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So FH came home form bach. party in AC today and me, him, his brother (and BM) and his wife (FH SIL and one of my BM) were sitting around and catching up on the night. FH choose to gamble all night, literally for 12 hours straight, and decided not to go to a strip club with some of the the other guys b/c he knew i didnt like it. So I made a comment that ti was rude of the other guys to go to a strip club rather then choose to hang out with my FH, since he didnt want to go and its his night. and my FSIL said it was rude of my FH to not go with the other guys b/c its tradation to go to a strip club! now i love my FSIL and she has been the BIGGEST help with the wedding but this is one subject we dont agree on, so i made the point that a lot of guys dont go and that they may go instead camping, fishing, play poker, etc.plus the guys didnt have to go, from the beginning this is all they wanted to do. FH ended up playing poker and blackjack the whole night only b/c, only his BM and one of his friends choose not to go either, if the other guys were around maybe they could have gone to bar or walked to a differnt hotel to see what was going on. Plus FH really didnt care one way or the other, he was happy playing poker, I just felt like my FSIL and FBIL were making it like i ruined FH party since i ddint want him going, did i do anyhting wrong? FH choose not to go out of respect for me, which really proves a lot to me. He said he didnt care that he didnt go to the strip club, so why were his family giving me a hard time.

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All that matters is that FH had a good time. Who cares what FBIL & FSIL think! At least you can sit back and relax knowing that your FH loves and respects you and didn't feel the need to look at disgusting naked women before he marries you. I think you are 100% right for not wanting him to go, and you should be proud of his integrity.



Edited to correct spelling!

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I agree - right or wrong, it's how yu feel and your FH respected YOUR feelings about it - I think that shows a great deal about how you're both able to communicate and stand up for each other's feelings - who cares what they think - HE had a good time and he was happy, and that's what's important! You've got a GREAT guy - good for you!

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i dont understand y others would care. isnt it his [arty so they should do what he wants. personally fh adn myself are against strip colors so good for u and him to agree.