Girls I need your advice....

I think I must be going crazy, but for the past month I have been second guessing my photographer!!!!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME??????

I am thinking about looking for someone else. I don't think it is to late to get out my contract but....FH is going to KILL ME!!!!

When I first saw there work I was in love. But after seeing other girls on here and looking at there pictures. To me they look all the same no originality.

My photos are very important to me, and I don't want pictures that are just okay.. I want to be like WOW...this was the best decision I ever made.

I probably will even have a difficult time trying to find someone.

Girls I really need your advice on what to do???? ....Thanks:

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Tough call, but if you really feel this way, you may as well go for it, it may be hard now, but you will be thankful in the future...you don't want to look back at your photos and think 'I should have just changed'....

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Its normal to second guess...and being on a board like this you will second guess all the time.

You will see hundreds of dresses, hundreds of photogs, this that and the other. One will always be better than yours, one will be less expensive, one will be more popular.

It does not mean you picked the wrong one.

However....I did the same thing second guessing my dj. And I actually did cancel contract and book with another. And now I am more confident and happier than ever.

You really gotta do whats in the heart sweetie. And like I said...with the millions of ideas on these boards...its easy to get caught up in things.

I find that when I start second guessing...just step outside of the box...........and look in. Sometimes even a couple of days away from wedding planning helps.

And when you come back and you are still second guessing...then its time to research and maybe do some changing. And if you find you don't feel as strong about it....and its trivial..you made the right choice.

Photography is very important....Besides memory and love, its all we have left to remember this day. So just take a breath, step outside the box..and it will come to ya.

I would maybe even suggest talking to your photographer about pictures you've like and styles you have seen on here. You'd be surprised what a vendor can and will do to keep your business.

Hope that helped

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If youre not happy i would look around some more. Your pics are you memories forever. Im sure your FH will understand.

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I feel the exact same way!!!!!! I saw 6 phototgraphers, and decided on mine, but being on this site, shows me so many beautiful pictures...it makes me second guess....I have decided to no longer look at anyone's pics on here...or i'll go crazy and have another breakdown!

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If you arent happy look around at other photographers and see if you are really unhappy or if you are just second guessing yourself.

Good Luck, I havent even started on photographer and I know its going to be the hardest th ing to decide on

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Posted by Nina

Its normal to second guess...and being on a board like this you will second guess all the time.

You will see hundreds of dresses, hundreds of photogs, this that and the other. One will always be better than yours, one will be less expensive, one will be more popular.

It does not mean you picked the wrong one.

However....I did the same thing second guessing my dj. And I actually did cancel contract and book with another. And now I am more confident and happier than ever.

You really gotta do whats in the heart sweetie. And like I said...with the millions of ideas on these boards...its easy to get caught up in things.

I find that when I start second guessing...just step outside of the box...........and look in. Sometimes even a couple of days away from wedding planning helps.

And when you come back and you are still second guessing...then its time to research and maybe do some changing. And if you find you don't feel as strong about it....and its trivial..you made the right choice.

Photography is very important....Besides memory and love, its all we have left to remember this day. So just take a breath, step outside the box..and it will come to ya.

I would maybe even suggest talking to your photographer about pictures you've like and styles you have seen on here. You'd be surprised what a vendor can and will do to keep your business.

Hope that helped

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Perfectly said Nina...
When I feel like this ~ I step away/step back (even from LIW) and think of all the reasons why I hired a vendor! But you should go with your heart and your gutt instinct ~ maybe have a meeting with them and discuss your concerns or make a list of things you want... (that you have seen & liked)
Good Luck!

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I totally agree with Nina also....
Definitely follow your gut...you don't want to look back and say I should have changed the photgrapher. I am sure whatever you decide everything will work out wonderful! Good Luck!

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Follow your heart b/c you will have those pics forever. I second guessed myself and now I'm VERY happy I did. I second guessed myself on TWO vendors after I experienced something and in my gut: red flags went up. So I changed and my FH was very understanding because we are paying for a service and when you pay for something and are let down-- it's the worst!!

