go into this with an open mind, but i know i will be surprised by who gives us what and who doesn't give us what
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Posted 7/7/06 12:57 PM 
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JandJ1224
214 invited 150- yes 55-no's
Member since 12/05 1281 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/20/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
I actually care how much people get back. I think for anyone to say they plan there wedding and don't expect to get back ANYTHING thats crap. It is realistic to expect gifts and be curious about how much they might total... just my opinion
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Posted 7/7/06 12:58 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12771 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
I will agree that the reasoning behind this thread is harmless. One should take the time to read the original poster's review in the review section. You would see, through her experiences in planning, that her wedding day was not about what people could give her and her DH, but more about their love for each other and sharing that special day with their friends and family. That being said, lets not get all in a huff about it. She meant no harm.
That being said, I never post what I/we/our families paid for certain vendors frankly because it is nobody's business. Sure it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out what the smaller costs are (invitations, calligraphy, favors) But for big vendors? No way. When people find out what is spent, judgements are passed ("I can't believe she spent BLAH BLAH BLAH on that") and people make suppositions about your financial status thus putting yourself at risk for behavioral wack-a-dos to do their thing.
So.....I will answer the question. (Didn't think I would did ya?) Our monetary gifts gave back about half what the wedding cost to put together including MAJOR vendors only (Catering, Flowers, Band, Photo/Video and dress). Everything else did add up but we did not keep wonderful records. Keep in mind that certain vendors will cost the same no matter how many guests you have. Dollar for dollar, even though the caterer received the largest sums of money, they were pretty much the least expensive part of the wedding venture for us.
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Posted 7/7/06 12:59 PM
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ChrissynRicky
Board Princess
Member since 2/05 14641 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow - Woodbury, NY
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by HearzBellz
Posted by ChrissynRicky
I'm with Christina...we probably received about 98% - 100% of what we put into the wedding, and maybe a little more (thanks to our parents.)
BTW LOVE your avatar pic
Thanks love! 
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Posted 7/7/06 1:00 PM
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JanuaryBride06
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Wedding Date:
1/1/1995 12:00 AM
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
It seems that these threads are better suited for the newlywed board. No drama over all of this over there.
We were extremely fortunate that our parents paid for a lot of the wedding. Had we paid for it ourselves, our gifts total the cost of the hall. We're grateful for what we received.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:00 PM
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soon2bcopswife
Board Fanatic
Member since 3/06 653 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/5/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Glen Island Harbour Club
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
I think this is a good post, it will help future brides in this myth that you "make back" your wedding expenses.....
We made back 50% of our wedding.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:01 PM
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LaurenluvsTJ
Married life is sweet!
Member since 1/05 11868 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
I will agree that the reasoning behind this thread is harmless. One should take the time to read the original poster's review in the review section. You would see, through her experiences in planning, that her wedding day was not about what people could give her and her DH, but more about their love for each other and sharing that special day with their friends and family. That being said, lets not get all in a huff about it. She meant no harm.
That being said, I never post what I/we/our families paid for certain vendors frankly because it is nobody's business. Sure it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out what the smaller costs are (invitations, calligraphy, favors) But for big vendors? No way. When people find out what is spent, judgements are passed ("I can't believe she spent BLAH BLAH BLAH on that") and people make suppositions about your financial status thus putting yourself at risk for behavioral wack-a-dos to do their thing.
So.....I will answer the question. (Didn't think I would did ya?) Our monetary gifts gave back about half what the wedding cost to put together including MAJOR vendors only (Catering, Flowers, Band, Photo/Video and dress). Everything else did add up but we did not keep wonderful records. Keep in mind that certain vendors will cost the same no matter how many guests you have. Dollar for dollar, even though the caterer received the largest sums of money, they were pretty much the least expensive part of the wedding venture for us.
Oh Leslie, you're always the calm voice of reason.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:02 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12771 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
I will also say that it is a good post especially for people who might be counting on "gifts" to either pay off wedding expenses or to finance a home. I would hate to see people misinformed and further into debt than before their weddings. Many young people (and even old farts like me) can get themselves into a poop load of trouble with poor planing. Perhaps this was what the intent of the original post was. Thats what I am thinking.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:03 PM
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soon2bcopswife
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Member since 3/06 653 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/5/2006 7:00 PM
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Glen Island Harbour Club
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
I will agree that the reasoning behind this thread is harmless. One should take the time to read the original poster's review in the review section. You would see, through her experiences in planning, that her wedding day was not about what people could give her and her DH, but more about their love for each other and sharing that special day with their friends and family. That being said, lets not get all in a huff about it. She meant no harm.
