Why r inlaws so evil? (LONG)

So I have been having major drama with my FMIL , one of my FSIL's and now one of my FBIL's its such a shame.

I don't even know where to begin well lets start with the Bidal shower. I will try to make a long story short alot of people from my FH side RSVP no and then at the last minute they say yes so my one sil calls me up and tells me a cousin never got an invite so I tell my MOH and she says she was never on the list so she sends an e-mail to the SIL explaining this and SIL gets all pissed of fand goes off on my MOH and BM's then she calls up her family and tells them that she is being attacked by my girls and I start getting 50,000 phone calls at work. I then get a copy of all the e-mails and see that my lovely sil started the entire war. She then goes to e-mail me and get me involved and we get into it and now we don't speak boo freaking hoo. She then goes on to tell me everything about my shower and ruins everything cuz I had no sclue about my shower. She then goes to say that I will never be part of the family. WEll I go and show my FH the e-mails and he sees that she started the entire thing. She then tells FMIL that I am not welcome in the house and if I show up she will leave I told FMIL she aint spiting me she is spiting herself cuz she will never see her niece who is her god daughter and I will never step foot in YOUR house unless I get an apology from her.

Now MIL is compalin cuz we had invited 200 people that we invite only fourty something people from his side are coming and the rest is my side and thats my fault. All of a sudden I am not good enough for him and the best is we are rushing into this wedding. MEanwhile we have been dating for almost 4 years and we moved in together a fter dating only 6 months so we have been living together for 4 years and we have a 2 year old daughter but we are rushing into this wedding. Every week its something else. I was really ready to call off the wedding last week thats how bad this thing is getting. Why are inlaws so evil

Re: Why r inlaws so evil? (LONG)

I know how difficult inlaws can be. Don't you dare call off your wedding. Don't let them ruin this for you, I know thats hard. Its really like weddings bring out the worst in families, I don't get it!! Stay strong, and have a great wedding, you deserve that!!

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Posted by JandJ1224

I know how difficult inlaws can be. Don't you dare call off your wedding. Don't let them ruin this for you, I know thats hard. Its really like weddings bring out the worst in families, I don't get it!! Stay strong, and have a great wedding, you deserve that!!

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Janette is right, you deserve the beautiful wedding that you've been planning all along. Don't change anything for these people, I'm so glad that FH is on your side for all of this. You're almost there, try not to let them upset you too much!!

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THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
I haven't been on here for so long cuz I have been so stressed from inlaws they get me to the point that I don't want to be bothered at all. This is supose to be a happy time and fun time. Yeah I know it gets stressful but I should be causing the stress for myself not my inlaws. I don't even answer the phone when they call I just hand the phone to FH. I haven't been wanting to plan anything or do anything else with the wedding that now its like 3 weeks away and I have so many little things to take care of but I don't want to be bothered cuz they just keep going at it. Why am I doing this why am I doing that. I actually had a talk with his m other and she understands where I am coming from but hello you still keep doing the same crap all over again. I tell you if my mom, 2 grandmothers and Bridal party didn't get their dresses for the wedding already I would of just took off and eloped someplace just so I wouldn't have to deal with this anymore.

Thank you for letting me vent out

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Posted by JandJ1224

I know how difficult inlaws can be. Don't you dare call off your wedding. Don't let them ruin this for you, I know thats hard. Its really like weddings bring out the worst in families, I don't get it!! Stay strong, and have a great wedding, you deserve that!!

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Posted by iffer042373

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
I haven't been on here for so long cuz I have been so stressed from inlaws they get me to the point that I don't want to be bothered at all. This is supose to be a happy time and fun time. Yeah I know it gets stressful but I should be causing the stress for myself not my inlaws. I don't even answer the phone when they call I just hand the phone to FH. I haven't been wanting to plan anything or do anything else with the wedding that now its like 3 weeks away and I have so many little things to take care of but I don't want to be bothered cuz they just keep going at it. Why am I doing this why am I doing that. I actually had a talk with his m other and she understands where I am coming from but hello you still keep doing the same crap all over again. I tell you if my mom, 2 grandmothers and Bridal party didn't get their dresses for the wedding already I would of just took off and eloped someplace just so I wouldn't have to deal with this anymore.

Thank you for letting me vent out

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Re: Why r inlaws so evil? (LONG)

I know exactly what each and everyone one of you are saying thats why I haven't alled off the wedding cuz I aint gonna let them get the best of me and satisfy them. I don't bother with them at all FMIL is in town (she lives upstate) for a few days so after I get out of work and pick up my daughter I go out and do things with her I don't go home right after work and when I get home FMIL is at bing o and y the time she gets back to the house I am in my room watching tv and my daughter is sleeping. ITs the weekedns that I see her for a while but I h ave things goign on so I am not home all the time between running around to get last minute things done and just visiting friends I don't bother. Its been working out better this way
that I don't talk to them and if I do have to talk to them when they bring up the wedding I just change the subject or give them non specific ansswers.

Thank you so much for letting me vent

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I totally understand where you are coming from... I am in a similar situation.. has gotten a little better as of late, although, I suspect it will get worse again soon after the wedding.

All I can say is, when it gets really bad, look at your FI and remember why you are going to stick it out. he is the reason. Sometimes you will swallow your words for him, sometimes you won't. Pick the battles or you and him will fight all the time!!!! Be a united front!!!!!! Storm your castle.... they want to get inbetween you and him, don't let them. Enjoy your love and keep the focus on yourselves. You can't lose that way. And remember we are here if you need us, Fm if you want to vent,.. I get it... unfortunately!!!!

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Don't let your inlaws get to you. Sounds like FH is sticking by your side and that is all that matters!!!!!

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sorry you are dealing with this...it will get better after the stress of the wedding is done! Your day is almost here!