I would try looking around before you drop the other photog and see how you feel. BUT keep in mind: I see girls' pics on here from say ABC photography and I think WOW those look fantastic and then I'll see someone else who used ABC (and it will be the same person shooting) and I'm like what the heck happened?? They could end up looking completely different. So the best thing you can do is just make sure you relay your STYLE to the photog and make sure you see (in his work, by looking at his books) that HE does that style you want and has done it before. I showed my photog a book of his and was like HEY GARY-- THIS IS IT!!!! lol

Good luck honey, I hope it works out for you and whatever decision you make-- you are happy!! DO update us on this!!!!

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Do whatever will make you happier and more confident and less stressed.

You might consider getting a portfolio of shots that you LOVE and bringing them to your photographer and saying - 'This is my vision of the shots you will take... it doesn't seem like you have a lot of this in the work you have shown me.. maybe you have some more things you can show?'

One photographer showed me a LOT of portraits and staged shots until I said 'I really am not the portrait type..' He had a whole other portfolio of photojournalistic shots that was EXACTLY what I was looking for...

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Like the girls have mentioned, you don't want to look back on your pics years from now and not be happy. Start researching other ones ASAP .. and in the meantime, go see more proofs from the photographer you picked, just to make sure of your feelings for his work

good luck!!

I am using 12th night and more than thrilled with them .. many brides on here are .. why don't you give Dominick a call?

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Posted by Nina

Its normal to second guess...and being on a board like this you will second guess all the time.

You will see hundreds of dresses, hundreds of photogs, this that and the other. One will always be better than yours, one will be less expensive, one will be more popular.

It does not mean you picked the wrong one.

However....I did the same thing second guessing my dj. And I actually did cancel contract and book with another. And now I am more confident and happier than ever.

You really gotta do whats in the heart sweetie. And like I said...with the millions of ideas on these boards...its easy to get caught up in things.

I find that when I start second guessing...just step outside of the box...........and look in. Sometimes even a couple of days away from wedding planning helps.

And when you come back and you are still second guessing...then its time to research and maybe do some changing. And if you find you don't feel as strong about it....and its trivial..you made the right choice.

Photography is very important....Besides memory and love, its all we have left to remember this day. So just take a breath, step outside the box..and it will come to ya.

I would maybe even suggest talking to your photographer about pictures you've like and styles you have seen on here. You'd be surprised what a vendor can and will do to keep your business.

Hope that helped

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Nina you are absolutely right and gave the right answer.
Listen to Nina and step outside the box for a little while and the right answer will come to you.

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I've had that feeling too, even though I haven't booked with anyone yet !
I think if you look through different people's proofs they're going to all have elements that are similar as far as getting the 'must have' shots because that's what everyone wants. They don't seem original because you're seeing so many and comparing side by side. But for your wedding and all of our weddings, they will be unique to our event, families, ceremonies and receptions!
That's how I'm looking at it and it's made me less crazed about the whole process. If you still feel the same way, going to look at other photographers can't hurt but you might still run into the same problem. Good luck!

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Thanks girls for all of your advice..

Nina you really put it into perspective for me. Thanks I needed that!!!

I am definitely going to make another appointment to sit down and talk to my photographer and look through his work again.

This should help me deal with my dilemma. And if I am still second guessing myself then I will start looking.

I will keep you posted on what I decide to do

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good luck with everything! It's quite a dilemma...

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If it makes you happy then change it. There is no need to have additional stress right now.

If it makes you feel beter I have been in this mode where I second guess everyone of my vendors even my hall. I think its the whole planning process and wanting to make sure everything is perfect.

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Hey. . . I'm new here and haven't posted much yet but this is REALLY stressing me out too. I actually posted yesterday if any of you girls heard of my photographer and some of you haven't. Michael O'Neill photography

Just from looking at some of the pictures here, I feel as if I'm making the wrong decision myself. I fell in love with them when I sat down and saw the albums and loved my photographer that will be with me all day.

So what do you do in a situation like this? Tell your FH that we going to loose our deposit. How do I know if I made the right decision? Should I go look around some more. I haven't taken my engagement picture yet but should I wait to see how that looks?

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Don't worry about FH getting mad. I agree-it is hard to narrow down because there are so many beautiful pics on here, but I will have to choose.
Trust your gut and do what it tells you.

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I agree that you shouldn't worry about how upset or not your FH will be. If you feel that it really may not be the right decision then you should do what your gut tells you & look elsewhere --- i wish i could follow my own advice... I have started to have doubts about my reception hall & I paid my deposit last month!!!!!