Do you have to invite???

Do you have to invite a guest with all single adults? And if you do it for a couple do you have to do it for everyone??? Please help our place is expensive and I am not wanting to pay for people that I dont know. You know??? Thanks guys

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We did not invite a guest for all single adults. Only people that were in long tern comitted relationships were allowed to bring dates. Some people claimed to have GF or BF that we had never met, they were not invited.

We did not have the space or the money for everyone.

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We invited most of the single guests with a guest, but they all RSVPed solo. I dont think you have to do anything and most of them will understand, unless they are in a relationship. I would invite them with a guest if they wont know anyone at the wedding.

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YOu do not have to. If they are in committed long term relationships I would. I also made sure i invited my coworkers with guest - I think it is easier to have someone else to dance with :)

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We invited solo unless they were in a serious long term relationship. I wanted to spread the joy around an dinvite more of my friends, rather then having guests that we didn't know. They can keep each other company - that's our look at it anyway. There were all OK with it - no one was upset about it when we approached them before the invites went out.

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This was hard for me because I wanted to invite the husbands/boyfriends of the girls from work. Unfortunately, there are WAY too many people from work that I needed to invite and we couldnt afford to have their guests. The good thing was, they requested NOT to bring their husbands/boyfriends because they wanted to spend the day with 'the girls' from work. As far as everyone else that was invited, we only invted those that are in long term relationships.

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Some people invite the single guests without a date. They only invite if they know they are in a serious relationship or engaged. I did that at my first wedding many years ago and it worked out just fine!

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I am not going to invite guest for all my single guests. Most of mys single guests are widowed. They will not be bringing a guests. My single friends who I invite I will write and guest, but most of them won't bring anyone.

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One of the advice columns in the newspaper had a thing on this a few months ago when someone wrote in complaining they were invited without a guest. The answer was grow up - it's not a dance or an occasion for people to show off, it is a celebration of a marriage between two people, and if an adult couldn't handle an evening without being attached at the hip to someone, they needed more help than the advice columnist could give.

There will not be one single person at my wedding that either FH or I haven't met and spent time with. Single guests are just that, single guests.

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no you do not have to invite them with a guest. Some people only invite with guests if they are engaged or living together.

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i did not invite every single guest with a date. Here was my logic -


You get a date if:

(1) you are in a committed relationship
(2) you don't know anyone else at the wedding


One (single) friend told me that she actually prefers going to weddings without a date because then she doesn't have anyone to 'look after.'

But whatever you do, unfortunately you will insult someone, somehow. If you keep that in mind, you'll be fine. Just remember -- this isn't about doing what is easiest for the guest, it's aabout doing what is best for you.

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it depends on ur budget, i would invite some ppl with dates, but others without them...cuz in the end u dont want it to get overboard!

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depending on who it is and their age......i have a few cousins who have a new love intrest every other week! So they can come solo!! I have a few cousins who are older and have been w. someone for 2+ yrs so ill invite them w. a guest!

Everyone else is pretty much married or engaged....

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Ok. You don't have to....

But

It may limit your stress and make your guests a little happier (happy guests=less b!tching=happy bride)

So, when it came time for me to do my invitations, I decided anyone over 21 was going to be invited with a date. And to be completely honest, I think ONE of these people brought a date.

I think that you need to need to make a decision and make a cut off age and stick to it. I don't think that my 14 year old SIL needs to bring her boyfriend of the minute, but my 22 year old cousin who is just about to proposed to his gf, SHOULD be allowed to bring her!

Plus, how do you know every since one of these people is TRULY single? What if they have been dating someone for a few months and would like to bring them? I had people who I thought were single and they weren't and were happy to bring that person they were seeing!