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WEDDING PARTY ?

zenergy47 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:38 AM+

zenergy47 MEMBER SINCE: 1/06 TOTAL POSTS : 1148 WEDDING DATE: May 05, 2007

Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:38 AM

WEDDING PARTY ?

I HAVE A GROUP OF 8 FRIENDS THAT WE ALL HAVE BEEN FRIENDS SINCE WE WERE LITTLE... I AM CLOSE WITH ALL OF THEM.. AND WOULD LOVE FOR THEM ALL TO SHARE IN MY DAY.. HOWEVER.. I ALSO HAVE 2 SISTER IN LAWS AND A 2 FRIENDS FROM COLLEGE THAT I WOULD LOVE IN IT TOO.. I THINK ITS A LITTLE TO MANY PEOPLE 12 PEOPLE WEDDING PARTY.. I FEEL BAD NOT HAVING SOME OF THE GIRLS IN IT... SO HERE IS MY ? DO I TALK TO THEM ONES THAT I AM NOT HAVING AND JUST EXPLAIN ITS MANY PEOPLE BUT I DONT WANT THEM TO BE UPSET??? ANY THOUGHTS?

OOPSS SO FOR CAPS:)

chrissyandvin Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:49 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:49 AM

Re: WEDDING PARTY ?

You can have some of them do other things like readings.. this way there are included somehow.

Tiggeruth Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:50 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:50 AM

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That's a tough call. If you are really still close with all those people then i would just have everyone. I would hate to have to exlude someone...its not entirely the same but i have 5 flower girls because it was impossible to exclude someone.

Maybe eliminate the sisters-in-law and just make it all friends??

D's Girl Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:53 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:53 AM

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I agree with Chrissy, maybe have some of them do readings during the ceremony.

But, if they all mean the world to you and you want them all by your side, have them all in the BP

tonimike Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:56 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 10:56 AM

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I would explain what u just said to them , that its alot, & maybe like chrissy said have them do a reading , I know myself , id rather be a guest sometimes than in the wedding party , sometime su have more fun ya know,,

mycrayon1 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:14 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:14 AM

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OK this was the problem we had. Keep in mind that FH had already asked the guys so there wasn't much room for any movement.
I didn't want to cut anyone out either but now we have 7 girls and 9 guys. Therefore the first dance will be by ourselves instead of including the party.

Just as a word of advice, talk it through between both of you. FH might only have 9 guys to include, don't do what my FH did, discuss everything.
Anyone you exclude you could have do a reading, or hand out the programs, you can still include them, even if it isn't as a part of the BP.

zenergy47 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:33 AM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:33 AM

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thanks ladies
yeah my FH said to do whatever i felt was the from my heart and then he will choose his guys from there..love him :)

Glamorousbride Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:34 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:34 PM

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If you're close to all of them then I don't know how you will be able to choose. I'd really have all or none of them-- but thats just me.

I have a girl shortage in my bridal party lol you could always send me some over lol i have way too many guys!!! lol

MnM52607 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:38 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 12:38 PM

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I agree to have all or none. I wouldn't choose and risk ruining any of the relationships.

tricia3381 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 06:10 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 06:10 PM

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i have 7 girls and fh has only 5 guys if that helps.

Marly Posted: Aug 30, 2006 06:28 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 06:28 PM

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Posted by chrissyandvin

You can have some of them do other things like readings.. this way there are included somehow.

I too agree with Crissy

snydl40 Posted: Aug 30, 2006 06:35 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 06:35 PM

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12 is a lot of people. I would talk to all of your 8 friends and tell them your situation. I'm sure a few would back out graciously-especially if someone can't afford it. Be upfront and yes they can always to something else to be a part of the wedding.

rojerono Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:52 PM+

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Posted: Aug 30, 2006 11:52 PM

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Since it seems like the 'party of 8' are kind of all for one... it may seem odd to ask a couple and not all of them. If you are equally close to each of them it isn't like you can pick them randomly without hurt feelings!

I would have the 2 sil's and the 2 college friends as the wedding party. I would then create a special honor for the other 8. Have them read, seat people, etc... give them special mention in the program and make sure the DJ includes them in some way... announcing them, dedicating a song for them, etc..