That being said, I never post what I/we/our families paid for certain vendors frankly because it is nobody's business. Sure it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out what the smaller costs are (invitations, calligraphy, favors) But for big vendors? No way. When people find out what is spent, judgements are passed ("I can't believe she spent BLAH BLAH BLAH on that") and people make suppositions about your financial status thus putting yourself at risk for behavioral wack-a-dos to do their thing.
So.....I will answer the question. (Didn't think I would did ya?) Our monetary gifts gave back about half what the wedding cost to put together including MAJOR vendors only (Catering, Flowers, Band, Photo/Video and dress). Everything else did add up but we did not keep wonderful records. Keep in mind that certain vendors will cost the same no matter how many guests you have. Dollar for dollar, even though the caterer received the largest sums of money, they were pretty much the least expensive part of the wedding venture for us.
Really well said 
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Posted 7/7/06 1:04 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12771 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
Oh Leslie, you're always the calm voice of reason.
Aww shucks. But I ain't that calm!
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Posted 7/7/06 1:04 PM
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johnsae
MARRIED!!!!
Member since 3/05 6257 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/6/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Capitale
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
I would say we got back about 15% of the total cost of the wedding.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:05 PM
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LaurenluvsTJ
Married life is sweet!
Member since 1/05 11868 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 12:00 PM
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Westbury Manor
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
Oh Leslie, you're always the calm voice of reason.
Aww shucks. But I ain't that calm!
Well you certainly play the part very well! 
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Posted 7/7/06 1:05 PM
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prinses777
Married Woman!!!!
Member since 7/05 3460 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/7/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
deSeversky Mansion- A++
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
I will also say that it is a good post especially for people who might be counting on "gifts" to either pay off wedding expenses or to finance a home. I would hate to see people misinformed and further into debt than before their weddings. Many young people (and even old farts like me) can get themselves into a poop load of trouble with poor planing. Perhaps this was what the intent of the original post was. Thats what I am thinking.
Good Call. I find it to be very informtive and gives brides a reality check... as to what to expect.
I not have had my wedding yet... cannot post what I got back. hehehhe
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Posted 7/7/06 1:06 PM
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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4003 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/30/2006 6:00 PM
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
I will agree that the reasoning behind this thread is harmless. One should take the time to read the original poster's review in the review section. You would see, through her experiences in planning, that her wedding day was not about what people could give her and her DH, but more about their love for each other and sharing that special day with their friends and family. That being said, lets not get all in a huff about it. She meant no harm.
Thanks Leslie. Who knew that bumping a helpful thread would cause drama
This was posted a while back and updated today. I also posted on the newlywed board. It was in response to all the unrealistic threads about couples "making money" on the wedding. I am really hoping that future couples get a "reality check" from the past brides responses if they were expecting to "make money" on their weddings.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:12 PM
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Anna506
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Member since 9/05 534 total posts
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1/1/2006 4:00 PM
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
For us, I think it was about 25%... not including the gift from my parents .
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Posted 7/7/06 1:12 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12771 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
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Temple Avodah
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by prinses777
Posted by Goldi1021
I will also say that it is a good post especially for people who might be counting on "gifts" to either pay off wedding expenses or to finance a home. I would hate to see people misinformed and further into debt than before their weddings. Many young people (and even old farts like me) can get themselves into a poop load of trouble with poor planing. Perhaps this was what the intent of the original post was. Thats what I am thinking.
Good Call. I find it to be very informtive and gives brides a reality check... as to what to expect.
I not have had my wedding yet... cannot post what I got back. hehehhe
My estimation is that you will make ELEVENTY BILLION DOLLARS!!!
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Posted 7/7/06 1:14 PM
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prinses777
Married Woman!!!!
Member since 7/05 3460 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/7/2007 3:00 PM
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deSeversky Mansion- A++
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
Posted by prinses777
Posted by Goldi1021
I will also say that it is a good post especially for people who might be counting on "gifts" to either pay off wedding expenses or to finance a home. I would hate to see people misinformed and further into debt than before their weddings. Many young people (and even old farts like me) can get themselves into a poop load of trouble with poor planing. Perhaps this was what the intent of the original post was. Thats what I am thinking.
Good Call. I find it to be very informtive and gives brides a reality check... as to what to expect.
