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Can anyone explain what changes?

JandJ1224 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:05 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:05 AM

Can anyone explain what changes?

What changes when you become married? Just trying to get an idea of what to expect...

DandS Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:17 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:17 AM

Re: Can anyone explain what changes?

I am not married yet, but I can tell you what I am going to look forward to - waking up next to my husband EVERYDAY! I can't wait to be a family with him and to be his wife!

ChrissynRicky Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:18 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:18 AM

Re: Can anyone explain what changes?

nothing

cindyandkevin Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:23 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:23 AM

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We already lived together before marriage so it feels like nothing really changed, except for my name. But that's just the thing; we're a family now. It's not just me and him, it's us; we're the M****'s now. You feel a bond between the 2 of you that wasn't there before, or maybe it was but it's stronger now. You don't notice any sudden changes right away, it's more like a gradual feeling that develops as your love grows.

kissy27 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:26 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:26 AM

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If you have not lived with your Fh, you have to get use to having someone with you 24/7. It is a trying time where compromise comes in handy. Little habits might get irritating & you will have to come to a equal medium!

Otherwise, there are many things to enjoy! When anyone asks me how it is to be married, I tell them straight 'It is the same as it was, only I live in a different home, have a different name, dinner must be cooked & laundry must be done!'

idovig Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:26 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:26 AM

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Posted by cindyandkevin

We already lived together before marriage so it feels like nothing really changed, except for my name. But that's just the thing; we're a family now. It's not just me and him, it's us; we're the M****'s now. You feel a bond between the 2 of you that wasn't there before, or maybe it was but it's stronger now. You don't notice any sudden changes right away, it's more like a gradual feeling that develops as your love grows.

Totally agree because I have the same situation.

sarahradio5 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:33 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:33 AM

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

nothing

I don' t know if you were trying to be funny, but I found that pretty funny. I know you're right, but I still think you're one word answer and honesty was pretty darn funny.

ali120206 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:38 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:38 AM

Re: Can anyone explain what changes?

According to the people who work with my FH, everything

EJSD2006 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:39 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:39 AM

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nothing really for me either. everyone asks me 'how is married life?'. I'm like 'its great! its exactly the same as before we were married!'. DH and I didnt live together prior to the wedding but we were together ALL THE TIME. so nothing really changed other than waking up next to him every morning, which is wonderful!!!

Naunie Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:00 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:00 AM

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Posted by ali120206

According to the people who work with my FH, everything

wow- our FHs must work together.

beautyq115 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:08 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:08 AM

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well we never lived together sooooo that was a BIG CHANGE!

I am not sure...I still feel the same

AlmostMrsKelly Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:35 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:35 AM

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Posted by Naunie

Posted by ali120206

According to the people who work with my FH, everything

wow- our FHs must work together.

ditto.
however, we've lived together and owned a home together for more than a year now... so i don't see much changing at all. silly boys.

CLMon7906 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:40 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:40 AM

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There's a sense of togetherness that is just indescribable. You feel closer, more complete...like family.

And you feel less squimish about sex being brought up...

cindyandkevin Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:53 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:53 AM

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I have to add something here that I didn't mention in my previous post. DH has a daughter from a previous marriage, so our wedding wasn't just about he and I becoming husband and wife but about the 3 of us becoming a family. I'm this lil girl's step-mother and now we're all bonded by having the same last name. Nothing really has changed from before, it's just made things 'official'.

MsKitty1274 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:57 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:57 AM

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DH says marriage is a scam, b/c nothing changed. Only that we now live together.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:58 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:58 AM

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Its funny, but it doesn't really feel like anything changed. We didn't live together before getting married, but we settled into it so well and so quickly, that it felt like we have been doing it forever.
If anything, you feel like you have stronger bond to him because you made vows. You feel more like a family and less like BF/GF. For me, I started to get baby fever like crazy because of this!!

july06bride Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:01 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:01 PM

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we lived together before so not much changed in that department...however, I didnt think my love would grow anymore-but it did... I would say it was more of a feeling that changed not anything physical.. Its so cheesy but I didnt think I could love him anymore than I did-but I do

CLMon7906 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:10 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:10 PM

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I have to add something here that I didn't mention in my previous post. DH has a daughter from a previous marriage, so our wedding wasn't just about he and I becoming husband and wife but about the 3 of us becoming a family. I'm this lil girl's step-mother and now we're all bonded by having the same last name. Nothing really has changed from before, it's just made things 'official'.

i'm with you on taht one cindy...i have a 5 year old from before...it does feel more official...that's what i meant in my original post about feeling like a family. he's been her 'daddy' for years now, but it is just more REAL somehow.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:12 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:12 PM

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Posted by sarahradio5

Posted by ChrissynRicky

nothing

I don' t know if you were trying to be funny, but I found that pretty funny. I know you're right, but I still think you're one word answer and honesty was pretty darn funny.

I was being serious, but with a funny edge to it.

I personally don't think anything changed in our relationship - a piece of paper (legally) will not change anything in a healthy relationship, at least IMO.

Goldi1021 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:13 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:13 PM

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I feel a serenity and a comfort that I never felt before. We lived together for 6 months before the wedding but thats what the six months was all about - the wedding. Now that that is behind us, we are family and one step closer to having children. IT is very real.