Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

Background Info: I had gotten engaged Oct 1st and so far only part of my family knows and part of my FH family knows (not much though). He doesn't want to make phone calls and my family wont shut up when you get them on the phone so I have avoided it.

People are offering us cards/gifts for our engagement and I feel awful because i didn't ask for all of this. Honestly a congrads would of been enough for me to be happy. We do not want a E party, we feel its a bit much (our opinion) especially with having a shower/wedding to get gifts and money. I will not be booking a CH until at least late nov. early dec for a 2008 wedding.

NOW, my Question is should we just send out announcements? If so should we include a picture? I am purchasing thank you notes anyway since I have received some money from my family as is.

Any sugestions would be great! I do work in a printshop and i am a graphic designer/photographer by trade so its not a huge expense i just want to know if its tacky or it sends a message i am asking for a handout with an announcement.

Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

I think most people will find out Word of Mouth.. I didnt make any calls-except to some cousins who I am close with and my friends....our parents are the ones who "spread" the news and those people..spread the news even more and so on...

We got some gifts as well... we did not do an e -party-same reasons as you....
BUT, I also think that announcements (which are cute) sometimes makes the receiver obligated to buy a gift-NOT always, but I know I always feel obligated

do what you feel comfortable with

Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

We told our friends and close family, then it spread through word of mouth that way. People do talk. We did not have an engagement party, but people did send us gifts and money, even though we didn't expect them. We just promptly sent thank you notes to those who sent gifts, and it was that easy.

If someone wants to give you a gift, and they see you in person, just say, " Oh, you didn't have to do that!!" Smile, then say thank you.

It'll be fine. We were just like you, we don't like engagement parties either. To us they are just not important.

Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

I did it with my holiday cards that we were engaged and wedding details were to follow. The following year, I sent STD cards with the holiday card.

Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

We called EVERYONE! And then our parents did a lot of calling too. And most people sent "congratulations" cards with some $$ in it. I think that's typical... don't feel bad about that, accept it graciously and stash it away in the "wedding fund"

congratulations and welcome!

Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

I think if you tell your families and close friends, they will get the word around. If you are more comfortable sending out announcements I think that would be good too.

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Thank you all!! No announcements - just have word of mouth or phone calls. I will just send a card out with a picture to my grandfather who requested it (old fashion hahah).

I will probably send save the dates out anyway with a month and a half or two so if they don't know they will then. Its nice to know other people didn't have a engagement party. Thank you all again.

Jenn

Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

I didn't have an engagement party. We sent out formal printed engagement announcements to family and close friends.

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Posted by nifheim

Thank you all!! No announcements - just have word of mouth or phone calls. I will just send a card out with a picture to my grandfather who requested it (old fashion hahah).

I will probably send save the dates out anyway with a month and a half or two so if they don't know they will then. Its nice to know other people didn't have a engagement party. Thank you all again.

Jenn

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Re: Engagement Announcements, No party - or just phone calls

When should you send out a save the date? When should you send out announcements?

I figured to do the save the date this way we can figure out who is deff. not comming. My FH family is really spread apart and really he hasn't seen them and we figure a lot are not going to show but we want to make sure to make the 80 min for our wedding.

Thanks,
Jenn