I not have had my wedding yet... cannot post what I got back. hehehhe
My estimation is that you will make ELEVENTY BILLION DOLLARS!!!
You are so UNDER ESTIMATING!
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Posted 7/7/06 1:14 PM
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ant n tilde
Team Jacob! <3
Member since 6/06 14754 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/12/2008 3:00 PM
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Jericho Terrace
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
i want to thank all of you who answered this question honestly
this is something i was very curious about but would feel funny asking myself
it is very helpful to know that we shouldnt expect to get back what we put into the wedding. . . i am a smart girl but somewhere deep in my brain i cant let go of that idea! we will start saving for a house after the wedding and i keep thinking "oh we will definitely get to use the wedding gifts for a down payment - part of one anyway"
but it is a GREAT reality check to be reminded that that probably WON't be the case. . . AND it is a GREAT motivation to achieve our goal to pay for our entire wedding before it is over. . . .all cash and checks NO credit, no loans, no borrowing - so far so good but we are early in the process!
Thanks again for the honest information i appreciate it! I will bookmark this post and look at it everytime i HAVE to add some stupid expense lol
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Posted 7/7/06 1:14 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12771 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
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Temple Avodah
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by akaMrsT
Posted by Goldi1021
I will agree that the reasoning behind this thread is harmless. One should take the time to read the original poster's review in the review section. You would see, through her experiences in planning, that her wedding day was not about what people could give her and her DH, but more about their love for each other and sharing that special day with their friends and family. That being said, lets not get all in a huff about it. She meant no harm.
Thanks Leslie. Who knew that bumping a helpful thread would cause drama
This was posted a while back and updated today. I also posted on the newlywed board. It was in response to all the unrealistic threads about couples "making money" on the wedding. I am really hoping that future couples get a "reality check" from the past brides responses if they were expecting to "make money" on their weddings.
My pleasure. Truth be told, I didnt look at the original post date but this subject come up often enough that someone needed to say something.
Truth be told again, If my intent was to MAKE money at my wedding, I would have had a weenie roast in my back yard and a cake made of twinkies with 600 of my closest friends!
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Posted 7/7/06 1:16 PM
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Mrs. dleeny
My most beautiful day ever
Member since 3/05 12394 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2005 5:00 PM
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Swan Club A+
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
this thread has drama written all over it
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Posted 7/7/06 1:18 PM
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HearzBellz
Always a bridesmaid 3x over
Member since 4/03 10390 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/9/2004 1:00 PM
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Harbor Club
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by Goldi1021
Truth be told again, If my intent was to MAKE money at my wedding, I would have had a weenie roast in my back yard and a cake made of twinkies with 600 of my closest friends!
Weenie roast at Goldi's place!
j/k
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Posted 7/7/06 1:18 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12771 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
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Temple Avodah
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
Posted by HearzBellz
Posted by Goldi1021
Truth be told again, If my intent was to MAKE money at my wedding, I would have had a weenie roast in my back yard and a cake made of twinkies with 600 of my closest friends!
Weenie roast at Goldi's place!
j/k
It's cool as long as the weenies are Hebrew National and it is after the sun goes down otherwise I couldnt get a Rabbi!!
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Posted 7/7/06 1:21 PM
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cjb88
I'm a married lady!!!
Member since 11/04 7315 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/8/2006 6:00 PM
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Hamlet Willow Creek A+++++++
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Posted by HearzBellz
Posted by Goldi1021
Truth be told again, If my intent was to MAKE money at my wedding, I would have had a weenie roast in my back yard and a cake made of twinkies with 600 of my closest friends!
Weenie roast at Goldi's place!
j/k
Goldi, dont forget about the cheeese!!!!
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Posted 7/7/06 1:22 PM
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johnsae
MARRIED!!!!
Member since 3/05 6257 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/6/2006 5:00 PM
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Capitale
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Re: For future brides - Married ladies sharing gift info.
I honestly feel that NOBODY is having a wedding in order to make money - that is just silly.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:25 PM
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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4003 total posts
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3/30/2006 6:00 PM
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Posted by johnsae
I honestly feel that NOBODY is having a wedding in order to make money - that is just silly.
I know!!!! But you would be surprised at the number of people who really believe they will "MAKE MONEY" by having a wedding
This was the thread that prompted this post - 6/12/2006 post re: Knottie
Message edited 7/7/2006 1:30:19 PM.
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Posted 7/7/06 1:28 PM
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